A woman on Reddit went seeking advice about what to do when her "friend" asked her to be an "honor personal attendant" for her wedding—a position in the bridal party that basically just means "legal slave."
It might be hard to read this story in between repeatedly rolling your eyes, but if you can focus your gaze for just a few moments, try and read pasucks1's dilemma:
Ok Reddit, this turned into a Rant but I would appreciate your feedback
My friend is getting married 6 months from now, she asked me to be her "honor" personal attendant, I have never heard of this before, as she explained it would be to help her out the day of the wedding ....I said yes, thinking I would be helping her with small stuff, to set up before the wedding (I didn't really look into it for a while, and that's my fault) I am happy for her so I happy to help (to an extend).....well she sent me a list of things she expect me to do two weeks ago, including coordinating stuff on the wedding day, decorating and ushering, which means I'll be "working" for her all day, instead of enjoying the wedding.....According to what I read I am supposed to be at her beck and call before and DURING the wedding and reception.
She has maid of honors, why can't they do these things?! isn't that their job? the more I read about "Personal attendant" the more sounds like I'll be her b*tch during the wedding. She included me on the wedding invitations with that "official" title ....I mean this doesn't sound like an "honor" at all.....why would you ask someone to do all that work without being in the wedding party? It's like I'm not good enough to be a bridesmaid but to work at your wedding for free?...now, I am perfectly fine not being on the wedding party but this personal attendant business sounds demeaning, I rather be just a guest.
I take responsibility for not saying NO and I don't feel like I can back out, so I guess I mainly want to rant, ask if you guys think I'm out of line in my thinking and being offended...If you have a point of view that can help me reframe this in my head, if only to get through it gracefully, I appreciate that too! I will put me best foot forward for her wedding and I will do my best but I will be distancing myself from her after this.
tl;dr: friend asked me to be her bridal attendant, now that I realize the scope of the "honor" (coordinating with vendors, being at her beck and call, USHERING) I am offended....Is this offensive of what?