Here's the secret formula for falling in love: ask each other a series of personal questions and then stare into each other's eyes for four straight minutes. That's it.
On Friday, the Times printed a "Modern Love" column by Mandy Len Catron, who followed these steps to fall in love with the guy she had a crush on. The method is based on the research of psychologist Arthur Aron. At least one couple who participated in Aron's love study, which brought together pairs of heterosexual strangers, got married after following Dr. Aron's instructions.
Here are some of the 36 questions from Aron's study:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?