Kristen Bell has a message for moms under pressure from social media to make their job look easy, breezy and beautiful: that's impossible. This pressure to be perfect is extra true for celeb moms, who are under the most scrutiny. But the idyllic depiction of celebrity motherhood we see online (so many homemade muffins! so much smiling at picnics!) is a myth, according to Ms. Veronica Mars herself.
To put other moms at ease, the 35-year-old actress and mother of two wants the world to know her own experience as a mom is not nearly as glamorous as it can appear on social media.
“In the age of social media, when you can edit your life in beautiful pictures, it’s important to remind moms that all of us are wearing yogurt and all of our hands smell like urine,” the actress said in her cover story for Redbook's August issue. “When you present an unrealistic idea of perfection to people, it’s not fair."
So don't worry, other moms! Being covered in yogurt and having hands that smell like pee is totally normal! (For a parent, at least. The rest of us need a better excuse.)
Bell, who has two daughters—Lincoln, 3, and Delta, 18 months—with husband Dax Shepard, also got real about some of the other challenges of motherhood. Like trying to create healthy boundaries. “Recently, I’ve had an epiphany that if I’m as nice to my daughter as I want to be, she’s not going to respect me,” she told Redbook. “Giving your kids strong boundaries is good for them, because if you just let them do whatever they want, you raise a jerk.”
She also was honest about the fact that her marriage to the 41-year-old Shepard is, like any marriage, not perfect. Both have been open about their personal mental health struggles; Bell has spoken about depression and anxiety, while Shepard has talked about overcoming addiction. In the past, Bell said, they'd get in fights and she "loved a dramatic exit."
"If I could slam a door, I felt so powerful. If I could get in my car and screech away, it was even better," said Bell. "He said to me, 'If we have an issue, you can’t leave. We’re going to talk or I’m not going to do this with you.' I loved him so much that I was like, 'I better get my act together.'"
Stars! They're just like us: slamming doors, reeking of urine, and caked in a thin layer yogurt.