Filming a steamy scene with someone you're in a relationship with seems like it would be an intensely uncomfortable, possibly mortifying experience. Which is why when celebrities do it, people want to know all the details. It's the price of fame and filming a sex scene with your hot spouse who also has fame. Here are nine juicy quotes about what it was like to film a sex scene with a significant other.
1. Angelina Jolie on directing (now ex) husband Brad Pitt while simultaneously co-starring in a sex scene with him for By the Sea:
As a director I had to be very sure, very strong in opinion, stable. My character? She shouldn’t direct anything. Not even traffic. She’s a mess. The duality — being a director, then having to become a person that vulnerable — would often be hard. There’s a whole reel of me calling “Cut!” If a doctor saw it, I’d be put on medication. I’m hysterically crying and then calling “Cut!” or during a sex scene I am calling “Cut!” on Brad. You had to laugh at how bizarre it was.
2. Aubrey Plaza on being directed by boyfriend Jeff Baena during a sex scene with costar Dane DeHaan for zombie film Life After Beth:
The only weird thing was — and it wasn’t even weird, which is why it was weird — was all of the making out with Dane stuff. In my head, I was like, This is gonna be weird, I wonder how this is gonna go. [Jeff and I] never talked about it. We were never like, “Oh, in the scenes where I have to have sex with Dane, is it going to be weird?” And we did one take where Dane and I are really going at it and [Jeff] was like, “Cut.” In my head I was like, Oh my God, he’s gonna be weird about this and everyone was kind of quiet, and he walked over to me and was like, “Do you think you could get more into it and maybe moan a little bit louder and just kind of amp it up?” And I was like, “Copy that, you want me to moan louder? Okay, I can do that for you.” And then Molly [Shannon] and John [C. Reilly] were like, “You guys have a really weird relationship.”’ And later that night I was like, “Is it weird for you to direct me making out with other guys?” And his response was like, “You know my feeling: You’re going to be doing it anyway so I might as well be supervising it,” which I think is a great attitude to have.
3. Married couple Nick Offerman and Megan Mullally on filming a hate sex scene in a diner as their Parks and Recreation characters Ron and Tammy:
N.O.: It was really good therapy, because in any relationship you have love times and you have who-didn’t-do-the-dishes times. We’ve worked together before in different ways, but we’ve never had the opportunity to be a team, and in that episode we were like a two-fisted weapon, battering comedy in the audience’s face.
M.M.: We basically destroyed the diner. We ran the gamut of wild, crazy, exhibitionist sex acts and screaming at the other patrons, throwing things, berating the manager and …
N.O.: We actually tore the table off the wall.
M.M.: That was kind of an accident. [Laughs.] When we screech into the motel parking lot, that was the first shot on the first day, six o’clock on Monday morning. We’re in that car and I was like, “I’m going to throw my bra out the window and take my top off as we run in.” I didn’t care. I didn’t know anybody. It’s not my set.
4. Kate Winslet on being directed by then-husband Sam Mendes in a steamy Revolutionary Road scene, as told by co-star Leonardo DiCaprio:
She was really worried that Sam wasn't bothered by the fact that his wife was making out with another guy right in front of her. I told her it was only acting, but she kept on saying, "This is really weird." When Sam started telling her exactly how to have sex with me she didn't like it at all. She was freaking out because she was supposed to be having sex with her best friend - me - while her husband directed. But I didn't find it weird at all. It didn't bother me, because that's part of acting.
5. Kristen Stewart on filming "grotesquely uncomfortable" vampire love scenes with then-bf Robert Pattinson:
On Twilight, we had to do the most epic sex scene of all time [when Bella Swan finally weds her handsome vampire]. It had to be transcendent and otherworldly, inhuman, better sex than you can possibly ever imagine, and we were like, “Fuck. How do we live up to that?” We were so self-consciously aware of that, me and Rob [Pattinson] and the producers. It was agony. Which sucks, because I wanted it to be so good. Other than that, sex scenes are the same as any other normal scene.
6. Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Philippe, who were married for eight years, on why their kids haven't seen Cruel Intentions:
They don't have any interest in seeing me in movies. It's weird for them. They're like, "This is so weird!" And especially seeing me and their dad having sex. It's so weird. Not interested.
7. Nicole Kidman on filming Eyes Wide Shut with then-husband Tom Cruise and director Stanley Kubrick:
People thought that making the film was the beginning of the end of my marriage, but I don't really think it was. Tom and I were close then, and it was very much the three of us. Onscreen, the husband and wife are at odds, and Stanley wanted to use our marriage as a supposed reality. That was Stanley: He used the movie as provocation, pretending it was our sex life -- which we weren't oblivious to, but obviously it wasn't us. We both decided to dedicate ourselves to a great filmmaker and artist.
Stanley had to coax me into some of the sexuality in the film in the beginning, but we shot things that were a lot more extreme that didn't end up in the movie. I did feel safe -- I never felt it was exploitive or unintelligent. He was very different with women than he was with men. He has daughters, so he was very paternal with me.
8. Anna Paquin on the totally normal experience of filming sex scenes with her actual husband for True Blood.
Maybe it should be weird, simulating sex with your husband in front of people? But it's really not. When it's a love scene with someone you actually love, there's no feeling like, "Can I touch him here? Can I touch him there?" You know what your boundaries are – or what they aren't, I suppose.
9. Andrew Garfield on how "terrifying" it felt to film the romantic scenes in The Amazing Spider-Man with then-girlfriend Emma Stone:
The romantic scenes are free-falling, as they should be. They were more frightening than swinging through the buildings, especially because it’s Emma and she’s terrifying!