When this woman is annoyed with her SIL, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for calling my sister in law a disgusting witch for what she did?'
My brother recommended me this sub. I (22F) have been with my husband Dominic (24M) for 6 years and married for 8 months. Some background info: He has an older sister Juliana (26F) who is very VERY opinionated.
For example, she considers me “Fatty Patty” (her words) (I’m 5’7 and 130lbs). She happily told me that when I was dress shopping. When my sister confronted her Juliana said it was just an opinion and to not take it personally. She also thinks my cat is ugly and so on.
Juliana is marrying her boyfriend of 3 years Jerry (42M). Jerry has three kids from his first marriage: 15F, 10M, and 5F. For some other context: Jerry is Caucasian and his ex wife is Filipino. We are also Caucasian.
Juliana came to my house uninvited the other day ago with her parents to discuss wedding plans. As she was going along, she casually says, “I don’t know how to tell Jerry I don’t want his daughters in my wedding.” I ask what she means.
She then tells me, “Usually mixed kids are beautiful but his youngest daughter is ugly. The oldest is too fat for the type of bridesmaid dress I want. His son is at least cute enough to have in the wedding.” When I tell you I was shocked I WAS SHOCKED.
I honestly saw red and said “They are kids for (f word) sakes. His kids clearly adore you and that’s what you say about them. You are a disgusting (b word)!”
Everyone was dead silent. Juliana then bursted into tears calling me a heartless fat (b word). Their parents followed her and left. Dominic asked what was wrong with me and how dare I disrespect his sister. I should 'STFU.' Are you kidding me?
I asked him if he heard what she said about the kids. Dominic just shrugged it off and said “Well it’s not like she directly said it to the kids.” He has been giving me the silent treatment and says we’ll talk when I apologize.
I left to my brother’s house. Bro agreed with me but his friends said Dominic had a point. My SIL says I’m not wrong but I shouldn’t have stooped to Juliana’s level. AITA?
Let's find out.
brunchbtches writes:
Why are you married to someone that allows his sister to treat you like this?? NTA but girl run. His sister will always come first and always be right. From what I hear your husband hasn’t once defended you against her reign of terror.
LisaBVL writes:
NTA. Your husband is a complete AH for even suggesting that it’s ok to badmouth KIDS whether it’s behind their backs or not. Your SIL and parents are also AHs for the same reason and your brother’s friends too.
What happens when SIL starts the nasty comments directly to the kids’ faces? Because do t fool yourself into thinking that won’t happen. You need to tell the kids’ mother what SIL said and let her decide whether her kids are allowed to be in SIL’s company. Gross.
jasperaddams writes:
NTA. Definitely seems like she does have some sort of insecurity regarding weight to me, 95lbs sounds really underweight for being 5’4. A good friend of mine is 5’2 and has weighed about or less then that at times and even that’s underweight for 5’2.
My friend struggles with ED, sounds like Julianna might struggle with something similar (or i could just be talking out of my ass lol i don’t know you guys)
but no matter what someone is struggling with doesn’t give them a pass to be an a**hole to others, but with that being said maybe just consider that you don’t have the full picture.
I still think you’re justified, but there could be something deeper going on causing her asshole-ness!