When this woman is upset with her SIL, she asks Reddit:
My (24F) dad is pretty well off and own multiple properties in both the country I live in, as well as back in his home country.
Because of this and the fact that my husband and I both have good careers, my SIL has always had a snobby attitude towards us and my side of the family, and tries to mooch off of us at any chance she gets.
When we go out to eat with my husbands side of the family we're expected to pay. Christmas and birthday his side of the family expects 'good gifts' etc.
His sister is currently on her third marriage, and has three children all under the age of 10.
Her and her husband were looking for a place to host their wedding and approached me about using one of my dads properties to host it.
I was very hesitant at first to help her because of the treatment she has given me in the past, but it's my dads property after all so I contacted him to ask him about it.
He said it's my call, but told me to 1) have them sign some type of agreement stating that if any damage is done to the house, they are liable. 2) they are going to be charged a reasonable fee to use the house. We both agreed on $1500, which I believe is VERY reasonable considering this is a massive house.
I told SIL and her husband about this. They asked about a 'family discount', I told them this was a family discount and take it or leave it.
They signed the agreement and payed.
Fast forward 2 day's after the wedding I went over to the house. House is a complete mess.
Bed sheets are stained, a vase destroyed, alcohol bottles floating in the pool etc. I contact my dad to tell him, he tells me to access the damage and see how much it is. It was around $1000 worth of damage. My dad contacts my SIL himself and explains to her the damage and what she owes him.
She loses her shit and starts going off about how this is bullshit, we're family she shouldn't even be charged in the first place, we're so well off we can happily afford to pay for the damages, if she gives him that money they won't be able to afford to go on a honey moon etc etc.
She then calls me up to harrass me and start's calling me a 'b*tch who thinks she's too good for everyone' and says 'it's a wedding what do you expect? Sorry my people know how to have a good time'.
My dad gives her 30 days to pay (she was notified about this), 30 days comes and no payment. So my dad get his lawyer to contact SIL explaining how she's being taken to court for not paying.
Her and my MIL have been contacting my husband non stop trying to get him to give her the money. He refuses because he agrees that what she did was irresponsible and wrong.
I had to block MIL and SIL after they sent me nasty messages and even tried to show up at my house to 'talk to me'.
I feel bad that my husbands relationship with his mom and sister is going to be ruined over $1000. But I feel like what she did was wrong and she wasn't even sorry about it. AITA?
epiccheater66 writes:
NTA. Your SIL fucked around and she found out. Good life lesson for her. Sucks for your husband, but it also shows him how little regard his family has for him.
mythicalPP writes:
NTA She broke your shit and is expecting you to pay because you have more money than her. IDC if shes family or not that is like me straight up just crashing my uncle's car he let me borrow cause I thought it would be fun and then saying ahh whatever you can afford it.
adhdlunatic6 writes:
NTA ur SIL and her husband signed to contract saying that if anything was damaged they would pay and yes its a wedding but no one is that chaotic at a wedding. Good on u and ur dad for taking them to court. Let us know how it goes with court if you can.