Man tells sister's hubby that his book is 'inappropriate' and it's offending his GF.
When this man is annoyed with his BIL, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for asking my sister to tell her husband to stop bringing his weird book while visiting?'
My M28 brother inlaw LUKE M31 (my sister's husband) is a devout christian. He's the quiet, calm and most respectful person in the entire family. but his only issue is that he acts introvert and gets offended easily.
In other words he's socially awkward if you will.
That's fine no issue here, he clearly isn't fan of socializing and deals with this pressure by bringing his pocket Bible (or compact Bible) to read at the corner of the room while we all talk and socialize. this happens at my mom's house by the way.
I started bringing my girlfriend who's an atheist (meaning she doesnt believe or follow any religion) to my mom's house to attend family functions. She noticed Luke sitting there reading from his pocket Bible and made few comments about him to my sister.
For some reason my sister thought that my girlfriend has an issue with Luke but after talking to my girlfriend she told me it wasn't about Luke, it's the way he sits there with the Bible on display that made her feel uncomfortable.
She refused to elaborate and Last week she got into an argument with my sister and after talking to both of them, turns out my girlfriend asked my sister to tell Luke to stop showing his Bible whenever she is around.
I tried to calm them both down but my girlfriend said she will no longer come over if Luke doesn't stop. I tried to talk to my sister to reach a compromise but she told my girlfriend to go f herself.
Ngl that set me off and I told my sister that Luke's choosing the wrong to time to read from his Bible. also told her to tell him to leave it at home or the car. She called me and my girlfriend entitled, controlling assholes then got mom involved.
Mom took her side and told me I don't get to dictate how her guests behave at her house, then said that me and my girlfriend are guests ourselves and should show some respect.
I asked her about the 'respect' Luke was showing by sitting in the corner reading and ignoring everyone in the room. Mom said at least he's not hurting anyone or harassing anyone in the house.
We argued some and I left with my girlfriend. Now my stepdad wants me to be the one to apologize to Luke then my sister then mom for causing a scene at her house. But I haven't called or anything yet. AITA? my intention was to make sure my girlfriend's concerns were heard and that she felt comfortable at my mom's house.
Let's do it.
earlylight84 writes:
YTA and your girlfriend is a bigger one. I get that it's odd behavior from a guest, but like you said, he's socially awkward and seemingly doing his best to still attend family functions.
The audacity to think you could ban it from SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE is absolutely bonkers. If your girlfriend can't handle being in the presence of a book she doesn't like, she needs better coping skills, and she needs to not go out in public until she gets them.
zorgas writes:
YTA. As a fellow atheist: let the socially insecure man use his comfort blanket. if he was neurodivergent she wouldn't care if he sat in the corner with a fidget toy or other stim. Decide between you and your girlfriend this is his blanky for when he can't cope with society. Shrug.
If he starts pointing at her and reading weirdo verses then you actually have a problem... But the man is reading fiction in a corner. Let him be.
ladynemesis writes:
As a fellow atheist I think it would be different if the man sat there in a corner reading out loud, slapping the bible in people's faces and told them they go to hell. But if he sits there quietly in the corner with his bible ... Yeah I fully agree with you. OP - YTA.