Dad furious with GF for defying his parenting rules; says, 'my daughter could've died.'
When this single dad is upset with his GF, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for telling my GF not to make parental decisions for my daughter?'
Gf not fc* typo I 29m have a 6 year old daughter. Her mother has been in and out of jail since my daughter was a year old and has no custody or parental rights.I’ve been dating my girlfriend27 for 2 years, and we recently got a place together for the first time, been living together for about 2 months. My gf has 2 kids, 8m and 5m.
In ways I’m extra cautious with My daughter she’s been through a lot and also has health issues, has very bad asthma. When it’s cold sometimes I let my daughter stay home from school so it doesn’t cause a flare up.
The other morning was one of these mornings. I told my gf to just let her stay home and I’d call the school, I had to work so she was putting the kids on the bus. She did the exact opposite, she thought putting long sleeves+ sweater+ jacket, would make her warm enough to go and sent her in, Without her inhaler. Which like I said resulted in a flare up.
Luckily it was at school and they have her back up inhaler there. I got a call 2 hours later saying my daughter has had an asthma attack and it was under control but I could come get her if I’d like.
I had no idea she even went to school. I immediately called my girlfriend and asked her what she was thinking and her response was, “bc Renee stayed home from school, the boys wanted to too, and it wasn’t fair so I made her go.
The cold isn’t going to kill her.” This made me explode and I told how my daughter had a asthma attack and then I said, “Don’t make parental decisions for my daughter.”
She got upset and called me an AH and said how are we suppose to be together if she can’t make decisions for my kid and how I was babying my daughter and keeps need to go to school even if it’s cold.
I’m honestly considering breaking up with her. She knows how bad my daughters asthma is and was neglectful. I’m planning on taking my daughter and staying somewhere else tonight. I don’t think I’m the AH, she fully ignored and did the opposite of what I said to do.
Let's find out.
hope141 writes:
NTA. If the school didn't have her backup inhaler, you could've lost your daughter! Break up with the woman who doesn't understand boundaries are there for a reason and every child cannot be treated equally specially if the child has something fatal.
orangecubit writes:
NTA - but an asthma attack literally could kill her. The saddest thing I’ve ever been witness to in my life was a funeral for a 10 year old boy who died from an asthma attack.
If you can’t trust your girlfriend with your child’s health then you can’t trust your girlfriend. The fact she is still minimizing the issue says that she still doesn’t understand and would do it again if given the chance.
oldcalligrapher writes:
NTA - while I understand eventually you both would need to work as a unit her statement of 'the cold won't kill her' just goes to show how little she knows about your daughter and her asthma....if the school didn't have a back up inhaler the cold quite literally could have killed her if medical intervention didn't happen in time.