DIL won't eat MIL's food for 'pregnant reasons,' MIL says 'I know the truth, b*tch.'
When this woman is annoyed with her MIL, she asks Reddit:
'AITA For Telling My Mother In Law what I think of her food?'
My husband (23) and I (21) both come form different cultures for example I am actually an immigrat and only moved to America when I was just 12 years old.
There is alot of things my husband and his family does differently than mine, things that I'm not quite accustomed to.
One being how they prepare and season their food, to me its just super bland and the stuff the choose of food combinations just doesn't seem to go together.
For example My mil > (mother in law) puts mayo on literally everything I even seen her make a tortilla pizza as mayo as her base which she offered to me.
Each time she offers me food I always make up some kinda excuse to avoid eating it and try to be as polite as possible about it.
But unfortunately for me after I invited her to dinner she felt compelled to do the same for me even when I told her it's not necessary.
The next day after the dinner we had together she started making plans with my husband, when my husband brought it up to me I told him I really didn't want to go to which he replied my mom's food is not that bad could you please just deal with it for one day.
Now in most cases I would've just suck it up un order to maintain a good relationship with my mil but I'm pregnant in my first trimester and am feeling extra nauseous, I honestly don't think I'd be able to keep the food down in the condition I'm in.
My husband grew up eating her good which is maybe why he doesn't think it's that bad, I mean even my family thinks so when my mom invited her over for a family get together she brought some pasta which sauce tasted like a whole package of ketchup was dump in it.
I ended up vanting to my sisters and mom about the issue and they all give me the advice to just be honest and my mom even said that if I don't be honest now it's something I'll have to deal with for the rest of my life.
So I decided to call her and express to her that I'm not accustomed to eating the type of foods she is use to making and since I'm pregnant it'll be really hard for me to swallow because of my nausea, I even offered to teach her the recipes from my homeland that she seemed to really enjoy.
It didn't go to well she was really offended and told me that she'll never cook for my ungrateful b*tch ass again and told my husband.
My husband is really disappointed in me because he felt like I should've just pretended to keep the peace and is upset that now my mil doesn't even want to invite me over again.
I feel super bad now and seriously want to know if I'm the asshole in this situation or if I was being too mean or disrespectful.
Am I in the wrong?
Let's find out.
duckieshoes77 writes:
I mean, you called her up to tell her that her food sucks. You wouldn’t be offended if she did the same thing to you? If she was like “the food you make is really unfamiliar and I honestly can’t stomach it at all” wouldn’t you be offended too? I would be.
Soft YTA. No, you don’t need to eat her food. You don’t have to like her food. But calling her up to tell her how you literally cannot imagine trying to choke down her food is…pretty rude.
outrageouslypenguin writes:
YTA. You don’t call someone up and tell them you don’t like the food they cook for you. You just don’t. If you’re pregnant you can say you’re nauseous the night of the dinner and just eat very little.
But it’s just basic manners when you’re being hosted to pretend the food is good. Yes, you might have to ‘deal with this the rest of your life’— who cares? Occasional meals you don’t like are not the end of the world.