Man tells GF she 'ruined' his special homemade dinner; she says 'relax.' AITA?
When this woman is upset with her boyfriend, she asks Reddit:
"AITA for allegedly ruining a dinner my boyfriend made for us?"
I(24F) have been dating Jay(28M) for four months. He is handsome, smart, funny, well-educated, has an awesome job, and is a sweetheart.
Sunday he had a whole day planned for us. We were going to walk a nature trail and then go back to his place for dinner he was making. I was so excited because it was going to be the first time I'd be at his house. Since we were hiking he said I could bring my dog Shelby with us.
He made us a roast and some vegetables for dinner. I finished my plate before Jay did and took it to the kitchen. There was still about half the roast left and it was close to Shelby's dinner time so I took half of the half of roast and some still raw vegetables from the fridge to put on a plate for Shelby.
I was carrying the plate to the back door with Shelby to feed her outside and Jay asked me what I was doing. I told him feeding Shelby. Jay said something like 'Well that's not dog food.' Jay knows I mainly feed Shelby a raw diet.
I opened the door to put the plate down for Shelby and Jay got up, took the plate away from her, went to the kitchen and came back with it wrapped up in tinfoil and told me to leave.
His excuse was that he made dinner for me and him, not me, him, and my dog and that I should've asked before I helped myself since he would've used his leftovers. I did leave but not before telling him that he made that meal for us so I could do with some of it as I pleased and he knew damn well how I feed Shelby.
I tried talking to my friend about it later that night but she said Jay was right to be upset but this friend has never really approved of how I treat my own dog so I feel like she was probably a bit biased and the wrong person to ask. AITA for just feeding my dog like I normally would?
Let's find out.
hewhoisright writes:
Yes, YTA.Your (now ex–) boyfriend made a special meal for you. You took a large hunk of that special meal and gave it to your dog. Not only that, but you did so knowing it would upset your (now ex–) boyfriend. You should have brought dog food to feed Shelby.
You should not have fed Shelby with people food, and you should particularly not have fed your dog with the special dinner your (now ex–) boyfriend prepared for you. It is wholly irrelevant that 'Jay knows [you] mainly feed Shelby a raw diet.'
Also, the title of your post is misleading. Table scraps are what's leftover on your plate after you finish eating. They are not a quarter of the roast your boyfriend prepared.
rdelenix writes:
YTA for feeding your dog a cooked and seasoned roast, OP! There's feeding raw, and then there's feeding something that was seasoned for humans. On top of everything else, don't claim you 'feed raw' and then tell us you are feeding your dog human-seasoned meat and vegetables. Jeez.
ratio99944 writes:
YTA, a quarter of a roast is not 'table scraps'. How is the fact that you mainly feed your dog a raw diet at all relevant? Also holy entitlement batman at 'You made that dinner for me so I can do with it as I please!' - by that logic it would have been perfectly acceptable to flush it down the toilet.