When this husband doesn't know if he took things too far, he asks Reddit:
My wife, my mom, and I have a huge point of contention when it comes to visits. We live about a seven hour plane ride away from my mom and there hasn't been a single visit in five years.
My wife and my mom never had a great relationship. My wife even calls her her "nemesis." It wasn't too terrible but just very different people and they get on each other's nerves, so my wife doesn't want her to stay in the house.
It makes me sad but my wife feels the home needs to be a sanctuary and no one who upsets her should be allowed to stay in her sanctuary, and I chose to support that. Her ideal visit would be my mom staying at a hotel and having designated visiting times.