Man calls brother and SIL 'bad houseguests' after they 'disrespect' his wife's rules.
When this man is concerned about hosting his brother and SIL, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for calling my brother & SIL rude guests after they defied my wife's wishes?'
My brother & SIL moved in temporarily. They're staying in the guests room. So far we've been on the same page concerning all things except the decorative pillows.
My wife loves adding decorative pillows on beds, and she did the same with the guests bedroom. She did it to make the room look better and also it's her preference.
She came to me complaining about seeing the decorative pillows in the guests room being put on the floor and not being put on bed during the day.
I went to talk with my brother and he explained that SIL was tired of having to move the (7 pillows in total) pillows before using tthe bed.
I explained how my wife finds this disrespectful but He thought it was no big deal and that my wife was being a little too obssessed especially since SIL is pregnant and can't put the pillows back every time.
We had a fight and I ended up calling him & SIL 'rude guests' because of it. He & SIL got offended and there was tension in the house over it.
My wife isn't speaking to them, and they aren't speaking to me. AITA? Maybe my wife overreacted, Maybe I shouldnt have called them that but it is what it is so....
Let's find out if OP is TA.
realstareyes writes:
YTA. You and your wife are terrible hosts. They‘re sleeping in that room and it doesn’t matter whether they put the pillows back onto the bed or not. Your wife just wanted to be petty and you jumped onto the bandwagon. Congrats.
doyouhaveanyidea67 writes:
These people should never have house guests. They escalated decorative pillow placement to a huge fight?
But it's not really about the pillows, is it. If it were about the pillows, you or your wife would have enquired of your guests as to whether they would prefer the pillows be removed from the room.
I personally hate the annoyance of decorative pillows on the bed and having to remove/move back.
OP, does this have something to do with your SIL being pregnant? Have you guys been trying, unsuccessfully? Because freaking out over pillows is weird. In any case, YTA.
mkknightley writes:
YTA. They moved in temporarily? Tell your wife to gtfo of their personal space. That's their room for the duration of their stay as long as they don't damage it.
If your wife is SEEING the pillows on the floor she's either A) snooping in other adults' space where she shouldn't be, B) was invited into another adults' space and should politely ignore their comfort practices, or C) walked by and glanced in to notice something in another adult's space that's none of her business.
You and your wife are awful hosts and pretty disrespectful people, tbh.
Also, your wife is wrong. Decorative pillows look bad, take up space, and are generally liked by people with bad taste who don't know how to make and decorate a bed properly. They're just filler used by amateurs.