When this husband makes a bit of an insane request, he asks Reddit:
My (34m) good friend (27m) is on the spectrum. I don’t know if how I’m speaking about this will come across as offensive, but he’s on the less severe side of things.
He’s verbal and can read social cues decently well. The only “tells” are his\stims (he rocks almost constantly if he’s sitting still, a few verbal stims, etc.) and his aversion of a few sensory related things.
It’s not something he shares with a lot of people. He got a diagnosis later in life since his parents just thought he was a weird kid while he was growing up.
Him confiding in me about this didn’t change anything between us, but some of the stories he has shared broke my heart a little and have made me feel more protective of him.