Man feeds his husband an 'alternative' lasagna, hubby says, 'you tricked me.'
When this husband feels guilty about what he did, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for tricking my partner into eating an alternative lasagna?'
So, here's the deal: I (M43) have been vegan for about a year now and my husband (M48) is a meat-and-potatoes kind of person.
He loves his steak and bacon and generally isn't too interested in trying vegan options.
However, I've been trying to get him to at least consider eating more plant-based meals for the sake of his health.
I get worried for him sometimes because he is very fat and his BMI is also quite high.
I've been trying to cook healthy meals for him, encouraging him to exercise, and getting creative with the dishes I make, but my partner just doesn't seem interested.
That's why, last Saturday night, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I made a delicious vegan lasagna for dinner, not mentioning to my partner that it was completely plant-based.
To my surprise, my partner loved the lasagna and even asked for seconds. It wasn't until after dinner that I let it slip that the dish was vegan and my partner was less than pleased.
I defended my decision by telling them that I've been worried for their health and want them to get skinnier and be better, but my partner said it was very immature of me and I could have talked to him directly. AITA?
Let's find out.
laurajodonnel writes:
I fail to see how tricking him into eating something vegan is supposed to improve his health. Just because something is vegan it doesn't make it healthier than non-vegan options. Oreos are vegan. ETA: ESH.
This 100%. My doctor had me change my diet to whole food plant based for health reasons.
She highly discouraged going vegan because there are lots of unhealthy, processed foods that are labeled vegan - which those foods are vegan. But just because something is vegan does not necessarily mean it is healthier.
Cutting out refined flours, refined sugars and processed foods are the real key to eating healthy.
jwavout76 writes:
NTA. He watched you eat the lasagna, did he not? He knows you're vegan. He should have connected the dots on his own if he really cared that much.
aitchbee writes:
YTA. Not for 'tricking' him into eating a vegan meal, non-vegans don't need meat/dairy at EVERY meal and it's weird and immature to be offended by the idea of eating and enjoying a vegan lasagna.
YTA for your approach to his weight and health. Eating vegan food won't make him thinner or healthier, necessarily. And you can't trick or force anyone into getting thinner or healthier.
He's an adult and he's right - you should have talked to him directly and tricking anyone into eating anything is pretty immature.
Treat your partner like an adult and have a serious conversation about his weight, OR leave him and his diet alone.