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I need to know if IATA or if this is a hill I should die on. My (34M) wife's (34F Anna) always bragging about what a great baker her grandmother, Edna, is.
She used to own an award winning bakery. We were at my wife late aunt Helen's wake. It was a small gathering, Edna brought along what was apparently Helens favourite pie that Edna made. It was a chocolate pie.
Anna offered me a slice and I turned it down, as I am not a fan of such food, however Anna insisted and Edna chimed in. I politely accepted a slice. Turns out Edna makes the best chocolate pie you have ever had.
Ever. It's so decadent. I can see why it was Aunt Helen's favourite. I made a sound to express how delicious I found the pie to be, however Edna just stared. I didn't think much of it as we are at a wake/funeral and it's not a joyful event.
I then asked my wife if it would be okay if I tried some of the whipped cream to enjoy with the pie , she silently passed me the cream. I know I made another sound, but it was just a nice 'mmm' sound- again to show my pleasure.
Edna soon left the table and my wife followed. I assumed for grieving reasons.
On the car ride home my wife told me how I made her 94year old grandmother so uncomfortable as I was moaning loudly and repeatedly at the table. My wife said it was over the top and her grandmother called it 'vulgar'.
I told my wife I was not moaning sexually over the pie, however she did not believe me as she said I moaned harder after she passed me the whipped cream and I made a scene at the wake, moaning 'sensually' over chocolate pie and whipped cream while licking my lips and fingers (I'm sorry, is this a crime?).
As she was telling me this she got a text from her brother apparently joking about the 'erotic pie', and it made her more pissed at me.
I honestly don't see how IATA or if she is just grieving and making up reasons to fight.
I know I made some sounds, but they were 'mmmm' sounds you make when something is delicious, it was a moan to express pleasure of the pie, clearly not to indicate my arousal, I was not aroused by the pie. AITA here? Should I just apologise?
NTA. I see no problem here, assuming that the pie gave its consent.
Giving a brief “Mmm” wouldn’t have bothered me, but a grownup licking their fingers while at a funeral after-event, among in-laws he doesn’t know too well — heck, in any kind of a public setting — is kind of childishly gross. OP is YTA.
YTA for digging in.
Apparently it was enough for 3 different people to notice and comment on at a wake.
You comment here about 2 different queues that something you were doing was off but you just ignored it and assumed grieving. getting looks, them leaving, everyone goes quiet.
Maybe if this were a regular dinner where someone introduced you to a family recipe, but it was a funeral and there's an extra expectation that it's not about you and you need to read the room you are in.