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<p>When this husband is upset with his wife, he asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10w3lzx/aita_for_making_my_pregnant_wife_cry_by_calling/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for making my pregnant wife cry by calling her less of a person?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>This all boils down to my wife&#39;s father. I have a six year old son that started living with me as his primary guardian when he was three and his mom went back to school.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I met my wife through work, and I also met her father, who worked at the same company in a higher role than both of us. My wife knew I had a son, but I said I wouldn&#39;t introduce them unless we became a serious couple, because that wouldn&#39;t be fair to him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When my wife did meet my son, they got along really well. I invited her and her father over for dinner one night, and her father met my son for the first time.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He was weird and awkward around my son and made strange comments about his appearance (his mom is black). I confronted him after the dinner, and he made some pretty pathetic excuses.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>After that I asked him to not contact me outside of work matters and asked her for space.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A couple weeks later, my wife told me she had completely cut her father off for his beliefs. Our relationship became stronger than ever. When we got engaged she said she didn&#39;t want her father at the wedding. We ended up both transferring to other companies. As far as I knew he was gone from both of our lives for good.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My wife is pregnant and due in a month. She has already started maternity leave and has been looking for a new job to start after maternity leave because she doesn&#39;t want to stay at her current company.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Yesterday she sat me down and told me her dad got her an interview for a job at our old company. She also told me she has been talking to him for a couple months and wants to know how I would feel about him knowing our future child.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told her the truth. I told her I felt betrayed and I felt like she betrayed my son, who she claimed to think of as her son as well. I told her that she would even ask me that makes her less of a person in my eyes.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She started crying and asked me what kind of insensitive jerk would call the woman pregnant with his kid less of a person. I told her that was how I felt, and although the language was harsh, I felt it matched what she was asking for.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After cooling off, I&#39;m now unsure if my word choice was warranted and wondering if I was an asshole for speaking to her that way while she is pregnant and more emotionally vulnerable.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I could have just said I wasn&#39;t okay with what she was proposing without insulting her character. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/UteLawyer/" target="_blank">utelawyer</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I am honestly surprised so many comments are calling OP an asshole. I thought this would be a runaway NTA verdict. The sense of betrayal must run deep.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He just found that his wife has been talking to his racist father-in-law for months. OP may not have used the best words, but that pales in comparison to the level of betrayal he just experienced.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Own-Ad-6180/" target="_blank">ownad6180</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>She wants your future kid to have a relationship with a racist that while having a black stepson and for all effects brother of her son.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>1- she doesn&rsquo;t care about educating your kid as a non racist person. And wants him to have a relationship with someone who behaved and made comments that were offensive.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>2- went behind your back, breaking your trust, and therefore not protect your family from aggression.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>3- does she really cares about your son? Or does she tolerates it because she wants to be with you? Because this is not how one behaves when she loves and wants to protect someone who is dear to them. RED FLAG!!!!!seriously.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My advice is to go to a marriage counselor and expose your points and hurt. A non white one at that. Racist people wear white coats too.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A black woman as a counselor from my experience this is the best you can do for your son and yourself. Boundaries were crossed and more are clearly to come.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As well as future problems as to why explain that your kid has a grandpa that he doesn&rsquo;t!!!!</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Own-Whereas-7420/" target="_blank">ownwhearas78</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>ESH. I get you, i&rsquo;d be mad too. I mean what would happen down the line when her father is in the presence of both kids, but treats your son differently?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I feel like your feelings of betrayal are valid at this moment, but I do think that it was an asshole move to call her less of a person. It&rsquo;s her father and I get wanting to have him back in her life.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You both could&rsquo;ve had a more constructive conversation about this, regarding expectations moving forward and her dad&rsquo;s behavior towards both kids.</p> </blockquote><h2>Looks like the jury&#39;s out on this one. Is OP TA? What do YOU think?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man tells pregnant wife, 'if you work at your dad's company you will betray my son.'

When this husband is upset with his wife, he asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for making my pregnant wife cry by calling her less of a person?&quot; This all boils down to my wife&#39;s father. I have a six year old son that started living with me as his primary guardian when he was three and his mom went back to school.  I met my wife through work, and I also met her father, who worked at the same company in a higher role than both of us. My wife knew I had a son, but I said I wouldn&#39;t introduce them unless we became a serious couple, because that wouldn&#39;t be fair to him.  When my wife did meet my son, they got along really well. I invited her and her father over for dinner one night, and her father met my son for the first time.  He was weird and awkward around my son and made strange comments about his appearance (his mom is black). I confronted him after the dinner, and he made some pretty pathetic excuses.  After that I asked him to not contact me outside of work matters and asked her for space.  A couple weeks later, my wife told me she had completely cut her father off for his beliefs. Our relationship became stronger than ever. When we got engaged she said she didn&#39;t want her father at the wedding. We ended up both transferring to other companies. As far as I knew he was gone from both of our lives for good.  My wife is pregnant and due in a month. She has already started maternity leave and has been looking for a new job to start after maternity leave because she doesn&#39;t want to stay at her current company.  Yesterday she sat me down and told me her dad got her an interview for a job at our old company. She also told me she has been talking to him for a couple months and wants to know how I would feel about him knowing our future child.  I told her the truth. I told her I felt betrayed and I felt like she betrayed my son, who she claimed to think of as her son as well. I told her that she would even ask me that makes her less of a person in my eyes.  She started crying and asked me what kind of insensitive jerk would call the woman pregnant with his kid less of a person. I told her that was how I felt, and although the language was harsh, I felt it matched what she was asking for.  After cooling off, I&#39;m now unsure if my word choice was warranted and wondering if I was an asshole for speaking to her that way while she is pregnant and more emotionally vulnerable.  I could have just said I wasn&#39;t okay with what she was proposing without insulting her character. AITA? Let&#39;s find out.utelawyer writes: I am honestly surprised so many comments are calling OP an asshole. I thought this would be a runaway NTA verdict. The sense of betrayal must run deep.  He just found that his wife has been talking to his racist father-in-law for months. OP may not have used the best words, but that pales in comparison to the level of betrayal he just experienced. ownad6180 writes: She wants your future kid to have a relationship with a racist that while having a black stepson and for all effects brother of her son.  1- she doesn&rsquo;t care about educating your kid as a non racist person. And wants him to have a relationship with someone who behaved and made comments that were offensive.  2- went behind your back, breaking your trust, and therefore not protect your family from aggression.  3- does she really cares about your son? Or does she tolerates it because she wants to be with you? Because this is not how one behaves when she loves and wants to protect someone who is dear to them. RED FLAG!!!!!seriously.  My advice is to go to a marriage counselor and expose your points and hurt. A non white one at that. Racist people wear white coats too.  A black woman as a counselor from my experience this is the best you can do for your son and yourself. Boundaries were crossed and more are clearly to come.  As well as future problems as to why explain that your kid has a grandpa that he doesn&rsquo;t!!!! ownwhearas78 writes: ESH. I get you, i&rsquo;d be mad too. I mean what would happen down the line when her father is in the presence of both kids, but treats your son differently?  I feel like your feelings of betrayal are valid at this moment, but I do think that it was an asshole move to call her less of a person. It&rsquo;s her father and I get wanting to have him back in her life.  You both could&rsquo;ve had a more constructive conversation about this, regarding expectations moving forward and her dad&rsquo;s behavior towards both kids. Looks like the jury&#39;s out on this one. Is OP TA? What do YOU think?

When this husband is upset with his wife, he asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for making my pregnant wife cry by calling her less of a person?&quot;   This all boils down to my wife&#39;s father. I have a six year old son that started living with...