Mom kicks MIL out of house after she MIL 'forces' daughter to eat something.
When this mom is angry with her MIL, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for kicking out my MIL for forcing my child to eat something?'
My husband and I have a daughter (10F) and she HATES mushrooms. The taste, texture and smell of them she cannot stand. She's not a picky eater by any means, but just doesn't like mushrooms.
My mil lives with us and helps us by watching my daughter when she gets home from school. She makes dinner the nights we're working late for our daughter, as mil loves to cook so she ensured us that it would be no trouble for her to make our daughter dinner most nights.
My husband and I both work in the medical field, so we have crazy unpredictable schedules and are not home most nights to make dinner.
Last night my husband and I both had the night off work and were making dinner together, mil went out for dinner with friends, Susie came to us crying saying how she is sick and tired of being starved most nights and if we can please make her dinners instead of MIL.
It's very public knowledge that Susie doesn't like mushrooms, but yet for the past few weeks every SINGLE dish that my mil has made for Susie has had the main component of mushrooms in it. Portobello mushroom burgers, mushroom risotto, mushroom pasta etc.
These dishes aren't made when either myself or my husband are around, but when we aren't that's all Susie is served to eat. She told us that if she politely refuses to eat these dishes, my mil will tell her to 'suit herself but she's not getting any other food the rest of the night' and that she 'has to outgrow this stupid mushroom hatred'.
Both my husband and I were extremely upset that our child is going to bed hungry every night due to my mil only making her dinners with the ONE ingredient she doesn't like and not allowing her to eat anything else.
When MIL got home we confronted her about this. She started going off saying that Susie needs to grow up and get over this stupid hatred of mushrooms. I told her that she's essentially starving her granddaughter.
She disagreed and said it's tough love. She then proceeded to call me and shit mother for prioritizing my career over my child and helping her get over this dislike towards a vegetable.
I told her to get out of my house because she will not disrespect me like that. She ended up leaving but had some nasty thing's to say to me on the way out.
My husband is 100% on my side and feels that his mother is out of line. We've been getting non stop messages from my 2 SIL's and my MIL calling us every name in the book for kicking her out and that my daughter needs to get over herself. AITA?
Let's find out.
pokerquilter writes:
NTA OP. I despise mushrooms. Texture is gross, and they taste like dirt to me. One year, I decided to try foods I professed to dislike. Mushrooms- raw, cooked, stuffed were a no go. I will eat well cooked onions (never raw).
I love roasted red peppers. And jalapenos (raw, cooked, or pickled is another fave) Strong no to any other raw peppers. Starving a kid cause she doesn't like mushrooms is utterly ridiculous.
whatthefox writes:
NTA.Your MIL is deliberately tormenting your child. She knows what she's doing is wrong because she doesn't do it when you or your husband are around. It's not 'tough love', it's child abuse and every day you allow her to watch your child in your absence is another opportunity for that abuse to continue.
She's being doing this for weeks? You should have kicked her out weeks ago. Your daughter isn't getting the food she needs.
She's a child, her body needs to grow, childhood malnutrition can have permanent deleterious effects: loss of stature, lesser educational attainment, lower lifetime earnings. Take action NOW.
hotarutomato writes:
NTA. MIL was wrong and inappropriate. And, if I were you, I would sit your daughter down and try to discover if MIL used 'tough love' in other circumstances with her.