Woman drops out at MOH in older sister's wedding, says, 'she's acting like a child.'
When this woman is concerned about her sister's wedding, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for dropping out as MOH in my older sister’s wedding?'
Backstory: I (23f) have 2 sisters, Jenna (25), Summer (19) and a brother, Jason (22). My parents also took in a family member, Rachel (11) a few months ago.
Rachel has been through some shit. She doesn’t talk, she never lets go of this little stuffed elephant, and she follows my mom everywhere.
She can’t go to school yet because my mom and her therapist agree that it would be too much for her. Rachel is the sweetest kid ever, though.
She’s always down to cuddle and watch a Disney movie and she has the cutest smile. I was even allowed to touch her elephant the other day.
Jenna has always been a pretty difficult person. She hasn’t lived at home in a while. She moved out for college, moved back home for a few months, then moved in with her boyfriend, now fiancé.
My parents have been using her room as a guest room but they never changed anything about it. Rachel has also been staying there.
My parents are going to adopt Rachel and they want to turn Jenna’s old room into Rachel’s new room.
They told Jenna they’re turning her old room into Rachel’s room so she needs to come and go through her stuff and decide what she wants to keep and what she wants to donate/throw away.
Jenna said they can find another place to put Rachel and she’s not giving up her room. My parents said they already made their decision and Jenna made an ultimatum: either our parents keep her room the way it is or she goes NC.
My dad and I packed all of Jenna’s stuff into boxes and put it in an empty garage. We painted Rachel’s new room, put together furniture, and filled the closet with new clothes and toys.
We even built in a snack bar. Rachel loves it. She’s starting to stay in her room more (before she’d only go in her room if she needed to change or sleep) and I’m pretty sure I heard her talking to her elephant. Not as good as talking to a person but we’ll take it.
The problem is, now Jenna and my parents are in a huge fight. Jenna went NC and uninvited my parents from her wedding.
In retaliation, my parents announced that they wouldn’t pay for half of the wedding anymore and they’re not going to pay the down payment on a house for Jenna and her fiancé (their wedding present).
This has caused Jenna to call them abusive and neglectful to anyone that’ll listen.
I was supposed to be her MOH but I can’t believe she’s acting like this so I dropped out of the wedding party. Now Jenna’s even madder and her fiancé is saying the entire family is being cruel to her. AITA?
Let's find out.
donciccio writes:
NTA - Jenna's reaction to all of this is massively out of proportion and entitled. But I am curious - was there any other good option for Rachel's room?
crystallz20000 writes:
NTA. OP, if I were you I would say to your sister (or text it), 'You're my sister and I love you, but your cruel treatment toward a child has made me see you in a new life.
I am so disappointed that you can't see how an empty room should be used for the child who lives in the house full time.
If you've decided to make a room you don't use as the hill to die on, then that's your choice, but I will never see you the same way again. I will be sad to not be able to attend your wedding, along with mom, and dad, but I can live with it. I hope you can.'
Just say it all clearly, because unless your sister is a monster, I think she's somehow forgotten the world doesn't revolve around her and may one day have an epiphany. Either way, I'd tell your parents not to help her with her house or wedding. That ship should have sailed.
nykh87 writes:
NTA, you're standing by your family. wow your sister is entitled. She thinks your parents are neglectful for not buying her a house or paying for her wedding and giving her unused bedroom to another child when she chose to go NC?
Did they take away her pony and diamond earrings too? You and your parents sound like lovely people, Rachel deserves to have the kindness and stability you're all offering.