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<p>When this new mom is concerned that her in-laws are judging her, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ucbdu0/aita_for_serving_my_husbands_family_mac_n_cheese/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for serving my husband&#39;s family a &#39;disrespectful&#39; dinner?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks ago. The baby is health (Thank God) but I&#39;m exhausted, haven&#39;t fixed my hair, barely able to shower and can not sleep.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My husband&#39;s family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby. I tried to hold them off as much as I could but yesterday, I was surprised to find them standing on the porch. turns out hubby invited them for dinner.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was embarrassed and felt like I wasn&#39;t ready for visitors (judgemental ones at that 😉) cause the house was a M.E.S.S y&#39;all. Anyways, my husband sat with them while I fed my son then later I asked my husband if we should order take out for dinner.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He said &quot;NO&quot; because his parents would find this rude and unwelcoming. He suggested that I go inside the kitchen and prepare something, anything long as it&#39;s &quot;homemade&quot;. I said fine then went and made some Mac N cheese. The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Once I served the family, My husband&#39;s mom looked at me and was appalled. I noticed something was wrong. She asked if I really found it &quot;appropriate&quot; to serve her and the family Mac N cheese.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I asked why not and she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong when it comes to hosting. I said excuse me?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Who said I signed up to host an expected visit from them and she took it as in I didn&#39;t want them there. her husband said they were just there to finally see the baby that I kept them from seeing for an entire month. that&#39;s a whole month of his life they &quot;missed&quot; out on.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We had an argument and they decided to go home. My husband said that deciding to serve his family Mac N cheese was more offensive then serving them nothing at all. I told him I was too exhausted to cook their &quot;traditional feasts&quot; that I was forced to learn from his mom.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He took offense and said that I was being mean and disrespectful towards not only his family but his culture. I went inside the bedroom to stay with my son.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My husband stayed on the phone with his family for an hour then kept giving me the cold shoulder and refused to eat what I cook in support of his family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I understand how some guests might find it offensive especially his family. but I was just trying to make a quick homemade meal like my husband wanted. What&#39;s wrong with Mac N cheese? AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Zaphod_Beeblerox_/" target="_blank">zaphodcultcha</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>This isn&#39;t a culture clash - these people are just AHs. There isn&#39;t an asian culture I&#39;m aware of that doesn&#39;t practice some form of postpartum confinement where it is expected that the new mother do nothing other than rest and bond with the baby.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>IF they were so &quot;traditional&quot; they should have showed up with food, offered to clean the house, and run a load of laundry while they&#39;re at it. NTA btw.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/furmur123/" target="_blank">furmur123</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. The husband would get a quick slap from his own mom if he even tried to suggest that the new mom cook for everyone.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m South Asian, and I cannot fathom the in-laws coming over and not cooking if I just had their grandchild and they came over. It is customary for your parents and in-laws to take care of you during this time, not vice versa.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Nervous_af35/" target="_blank">nervous66</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Tell them it&rsquo;s customary for THEM to bring YOU food.. that&rsquo;s the unspoken tradition.. someone has a baby or someone dies.. you bring the family food, or order them food, or give them gift cards for food.. the last thing you should be worried about is cooking dinner!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Well, looks like OP is NTA. Can you believe her in-laws pulled this s**t? What would YOU have done?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

New mom is shocked when in-laws accuse her of serving them a 'disrespectful' dinner.

When this new mom is concerned that her in-laws are judging her, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for serving my husband&#39;s family a &#39;disrespectful&#39; dinner?&quot; My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks ago. The baby is health (Thank God) but I&#39;m exhausted, haven&#39;t fixed my hair, barely able to shower and can not sleep.  My husband&#39;s family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby. I tried to hold them off as much as I could but yesterday, I was surprised to find them standing on the porch. turns out hubby invited them for dinner.  I was embarrassed and felt like I wasn&#39;t ready for visitors (judgemental ones at that 😉) cause the house was a M.E.S.S y&#39;all. Anyways, my husband sat with them while I fed my son then later I asked my husband if we should order take out for dinner.  He said &quot;NO&quot; because his parents would find this rude and unwelcoming. He suggested that I go inside the kitchen and prepare something, anything long as it&#39;s &quot;homemade&quot;. I said fine then went and made some Mac N cheese. The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is.  Once I served the family, My husband&#39;s mom looked at me and was appalled. I noticed something was wrong. She asked if I really found it &quot;appropriate&quot; to serve her and the family Mac N cheese.  I asked why not and she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong when it comes to hosting. I said excuse me?  Who said I signed up to host an expected visit from them and she took it as in I didn&#39;t want them there. her husband said they were just there to finally see the baby that I kept them from seeing for an entire month. that&#39;s a whole month of his life they &quot;missed&quot; out on.  We had an argument and they decided to go home. My husband said that deciding to serve his family Mac N cheese was more offensive then serving them nothing at all. I told him I was too exhausted to cook their &quot;traditional feasts&quot; that I was forced to learn from his mom.  He took offense and said that I was being mean and disrespectful towards not only his family but his culture. I went inside the bedroom to stay with my son.  My husband stayed on the phone with his family for an hour then kept giving me the cold shoulder and refused to eat what I cook in support of his family.  I understand how some guests might find it offensive especially his family. but I was just trying to make a quick homemade meal like my husband wanted. What&#39;s wrong with Mac N cheese? AITA? Let&#39;s find out.zaphodcultcha writes: This isn&#39;t a culture clash - these people are just AHs. There isn&#39;t an asian culture I&#39;m aware of that doesn&#39;t practice some form of postpartum confinement where it is expected that the new mother do nothing other than rest and bond with the baby.  IF they were so &quot;traditional&quot; they should have showed up with food, offered to clean the house, and run a load of laundry while they&#39;re at it. NTA btw. furmur123 writes: NTA. The husband would get a quick slap from his own mom if he even tried to suggest that the new mom cook for everyone.  I&#39;m South Asian, and I cannot fathom the in-laws coming over and not cooking if I just had their grandchild and they came over. It is customary for your parents and in-laws to take care of you during this time, not vice versa. nervous66 writes: NTA. Tell them it&rsquo;s customary for THEM to bring YOU food.. that&rsquo;s the unspoken tradition.. someone has a baby or someone dies.. you bring the family food, or order them food, or give them gift cards for food.. the last thing you should be worried about is cooking dinner! Well, looks like OP is NTA. Can you believe her in-laws pulled this s**t? What would YOU have done?

When this new mom is concerned that her in-laws are judging her, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for serving my husband&#39;s family a &#39;disrespectful&#39; dinner?&quot;   My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks...