When this mom feels like she made a playdate error, she asks Reddit:
I (39f) have a son (10m) who wanted to have some friends over for his birthday. He invited 6 of his friends for a sleep over. I made sure to let all parents know about time date etc and also asked about food allergies.
One mom responded saying her son Alex was vegetarian, I said no problem I would have vegetarian options for him. Fast forward to party day, kids are having a ball and I take out the food. I come back with more and notice Alex eating a meat pie. I didn’t want to embarrass the boy in front of his friends by taking it off him so I just let him eat.
He didn’t seem to mind or notice that is was meat. Anyway he must’ve told his mom what he had eaten as she called me up the following day and got angry that I served meat options at the party. I said my son loves pies so I wasn’t going to omit them from the menu just because her son was attending. And I presumed her son knew what he could and couldn’t eat. A few more choice words and she hung up.
I spoke to my son about Alex’s vegetarianism to see how strict his diet is but my son didn’t even realise Alex was vegetarian so I’m wondering if Alex knows he is vegetarian?
Anyway my sister reckons I’m a slight AH because Alex was in my care and I should have stopped him eating the pie, but idk, it wasn’t like i forced it on him, I had plenty of vegetarian options for him to choose from!
NTA. I am pescatarian for context. Children (within reason) should be permitted to have some control over their diets. While I don’t want children and I am not planning on returning to eat land animals or fowl, if I had children I would not expect them to hold the same diet as me.
NTA. I'm raising vegetarian kids. They're aware of their dietary restrictions way younger than 10, and can ask if they're allowed to eat something. My 6 year old might forget about stuff like gelatin, but a meat pie? Not in a million years.
NTA. I have a 12 yr old son who is celiac. He's known what he can or can't eat for years now (certainly well before he was 10) and will always check with us (or whoever) prior to eating something he doesn't immediately trust. If that lad is a veggie and it means something to him then he'd have known to ask or would have realised early on when eating it.