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<p>When this mom is weirded out by her daughter, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rgdqry/aita_for_not_attending_my_daughters_gender_reveal/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for not attending my daughter&#39;s gender reveal for her lizard?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>This is literally really stupid but she&#39;s really upset about it. So my (48) daughter (23) has a blue tongue skink lizard who she heavily adores.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She jokingly refers to it as her daughter, I&#39;ve found it weird but she says it&#39;s because it&#39;s the closest thing she&#39;d have to a child and she feels a strong emotional bond similar to a child.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She has decided to remain child free for multiple reasons and I have been very supportive of this decision.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Well she recently took her Skink to the vet for a checkup and she was excited to find out her Skinks gender. Afterwards I got a text asking if I&#39;d come to her gender reveal party she was having.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She explained it was just a small get together with cake and food for her friends she hasn&#39;t seen in a while with the gender reveal being mostly a joke (and a way to make fun of real gender reveals).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Well I didn&#39;t come. I didn&#39;t see a point. It&#39;s just a lizard and I&#39;m a busy person. She later called me and expressed she was kind of sad I didn&#39;t come cuz it&#39;d been a while since I&#39;d seen her but she understood I was busy.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her she couldn&#39;t actually expect me to come to a gender reveal for a lizard. She said that it wasn&#39;t a real gender reveal, that was more of a joke and it was really just a small gathering to catch up with everyone.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her if that was the case she should&#39;ve just called it a gathering because I&#39;m not coming to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grand daughter. If not then this party is just a slap in the face.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She got quiet for a minute and then turned my words around, claiming I wasn&#39;t supportive of her decision to be childfree.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told her she can&#39;t possibly expect me to treat a lizard as a grand daughter, she said she didn&#39;t expect me too but it was clear I didn&#39;t respect her bond with her lizard and her decision, and she just wanted to see me and my reason for coming was hurtful.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her she was being ridiculous over a lizard, she claimed it wasn&#39;t over the lizard and it was a gathering and not even centered around the lizard, but I stick by to what I said. It&#39;s ridiculous to have a gender reveal for a lizard.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My issue is that she said the party was a gender reveal, if she had called it just a party I would have come. But calling it a gender reveal makes it sound like it&#39;s for the lizard, and I&#39;m not going to that even if it is a &quot;joke&quot;.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I don&#39;t know why it matters but the Skink is a girl which is why I said &quot;I&#39;m not coming to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grand daughter.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Even though I don&#39;t agree with my daughter for being childfree, I have been supportive and only shown mild frustration.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The reasons she decided to be childfree is she claims she&#39;s asexual, she just doesn&#39;t want one, she has emotional baggage and feels unable to care for a real child, she fears pregnancy, and she has a carrier gene like me and &quot;doesn&#39;t want to go through what I did&quot; (I had 4 miscarriages and a highly defect child that died after 3 months due to the gene).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Yes there has been slight tension between us because I think she just hasn&#39;t found the right man (she never dated growing up) and her other fears are unnecessarily exaggerated, but it&#39;s ultimately her decision and I don&#39;t resent her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We haven&#39;t seen each other in three months. I&#39;m a single mother and we have always been close which is why she invited me with her friends, I just didn&#39;t want to go to a party with a lizard, and if it wasn&#39;t for the lizard she should&#39;ve called it a party instead of a gender reveal.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Anyway on the phone my daughter hung up and I got a message from her best friend about how I&#39;m an asshole for treating her that way, but I don&#39;t think I&#39;m the asshole for not wanting to go to a party for a lizard? AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Waffle_Ho/" target="_blank">waffleho</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. That&rsquo;s your grandlizard. ETA it was obviously not just about the gender reveal and your daughter wanted to see you.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Caliesehi/" target="_blank">kaleishi</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Seems pretty obvious the party wasn&#39;t ACTUALLY for the lizard. OP is just mad she called it a gender reveal, since there is no child involved.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Seems like she was right about you not respecting her choice to be child free. Since you said, &quot;<em>I won&#39;t go to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grandchild.</em>&quot; YTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/rhomboidus/" target="_blank">rhomboidus</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. It wasn&#39;t for the lizard, it was for your daughter. If you&#39;re too busy to do nice things for your family (or apparently even tell them you aren&#39;t coming) then just say that. But don&#39;t hide behind some ridiculous moral stance of it being &quot;not a real gender reveal&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Honestly this whole post just screams &quot;I only give a shit about my kid if she&#39;s having babies&quot; and that&#39;s pretty vile.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Wow, looks like OP is a major major AH. Is she the worst mother ever? Is there any hope for her relationship with her daughter?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom skips daughter's lizard gender reveal, says, 'this party is a slap in the face.'

When this mom is weirded out by her daughter, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for not attending my daughter&#39;s gender reveal for her lizard?&quot; This is literally really stupid but she&#39;s really upset about it. So my (48) daughter (23) has a blue tongue skink lizard who she heavily adores.  She jokingly refers to it as her daughter, I&#39;ve found it weird but she says it&#39;s because it&#39;s the closest thing she&#39;d have to a child and she feels a strong emotional bond similar to a child.  She has decided to remain child free for multiple reasons and I have been very supportive of this decision.  Well she recently took her Skink to the vet for a checkup and she was excited to find out her Skinks gender. Afterwards I got a text asking if I&#39;d come to her gender reveal party she was having.  She explained it was just a small get together with cake and food for her friends she hasn&#39;t seen in a while with the gender reveal being mostly a joke (and a way to make fun of real gender reveals).  Well I didn&#39;t come. I didn&#39;t see a point. It&#39;s just a lizard and I&#39;m a busy person. She later called me and expressed she was kind of sad I didn&#39;t come cuz it&#39;d been a while since I&#39;d seen her but she understood I was busy.  I told her she couldn&#39;t actually expect me to come to a gender reveal for a lizard. She said that it wasn&#39;t a real gender reveal, that was more of a joke and it was really just a small gathering to catch up with everyone.  I told her if that was the case she should&#39;ve just called it a gathering because I&#39;m not coming to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grand daughter. If not then this party is just a slap in the face.  She got quiet for a minute and then turned my words around, claiming I wasn&#39;t supportive of her decision to be childfree.  I told her she can&#39;t possibly expect me to treat a lizard as a grand daughter, she said she didn&#39;t expect me too but it was clear I didn&#39;t respect her bond with her lizard and her decision, and she just wanted to see me and my reason for coming was hurtful.  I told her she was being ridiculous over a lizard, she claimed it wasn&#39;t over the lizard and it was a gathering and not even centered around the lizard, but I stick by to what I said. It&#39;s ridiculous to have a gender reveal for a lizard.  My issue is that she said the party was a gender reveal, if she had called it just a party I would have come. But calling it a gender reveal makes it sound like it&#39;s for the lizard, and I&#39;m not going to that even if it is a &quot;joke&quot;.  I don&#39;t know why it matters but the Skink is a girl which is why I said &quot;I&#39;m not coming to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grand daughter.&quot;  Even though I don&#39;t agree with my daughter for being childfree, I have been supportive and only shown mild frustration.  The reasons she decided to be childfree is she claims she&#39;s asexual, she just doesn&#39;t want one, she has emotional baggage and feels unable to care for a real child, she fears pregnancy, and she has a carrier gene like me and &quot;doesn&#39;t want to go through what I did&quot; (I had 4 miscarriages and a highly defect child that died after 3 months due to the gene).  Yes there has been slight tension between us because I think she just hasn&#39;t found the right man (she never dated growing up) and her other fears are unnecessarily exaggerated, but it&#39;s ultimately her decision and I don&#39;t resent her.  We haven&#39;t seen each other in three months. I&#39;m a single mother and we have always been close which is why she invited me with her friends, I just didn&#39;t want to go to a party with a lizard, and if it wasn&#39;t for the lizard she should&#39;ve called it a party instead of a gender reveal.  Anyway on the phone my daughter hung up and I got a message from her best friend about how I&#39;m an asshole for treating her that way, but I don&#39;t think I&#39;m the asshole for not wanting to go to a party for a lizard? AITA? Let&#39;s find out.waffleho writes: YTA. That&rsquo;s your grandlizard. ETA it was obviously not just about the gender reveal and your daughter wanted to see you. kaleishi writes: Seems pretty obvious the party wasn&#39;t ACTUALLY for the lizard. OP is just mad she called it a gender reveal, since there is no child involved.  Seems like she was right about you not respecting her choice to be child free. Since you said, &quot;I won&#39;t go to a gender reveal unless it&#39;s for a real grandchild.&quot; YTA. rhomboidus writes: YTA. It wasn&#39;t for the lizard, it was for your daughter. If you&#39;re too busy to do nice things for your family (or apparently even tell them you aren&#39;t coming) then just say that. But don&#39;t hide behind some ridiculous moral stance of it being &quot;not a real gender reveal&quot;  Honestly this whole post just screams &quot;I only give a shit about my kid if she&#39;s having babies&quot; and that&#39;s pretty vile. Wow, looks like OP is a major major AH. Is she the worst mother ever? Is there any hope for her relationship with her daughter?

When this mom is weirded out by her daughter, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for not attending my daughter&#39;s gender reveal for her lizard?&quot;   This is literally really stupid but she&#39;s really upset about it. So my (48) daughter...