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Mom of twin boys is criticized for her parenting methods by 'judgmental' cousin.

Mom of twin boys is criticized for her parenting methods by 'judgmental' cousin.

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When this mom feels conflicted about her own parenting, she asks Reddit:

'AITA for exclusively dressing my twin sons in color coded shirts?'

I have a set of identical twin boys 1.5years old. My husband and I are both forgetful and having a new baby is tiring, I was scared of getting them mixed up. So we decided the older baby, Atticus, would be blue, and the younger one, Ezra, would be green.

We bought only green or blue onesies at first, figuring that once their personalities developed more I would integrate more colors. Most of both sides of the family know we do this and quite a few even use it to still tell the boys apart despite my husband and I being able to know which is which no problem (such as after bath when neither is dressed).

Since the boys are so young we let them pick their shirts but we have a dresser with the top painted blue for Atticus and one with the top green for Ezra. The boys know which dresser belongs to them, they each have an average amount of shirts, just they are either a majority blue or a majority green. They have different decorations on them, such as Hulk or Captain America, the green or blue character from their favorite show PJ masks, even their church clothes are blue or green button ups.

We had a Christmas party over the weekend. The boys showed up in a blue sweater with a snowman on it, other had a green sweater with a Christmas tree on it. Many people said they looked adorable. My husband’s cousin cornered me and told me that I was stifling the boys’ individuality since I am forcing them to dress how I want them to.

When I told her I would probably diversify shirts when they turned 3, maybe starting at 2.5 she went ballistic, saying that it isn’t fair to them. I tried pointing out that no 1.5 year old knows what they are wearing, has a say in what gets bought, nor do they care. AITA for dressing them in their own color and nothing else?

Let's find out.

ioooooi writes:

I worry the blue boy is gonna feel like the main twin, and the green boy might feel like the secondary twin. Blue is kind of protagonist coded I think, green is kind of a second banana color. Is it clear yet which is gonna be the better looking twin? Cause if he's in blue this might be trouble.

padloq writes:

NTA. You should have thanked your cousin for offering to buy both boys entirely new wardrobes, and for volunteering to be their exclusive babysitter in order to figure out their “individuality” so she knows what to buy them.

malordogs writes:

NTA at all. They’re still literal babies. They literally only care about clothes in terms of that they are the right temperature and comfortable. My nephews are twins and they straight up shared a wardrobe until they were old enough to have distinct interests and be different sizes. If you keep color coding them and do forced matching all the time as they get older and develop more distinct personalities and taste, you’d be a jerk. But right now? Nope.

Looks like OP is NTA. How would YOU raise these twins?

Sources: Reddit
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