Wedding guest wears "inappropriate' outfit to wedding, bridezilla loses her mind.
When this wedding guest gets in trouble for their outfit at a wedding, they ask Reddit:
'AITA for wearing an inappropriate outfit at a wedding?'
I (16 genderfluid) was recently at a close relative's wedding with my family (just guests, not as part of the bridal party or anything).
The dress code the bride told us (and that was on the invite) was that women wore dresses and men had to wear something similarly formal e.g. a suit.
I am AFAB so was told I would have to wear a dress. I don't identify as a woman however, so I wasn't comfortable with this and asked for a potential compromise on my outfit. She insisted that I wore a dress.
Cut to when my family were ordering their wedding clothes/figuring out their outfits. My parents asked if I had found anything suitable and I sent them a link to a romper that looks very much like a dress at first glance, it's genuinely not noticeable unless you look closely that the bottom part is not a skirt.
We got the romper, it arrives and everything is fine. I wore it to the wedding and for the first part everything seems ok, until I am pulled along too hard by a kid and end up tripping and falling face first, sprawled out on the floor.
As everyone nearby gathers around to see what happened, the bride notices that the bottom part of my outfit is shorts and not a skirt, and loses her shit and starts screaming at me that she made it clear I needed to wear a dress and that I was being selfish by going against her wishes on her special day.
I'm pretty sensitive and also hate loud noise as I'm autistic, so I start crying because the mix of pain from scraping my leg and her loud voice yelling is enough to overstimulate me pretty badly.
My cousin leads me away to treat my wound, the bride stalks off still fuming and won't speak to us for the rest of the night until we eventually leave at the end of the wedding.
I was reassured by some members of my family that I didn't do anything wrong, but I'm still super hung up over it and wondering if it was bad of me to wear that.
I'm happy to provide a link to my outfit if anyone wants to see it to gauge for themselves. this was what I wore. AITA?
Let's find out.
admiralbota6 writes:
NTA. Dress codes for non-wedding party members are usually for a level of formality, not a prescription for a particular article of clothing. If you can't even tell the outfit isn't up to code without a trip & fall accident (I hope you're OK!), I can't see what the problem would be.
naiseedae writes:
Right? If OP had been wearing a dress, the bride would have flipped her lid because OP was flashing everyone. NTA, OP. Some people just aren't happy unless they have something to complain about.
rsq314 writes:
NTA. Truly, half of the family young and old would should stepped up and said to the Bride, 'thank heavens! Or we'd all have an eyeful!' while another (or 3) reached down to the unfortunate OP asking, 'are you all right?' and 'come here dear' and 'where's some ice?' and 'are you hurt?' and 'oh, my!'
For the record, the romper you picked is drool-worthy. And TONS of women wear bike shorts under skirts and dresses, for the same reason OP doesn't care to wear dresses.
Modesty, convenience, comfort. Hope you come to look back and laugh at the loser Bride and paint yourself clever for dressing appropriately.