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<p>When this SAHD makes a potentially rude comment in front of SAHMs, he asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10wyz00/aita_for_not_lying_for_my_wife_in_front_of_her/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for not lying for my wife in front of her friends regarding me being a stay-at-home parent?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>When my wife and I decided to start a family she expressed she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom so we made a plan and set everything up so that she could stay home during the early years.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We had our first kid but she didn&#39;t do too well being the stay-home and had a hard time with it. We still wanted our kids to have a parent at home with them so we swapped out since her salary was close to mine.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Two kids later I&#39;m still the stay-at-home dad working reduced hours remotely. For me personally, it&#39;s easier than any job I&#39;ve had in the past, even the manual labor one but I recognize that that&#39;s just my personal experience.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We&#39;ve touched base on the issue a few times to make sure there&#39;s no resentment, guilt, or discomfort on either of our parts.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>One of her friends from her work invited us and other couples over for dinner. While there, the other couples were talking about childcare in general and some of the women started sharing their experiences of when they were home.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My wife was talking about how she had disliked it and mentioned our arrangement when one of the women said to me: &quot;Oh I know you&#39;re just itching to get back to having it easy.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I responded that I already have it easy and that for me, being a stay-at-home dad was a cakewalk compared to my office job. I didn&#39;t see the point in agreeing with something that just isn&#39;t true for me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>On the way home my wife asked why couldn&#39;t I have just agreed with the question and played along.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I asked her if she felt bad or guilty that she had a hard time with it and she said no, so I told her to just forget about it then because there&#39;s no reason for me to lie to make a bunch of other people feel better so long as it&#39;s fine between us.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When she got home from work yesterday she had some attitude asking me if I had &#39;another easy peasy day&#39; and told me how all day she had to hear from her friends what a smug asshole I was for making light of their experiences by saying it was a cakewalk.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I get that for a lot of people it&#39;s hard but I don&#39;t see why I should have to lie about it or fluff someone&#39;s ego for not feeling the same way. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Booky_Cat/" target="_blank">bookycat</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You are happy being a SAHD. Great! What that woman said about going back to work outside of home was &quot;easy&quot; is insulting to you, to your way of life, to stay-at-home-dads in general. It&#39;s building on the idea that fathers find difficult to take care of their children and prefer to leave these tasks to their wives. This woman needs to think seriously about how she considers fathers and taking care of children.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>However, your wife&#39;s reaction is weird. You say you communicate about the equilibrium of your way of life, but is it possible she&#39;s suffering pressure at work about going back to work instead of taking care of her children?</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/wildferalfun/" target="_blank">wildforfun</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. They decided to take offense because you like parenting more than the office job you had. They could have been like, &quot;damn, how hellish was his office, how mismatched was he for his job/company that tyrannical toddlers is a cake walk?&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Plenty of people have day jobs easier than parenting and plenty of offices are hell. I wouldn&#39;t want to leave my current job to be a SAHM but plenty of other jobs would never hear from me again if my husband&#39;s income was sufficient to support us.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/frb936/?sort=new" target="_blank">frb936</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA.We (men and women) all deal with things differently.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Let&rsquo;s call it what it is, I&rsquo;d pick taking care of my kid every day over manual labor (e.g., car mechanic, construction worker, etc.) 100% of the time. I&rsquo;m good at it, but if I had to choose between that and being a stay at home father, I&rsquo;d be a stay at home father.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I happily choose to be peed or pooped over a job where I am basically in a dangerous/life threatening situation half of my day. I can clean up poop and pee quickly, but I can&rsquo;t regrow a broken leg in an hour.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Don&rsquo;t even get me started on the back and joint pain that I&rsquo;ll have for the rest of my life or working outside when it&rsquo;s 100 or 30 degrees out.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>No offense to anyone out there, this is just my personal opinion. Raising kids is hard, but it&rsquo;s not the hardest job out there. I agree that it&rsquo;s a cakewalk compared to my job.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Also, good for you man! Enjoy them while you can. Sooner or later they&rsquo;re gonna grow up and the opportunity to spend time with them will be gone. I don&rsquo;t see the need to beat around the bush about how you feel.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>People don&rsquo;t have to like it nor will they share the same exact experience. It&rsquo;s just what it is. And it&rsquo;s okay.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, looks like OP is NTA. Or could he have kept his mouth shut? What do YOU think?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

SAHD tells 'the truth' about parenting in front of wife's friends, SAHMs clap back.

When this SAHD makes a potentially rude comment in front of SAHMs, he asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for not lying for my wife in front of her friends regarding me being a stay-at-home parent?&quot; When my wife and I decided to start a family she expressed she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom so we made a plan and set everything up so that she could stay home during the early years.  We had our first kid but she didn&#39;t do too well being the stay-home and had a hard time with it. We still wanted our kids to have a parent at home with them so we swapped out since her salary was close to mine.  Two kids later I&#39;m still the stay-at-home dad working reduced hours remotely. For me personally, it&#39;s easier than any job I&#39;ve had in the past, even the manual labor one but I recognize that that&#39;s just my personal experience.  We&#39;ve touched base on the issue a few times to make sure there&#39;s no resentment, guilt, or discomfort on either of our parts.  One of her friends from her work invited us and other couples over for dinner. While there, the other couples were talking about childcare in general and some of the women started sharing their experiences of when they were home.  My wife was talking about how she had disliked it and mentioned our arrangement when one of the women said to me: &quot;Oh I know you&#39;re just itching to get back to having it easy.&quot;  I responded that I already have it easy and that for me, being a stay-at-home dad was a cakewalk compared to my office job. I didn&#39;t see the point in agreeing with something that just isn&#39;t true for me.  On the way home my wife asked why couldn&#39;t I have just agreed with the question and played along.  I asked her if she felt bad or guilty that she had a hard time with it and she said no, so I told her to just forget about it then because there&#39;s no reason for me to lie to make a bunch of other people feel better so long as it&#39;s fine between us.  When she got home from work yesterday she had some attitude asking me if I had &#39;another easy peasy day&#39; and told me how all day she had to hear from her friends what a smug asshole I was for making light of their experiences by saying it was a cakewalk.  I get that for a lot of people it&#39;s hard but I don&#39;t see why I should have to lie about it or fluff someone&#39;s ego for not feeling the same way. AITA? Let&#39;s find out.bookycat writes: NTA. You are happy being a SAHD. Great! What that woman said about going back to work outside of home was &quot;easy&quot; is insulting to you, to your way of life, to stay-at-home-dads in general. It&#39;s building on the idea that fathers find difficult to take care of their children and prefer to leave these tasks to their wives. This woman needs to think seriously about how she considers fathers and taking care of children.  However, your wife&#39;s reaction is weird. You say you communicate about the equilibrium of your way of life, but is it possible she&#39;s suffering pressure at work about going back to work instead of taking care of her children? wildforfun writes: NTA. They decided to take offense because you like parenting more than the office job you had. They could have been like, &quot;damn, how hellish was his office, how mismatched was he for his job/company that tyrannical toddlers is a cake walk?&quot;  Plenty of people have day jobs easier than parenting and plenty of offices are hell. I wouldn&#39;t want to leave my current job to be a SAHM but plenty of other jobs would never hear from me again if my husband&#39;s income was sufficient to support us. frb936 writes: NTA.We (men and women) all deal with things differently.  Let&rsquo;s call it what it is, I&rsquo;d pick taking care of my kid every day over manual labor (e.g., car mechanic, construction worker, etc.) 100% of the time. I&rsquo;m good at it, but if I had to choose between that and being a stay at home father, I&rsquo;d be a stay at home father.  I happily choose to be peed or pooped over a job where I am basically in a dangerous/life threatening situation half of my day. I can clean up poop and pee quickly, but I can&rsquo;t regrow a broken leg in an hour.  Don&rsquo;t even get me started on the back and joint pain that I&rsquo;ll have for the rest of my life or working outside when it&rsquo;s 100 or 30 degrees out.  No offense to anyone out there, this is just my personal opinion. Raising kids is hard, but it&rsquo;s not the hardest job out there. I agree that it&rsquo;s a cakewalk compared to my job.  Also, good for you man! Enjoy them while you can. Sooner or later they&rsquo;re gonna grow up and the opportunity to spend time with them will be gone. I don&rsquo;t see the need to beat around the bush about how you feel.  People don&rsquo;t have to like it nor will they share the same exact experience. It&rsquo;s just what it is. And it&rsquo;s okay. Well, looks like OP is NTA. Or could he have kept his mouth shut? What do YOU think?

When this SAHD makes a potentially rude comment in front of SAHMs, he asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for not lying for my wife in front of her friends regarding me being a stay-at-home parent?&quot;   When my wife and I decided to start a family...