When this SAHD makes a potentially rude comment in front of SAHMs, he asks Reddit:
When my wife and I decided to start a family she expressed she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom so we made a plan and set everything up so that she could stay home during the early years.
We had our first kid but she didn't do too well being the stay-home and had a hard time with it. We still wanted our kids to have a parent at home with them so we swapped out since her salary was close to mine.
Two kids later I'm still the stay-at-home dad working reduced hours remotely. For me personally, it's easier than any job I've had in the past, even the manual labor one but I recognize that that's just my personal experience.
We've touched base on the issue a few times to make sure there's no resentment, guilt, or discomfort on either of our parts.