When this woman is struggling to feel sorry for her sister, she asks Reddit:
I do sympathize with my sister. I love her very much. But she has made some very poor, in my opinion, decisions. I (F33) am six years older than my sister. She is a brilliant and talented musician. I cannot praise her skill enough. Truthfully I am somewhat jealous of it. I didn't get that.
There are four kids in my family. My two older brothers, myself and my sister. My brother's are much older than us. They love us but they are more like young uncles to us. The younger one was in university when my sister was born.
My parents had money set aside for us that our grandparents had saved for us. Our parents invested the money and contributed to it. They weren't horrible people so they didn't take it for themselves or hold it over us to control us.