When this woman is concerned that she hurt her stepdad, she asks Reddit:
My mom and stepdad have been together since I was 5, married since I was 6 and I'm now 20. My dad died when I was 5. He and mom were separated but not divorced when he passed away and mom started dating my stepdad a few weeks later.
I met him about five months after my dad died, and he moved in with us after a year and they married 14 months after that. My mom really wanted me to "have a dad" and found my stepdad a good partner and someone who could be a good dad to me.
Only I never wanted another dad. So I always called him by his first name and refer to him as my stepdad.
He and I have butted heads over this a lot. He thinks I should be his daddy's little girl. I think it's crazy that he feels I owe him that, and owed him from the start.