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<p>When this woman is upset with her friend, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1150oax/aita_not_wanting_to_wear_a_strapless_bridesmaids/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA Not wanting to wear a strapless bridesmaids dress after mastectomy?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>The title says it&rsquo;s all. I (35 female)had a mastectomy 2 months ago do to breast cancer and won&rsquo;t get reconstructive surgery till after the wedding. Bride (36 female) wants me to wear a strapless dress and says</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;I should be proud and embrace my scars and lack of breasts&rdquo; but easier said then done. I would prefer something with sleeves (even lace I would be fine with). I&rsquo;m ready to just not be in the wedding I get it&rsquo;s her wedding but I would never put a &ldquo;friend&rdquo; in a uncomfortable situation like that.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Update. I was really upset when writing this so I&rsquo;m sorry if not much detail was in the post. The wedding is in July.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Back story. I was diagnosed after being ask to be in the wedding. At the time we were close. But drifted apart through treatment. As I didn&rsquo;t have the energy or want to socialize.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I started with chemo in which I have a port (I will have treatments for about 15 months) so the port can be seen in a strapless as well.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I then had a double mastectomy 2 months ago. (Still waiting to see if I need radiation). I SHOULD have dropped out when I diagnosed but honestly you see all these women and how it&rsquo;s shown through advertising and I thought okay I will get treatment and be fine right after.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Big mistake on my part. I have been active in the chats and helping organize and plan stuff. But then dress shopping came and everything went down hill. It&rsquo;s very nice where we live in July and can be very hot.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So she decided on strapless. I asked if I could wear something different and that&rsquo;s when she lost it. Said this whole year has been about me and she just wants day where my focus is on her and not my illness.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>And she didn&rsquo;t think she was asking much that I wear a strapless. After posting this I gave her some of the suggestions and she lost it again about it being about her and not me. I told her I will no longer be part of the wedding and she said if I wasn&rsquo;t in the wedding we weren&rsquo;t friends as I was putting myself above her. So that&rsquo;s that. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PurpleGreyPunk/" target="_blank">purplegreypunk</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA&hellip;it&rsquo;s easy for her to advocate for self acceptance and celebrating scars, but she&rsquo;s not the one in your body. If you&rsquo;re uncomfortable then bow out. ((Hugs)) from an internet stranger!</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Fatigue-Error/" target="_blank">fatigueerror</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA You have no obligation to be in the bridal party. Thank her for the invite, but say you just can&rsquo;t do it. If she blows up over it, no loss. Like you said, a friend wouldn&rsquo;t be so callous about your feelings.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Futueteipsum7/" target="_blank">fututipsum</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Tell her as gracefully as you can &quot;I&#39;m uncomfortable with the dress, and that&#39;s an end to it. But I&#39;ll be there, just not as a brides-maid, because it&#39;s your day and I love you and will support you one hundred percent from the Bride&#39;s Side.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman refuses to wear strapless bridesmaid dress after mastectomy, causes 'drama.'

When this woman is upset with her friend, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA Not wanting to wear a strapless bridesmaids dress after mastectomy?&quot; The title says it&rsquo;s all. I (35 female)had a mastectomy 2 months ago do to breast cancer and won&rsquo;t get reconstructive surgery till after the wedding. Bride (36 female) wants me to wear a strapless dress and says  &ldquo;I should be proud and embrace my scars and lack of breasts&rdquo; but easier said then done. I would prefer something with sleeves (even lace I would be fine with). I&rsquo;m ready to just not be in the wedding I get it&rsquo;s her wedding but I would never put a &ldquo;friend&rdquo; in a uncomfortable situation like that.  Update. I was really upset when writing this so I&rsquo;m sorry if not much detail was in the post. The wedding is in July.  Back story. I was diagnosed after being ask to be in the wedding. At the time we were close. But drifted apart through treatment. As I didn&rsquo;t have the energy or want to socialize.  I started with chemo in which I have a port (I will have treatments for about 15 months) so the port can be seen in a strapless as well.  I then had a double mastectomy 2 months ago. (Still waiting to see if I need radiation). I SHOULD have dropped out when I diagnosed but honestly you see all these women and how it&rsquo;s shown through advertising and I thought okay I will get treatment and be fine right after.  Big mistake on my part. I have been active in the chats and helping organize and plan stuff. But then dress shopping came and everything went down hill. It&rsquo;s very nice where we live in July and can be very hot.  So she decided on strapless. I asked if I could wear something different and that&rsquo;s when she lost it. Said this whole year has been about me and she just wants day where my focus is on her and not my illness.  And she didn&rsquo;t think she was asking much that I wear a strapless. After posting this I gave her some of the suggestions and she lost it again about it being about her and not me. I told her I will no longer be part of the wedding and she said if I wasn&rsquo;t in the wedding we weren&rsquo;t friends as I was putting myself above her. So that&rsquo;s that. AITA? Let&#39;s find out.purplegreypunk writes: NTA&hellip;it&rsquo;s easy for her to advocate for self acceptance and celebrating scars, but she&rsquo;s not the one in your body. If you&rsquo;re uncomfortable then bow out. ((Hugs)) from an internet stranger! fatigueerror writes: NTA You have no obligation to be in the bridal party. Thank her for the invite, but say you just can&rsquo;t do it. If she blows up over it, no loss. Like you said, a friend wouldn&rsquo;t be so callous about your feelings. fututipsum writes: NTA. Tell her as gracefully as you can &quot;I&#39;m uncomfortable with the dress, and that&#39;s an end to it. But I&#39;ll be there, just not as a brides-maid, because it&#39;s your day and I love you and will support you one hundred percent from the Bride&#39;s Side.&quot; 

When this woman is upset with her friend, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA Not wanting to wear a strapless bridesmaids dress after mastectomy?&quot;   The title says it&rsquo;s all. I (35 female)had a mastectomy 2 months ago do to breast...