Woman's parents have yoga retreat on her wedding day, dad says, 'switch the date.'
When this woman is shocked by her parent's behavior leading up to her wedding, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for not moving my wedding date?'
My fiancé and I recently got engaged, and when looking at dates we realized our anniversary falls on a Saturday this year.
Perfect right? We immediately start planning because it’s approximately 9 months out and we have to move quick to pull a wedding together. We told everyone the potential date this weekend and all seemed well.
Monday I get a phone call from my father. He insists that I move the date because my mother has a yoga retreat that weekend. I tell him that this date means a lot to me and I would prefer to keep it if there is any way to move the retreat.
There is, but it’s expensive. I offer to pay for this change out of my wedding budget, essentially halving the amount that I can spend on the most important event of my life.
Yesterday I was told that they would not be taking my offer to pay to move the retreat and that we’re expected to move the wedding instead. I haven’t put money on my venue yet, so they think I should be fine with giving up the chance to marry on a date that means a lot to me.
It became a massive fight, and now my parents and I aren’t speaking. My father accused me of caring about a date more than I care about my mother. I told him that it felt as though they were choosing yoga over their own daughter.
TLDR: wedding falls on the same day as moms yoga retreat. I haven’t put money down on the date yet and she has, but it means more to me than to her. Offers to pay to move the retreat were turned down. WIBTA if I keep my date and say that it’s me or the retreat?
Let's find out.
iamothro writes:
Your parents are prioritizing a yoga retreat over your wedding? They 100% are. Have the wedding without them. NTA.
steamedfrog87 writes:
it's not the yoga, it's the chance to prove they're still the most important relationship in OPs life...(tip: they aren't) and they've chosen a particularly ridiculous hill to die on.
NTA, but may I suggest getting your version out to the rest of the family circle first so they look silly instead of making you out to be bridezilla?
bamf1701 writes:
NTA. First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
However, I’m sorry to say your parents have made it perfectly clear where on their priority list you, their child, is, and it is apparently below yoga. And you are right - she is choosing yoga over you.
A yoga retreat is something that can be done anytime, your wedding will only happen once.
Don’t let your father say that you don’t care about your mother - he is gaslighting you.