'AITA expecting my husband to cook for us while he's not working?'
"AITA expecting my husband to cook for us while he's not working?"
My husband broke his ankle and had to have surgery. He has a cast for now and crutches to get around the house and has been home less than a week. Normally we either take turns cooking or cook together when we both get home. But since he'll be home for a number of weeks I told him he should be covering dinner for us. He said he'd do what he could.
The first day all he made is freaking grilled cheese and soup. Stuff like that that doesn't really constitute a meal or he orders take out. Once in awhile, okay, but it's been like that ever since he's been staying home.
Yesterday i asked him to do something with more sustenance like a baked dish with a side salad. Protein and vegetable sides. My husband argued and said he didn't think he'd be able to do something like that because he's supposed to be staying off that foot as much as possible for the time being.
And he brought up being in pain. I totally get the pain but I reminded him that there were ways to make a good dinner even with a broken ankle. He has his crutches, could bring a stool or rolling chair into the kitchen, or get everything to the table and sit to do prep. Instead, he made chili in a slow cooker and had premade salads delivered from the store.
I wound up making something for myself instead and told him how I was getting fed up with him disregarding my wishes and feelings. He told me I'm being bossy and need to cut him so slack and he'd go stay with a friend.
He's been there a whole day and was short with me when I've called to get him to talk about this. I don't think I'm asking too much from him to just cook dinner since he's home but AITA?
Here's what people had to say to OP:
irishbeat66 writes:
YTA If he's sick enough to be off work he's sick enough to not be able to cook a complex meal. You've driven your husband out of the house. You don't just want to talk. You want him to listen and agree with you.
lsdidiot writes:
This is the first post after years of lurking that I'm afraid of getting banned over for sharing my real thoughts. This poor man. I've been in a relationship like this and it is actually dangerous. Her lack of empathy is terrifying. Super bad vibes. OP you are beyond a doubt an AH. YTA YTA YTA. The fact that you can't see it make this even scarier ffs.
disneyland4eva writes:
YTA. Your husband isn’t on vacation, he’s home because he broke his ankle. Not only that, he had SURGERY for it and it’s the FIRST WEEK. He needs to be resting with his leg elevated as much as possible right now.
Do you know how much energy it takes the body to heal from surgery and broken bones? A LOT. And you want him to mess his recovery up because you think he should be cooking dinner? Do you want him to ever be able to walk again? You’re being ridiculous.
Later OP came back with these edits:
edited: okay i get it I'm the a^*$ole here and the daughter of satan. Some of you are very protective of your soup and sandwich combo. you have at it, I just can't stand it because ate too much of it growing up.
i will take today and tomorrow off and apologize to my husband and do some nice things for him. i'll talk to him about having one of our family members come and help me with meal prep. i sincerely thought sitting on a chair was a viable option since he'd be off his foot, guess I was wrong.
Edit 2: Yes, I said asking help for meal prep. I work 12 hour days on a loading dock, most my days are on my feet and helping lift stuff or walking around doing inventory and other such tasks. Its physical, its exhausting, spending a chunk of one of my two days off to do meal prep and everything else in the house, yes, I need help somewhere.
Its wonderful that some of you or your partners are able to do it all, but that's you, and not everyone is the same. And some of y'all acting like I'm the only one that likes a clean house. We BOTH do, he's worse about it than me, especially with cat and dog hair. Meaning I'm also cleaning things that are making him anxious at his request so he won't be tempted to get up and do it.