When this man is concerned about his girlfriend, he asks Reddit:
A few days ago, my girlfriend Trish (not her real name) was cleaning the kitchen windows. In the midst of her cleaning, she accidentally knocked over a dish from the drying rack and that dish landed on and shattered an expensive wine glass of mine. I say mine because it was given to me by my mother as a Christmas gift last year. The glass retails for around $120.
When she told me she had broken the glass by accident (which she was very nervous about because she knew the glass was expensive), we had a discussion (may classify this as an argument...) that lasted three days about how it would get replaced, and who would pay.
After all of this talking, she finally (she says) gave in and gave me 40% of the cost to replace the glass. I had initially asked that she replace the glass in full, but after discussion realized if we are partners, it would be logical to use the 60/40 calculation we use for everything else.
Background: Trish and I have been living together for about a year. When we initially decided to move in together, we decided to split all expenses 60%/40% because of our combined income distribution (I make 60% of our gross monthly earnings, she makes 40%).
After the initial agreement, Trish has now said she does not feel good about the agreement and wants me to give the money back to her. Her reasoning is that (A) it was a complete accident, and (B) she would never want to buy any wine glasses that expensive ever again.
My argument is that if we are to live together, we are going to be sharing costs, and inevitably things are going to break and need replacing/repairing. I liked this wine glass (again which was a gift from my mother) and would like to replace it so that we have a matching set once more.
More background: I know for a fact that Trish is financially able to reimburse me the 40%, and would suffer no undue hardship from the loss of those funds. On the other hand, I am also fully able to replace the glass without it affecting my financial stability. AITA for asking Trish to reimburse 40% of the wine glass she broke by accident?
Why was a $120, presumably delicate, wine glass sitting in or next to a drying rack with regular dishes in the first place? If I had glassware that pricey, it would be washed, dried and put away after use. ETA- ESH.
YTA. Yeah it's nuts. It's just dishware. And he argued at her for 3 whole-ass days over it. Over a mistake. I had an ex that made me feel like I was worth less than a bottle of wine over stuff like this. A loving relationship isn't a break it you buy it type of deal.
YTA nickel and diming each other like this does not make for a successful relationship. This was an accident. If she had some this on purpose I could see asking for reimbursement but this is how you treat a roommate not a girlfriend.