When this woman is upset with her husband, she asks Reddit:
To preface: I (30f) just had an emergency c-section 6 weeks ago with our daughter who ended up in the NICU for 2 weeks. She almost died, but other than the mental effect the whole experience had on me, that part is irrelevant. I
My husband told me he is going for a weekend bachelor party trip like a 9 hr drive away within the next weeks. We have a two year old in addition to our newborn and I already do 90% of the caretaking since I am on maternity leave (unpaid).
He currently works nights so the only time he spends with our children is about 2 hours in the evening and then he typically goes back to sleep until his shift begins, so he also spends no time with me.
I literally never get to leave the house, I rarely even get the opportunity to take a bath every day. How is it fair or considerate of him to be able to take this trip? If the kids were a little older and he already spent more time with us, I wouldn’t care. But I’m drowning both mentally and physically as it is.
AITA for not wanting him to go? And thinking that’s it’s inappropriate to be leaving me alone with a newborn and toddler to go party?
NTA. If your husband goes, divorce him. Your kid almost died four weeks ago and you just had emergency surgery. If he leaves you at home with a newborn and toddler under those circumstances, he shouldn't bother coming home.
THIS talk about selfish, your child almost died, you are recovering from a major operation and you are looking after everything?! I would divorce him regardless, you deserve better, so much better. NTA.
NTA. What the hell is wrong with this guy? Knowing that your partner is 'drowning both mentally and physically' with a newborn and toddler right after an extremely traumatic event IN NO WAY WARRANTS going off to some weekend bachelor party trip. I can't think of a worse occasion for him to leave you alone for.