Woman is shocked when her best friend makes 'insane Valentines Day request.'
When this woman is annoyed with her friend on VDAY, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for refusing to do what my friend wants me to on valentines day?'
Okay, so me (20F) and my bf (24M) have anniversary 2 weeks after Valentine’s. A few months ago, we decided to just chill at home on Valentine’s and on the day of our anniversary visit a famous burger restaurant nearby, we haven’t been there yet because it’s expensive and we are both students still.
However, 3 days ago I was doing some stuff on the internet and found a (in my country popular) website that offers coupons for from helicopter rides, winetasting etc. to 3 - 7 days long stays in hotels with wellness etc.
I looked for a bit and found some great offers, sent it to my bf and ultimately we agreed to book a hotel stay instead of the expensive restaurant. It’s for 3 days, unlimited pool and sauna time and all inclusive and it’s affordable for us.
It also stated that if one of the days you book the stay for is Feb 14th, you will get a back massage for two and a bottle of champaigne for free. We decided to book it for 13th - 15th.
Yesterday, my friend of 10+ years (20F) told me she broke up with her boyfriend. We’ve been talking a lot and got good food, I comforted her etc and then she told me we should do something together on Valentine’s since she’s alone.
I told her that I’m sorry but I’ve already purchased a hotel stay with my bf and it’s also for our anniversary so I won’t bail on it and Valentine’s itself isn’t such a big deal.
She got a bit mad and started saying that I’m insensitive, we should go clubbing and drinking and I should just move the stay. The thing is that there’s additional fee if you want to rearrange the time of your stay less than 7 days before you’re supposed to be there.
She proceeded to in my opinion guilttrip me and in the end I got annoyed and told her that I’m not responsible for her relationship and that I’m sorry but I knew it’s gonna happen sooner or later and that she chose to ignore me trying to help her get out of her insanely toxic relationship and kept being naive.
(Her bf cheated on her and lied to her multiple times since the beginning of their relationship, some time ago told her he had another gf the whole time but apparently he broke up with her and my friend still stayed with him.
Also switched schools to go into the same school as him even tho it’s a school focused on subjects she doesn’t find interesting. I told her multiple times to please open her eyes and leave him but she refused to.
He dumped her for another woman in the end.) She then proceeded to curse at me and left my house crying and is now not talking to me.
Have I said too much or was I insensitive? I feel like she genuinely is annoying me lately with her naivity and refusing to accept help so I may have snapped. AITA?
Let's find out.
glencoco87 writes:
NTA, misery loves company... The fact that she expected you to give up your Valentines Day plans because she did after a break up is extremely entitled and emotionally selfish.
What about your existing relationship? What about your happiness? What about your Valentines Day plans? She don't care.
I'm not saying stop being friends with her, but if I were you I would seriously reconsider the 10 year plus connection ya'll have. Because her reaction was hurtful and toxic as hell.
calm0884 writes:
Nope, NTA.
No true friend would ask you to spend Vday with you, knowing you got o boyfriend, let alone ask you to change prepaid plans.
You were sensitive to her suffering, she just wants to not be miserable alone, so ruining a day with your boyfriend is good enough for her.
timelyegg68 writes:
NTA - she was unrealistic expecting you to dump your own boyfriend from an arranged holiday and take her clubbing because her relationship was broken. And sounds like it was badly broken a long time before the final split.
Don't let her put your's at risk so you are available as her wingwoman. Really hope you have a great stay.
You are not her property or emotional support human, especially if she only wants your advice when it suits her.
I suspect she isn't as naive as you think but finds drama a good way to get sympathy and support from people and control them at the same time. Her BF seems to have been pretty honest with her and she still chased him.