'AITA for eating alone in a different room at my BF's parents' house? I was too cold.'
When this woman is confused by her BF and BF's parents, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for eating alone in a different room at my boyfriend's parents house?'
For many years, my bf's parents have had us over for brunch, lunch, or dinner. They have a nice deck with an outdoor table and chairs and use it to eat or hang out.
Thing is, it has to be freezing temperature before they will concede and eat in the dining room. I've had to sit on that deck many times trying to eat my food while I'm shivering, even though I'm wearing layers.
Last week, we went over there for brunch mid-morning. The outdoor table was set with plates, etc. I had my layers on again, but I was cold. When we were outside, I noticed the thermometer read about 45F.
The food got cold quickly, and I decided I had enough. I told them as nicely as I could that I was too cold. The mom turned to the dad and asked, 'Well, should we pack it in?'
The dad, scooping food into his mouth, said, 'Nah, it's not too bad out here.' and kept on eating. Nothing more was said, not even from my bf.
Everyone kept eating. So I apologized sincerely that I needed to eat inside, gathered my plate, napkin, silverware, and glass, and went in to the dining room.
I finished eating before they were done, and since I was warmed up I went back to the deck while they chewed the cud and finished up. I could feel tension and no one talked to me. After we left, my bf berated me in the car for being rude.
I agree it's not the best thing to do, but I had put up with this for a long time out of politeness and I think their behavior is nutty. Sure, after years of this, I should know better than to go over there with my bf if it's a cold day. I do it to be a good gf and 'daughter-in-law.' AITA?
Let's find out.
hegel56 writes:
NTA They were rude, you’re a guest, they should have went inside. Wtf is wrong with them? 45f is COLD. Maybe they should invest in a patio heater.
smegal77 writes:
Dude, your BF berated you just for being cold (which is totally justifiable at 45 Fahrenheit, wtf!) and politely going inside to finish eating.
That is absolutely not ok and the fact he was mad instead of being concerned for your well-being is alarming. You weren’t shunning his family, which is what he’s making it seem like.
You were taking care of yourself. I hope you’ve told him this or are at least planning on it… you’re NTA here.
foxlilac8 writes:
Yes, the parents were very rude, but I'm even more concerned that the BF berated her in the car. NTA.