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<p>When this woman is angry with her niece and sister, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11etpad/aita_26f_for_refusing_to_go_to_my_nieces_23f/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA (26F) for refusing to go to my nieces (23F) wedding after her and my sister (40F) attempted to sabotage mine?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Il be honest, my sister and I never had the best relationship. She&rsquo;s 15 years older than me so maybe we didn&rsquo;t have much of a connection and she&rsquo;s always been resentful towards me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s treated me like an outcast and would often turn her kids against me and encourage them to insult me, disrespect me and treat me like dirt. My mom would always tell me to &ldquo;be the bigger person&rdquo;. So I would always forgive when they would apologize or act all nice again.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>During COVID lockdowns, my sister and her husband (not my nieces father) kicked her out because my sister was having her many mood swings, she has 4 other children and got them to participate in kicking out my niece.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She called me and I quickly went to pick her up and I met her on the curb with trash bags and with my sister refusing to open the door.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>So I took her in my home where she stayed for 6 months and she even secured an apartment. Once my niece (20 at the time) got her apartment, my sister and her husband convinced her to move back in and my niece did and then the same niece turned on me and I felt very sad because she was in my home and I did everything for her when her own mom discarded her like trash.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Fast forward to 2021, she does the same thing with her (16M) son and he called me and again, I picked him up and let him stay.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At the time, my now husband and we&rsquo;re planning a wedding and of course regardless of our differences, there was no way I couldn&rsquo;t invite my sister and her kids. Also, It was in the height of COVID restrictions so we were very limited and the church only accepted close family.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When I invited my sister, her and her kids ridiculed me. My sister even said that my attitude is too disgusting to get married, they&rsquo;re not coming because I don&rsquo;t deserve to get married, they even blocked me except my niece who promised she&rsquo;ll be there and promised to act as a witness.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The day of, she didn&rsquo;t show up, no call no nothing. Thankfully, the photographer was nice enough to be a second witness for us.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My mom called my niece asking why she did this. My niece said &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t even know what kind of wedding it is, I don&rsquo;t see the point in all this&rdquo; then hung up. I was broken and in tears. I know my sister put them up to it but I thought my niece would have risen above it given all I&rsquo;ve done for her when my sister (her mom) did what she did to her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I moved on but I vowed to never speak to them again. My husband and I are happily married and we have a new baby and we&rsquo;re thriving.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Now my niece has met someone and she&rsquo;s getting married. My mom told me and told me to mark my calendar because we&rsquo;re going. I refused and reminded her of what they did on my wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My mom told me to stop living in the past and be the bigger person. I even cried to her and she gave me a blank stare then told me that no one thinks about her and that il regret my actions when she dies. She says I&rsquo;m being incredibly selfish and bitter and she&rsquo;s shocked that I&rsquo;m not over it. I&rsquo;m still refusing to go. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Helena__Handbasket/" target="_blank">hellainahandbasket</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA, but, you have to stop thinking like this, because it just feeds into the drama. What your mom wants or thinks is irrelevant. Your sister&#39;s relationship with her future husband and her inlaws have nothing to do with you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You&#39;ve been invited, and you&#39;ve declined. The reasons don&#39;t matter. Just stop engaging. Honestly, all of this drama over years and years is just ridiculous. You can&#39;t control others, you can only control your response to things. Stop responding.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Sirix_8472/" target="_blank">sirix543</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Sister is an AH. Mom is an AH enabling your sister and that behaviour, downplaying your feelings.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your mom got an invite, she told you about the wedding, she told you that you were going. Here&#39;s the thing though, you didn&#39;t get an invite, your sister or her daughter didn&#39;t invite you, your sister or her daughter didn&#39;t ask you to go to the wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Honestly, I&#39;d chalk that up to &quot;mom&#39;s wishful thinking&quot;, thinking she can bring the family together.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Or, &quot;this is another one of sister and nieces BS adventures&quot;, i.e. you turn up on the day and they throw a fit &quot;you weren&#39;t invited&quot; etc.. and use it to humiliate you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I wouldn&#39;t be going. I&#39;d be letting mom know her own behaviour and acceptance of their behaviours is not acceptable. That we are No Contact with them til they apologize and even then, limited contact to build trust as a new friendship(rather than automatically going back to &quot;were family&quot; like in mom&#39;s magical head).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You can only be the bigger person for so long. drop them like an anchor, dead weight, holding you down and move on.</p> </blockquote><h2>Wow, looks like OP is NTA. Any thoughts on how to mend this relationship?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman gets revenge on niece and sister after they try to 'sabotage' her wedding.

When this woman is angry with her niece and sister, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA (26F) for refusing to go to my nieces (23F) wedding after her and my sister (40F) attempted to sabotage mine?&quot; Il be honest, my sister and I never had the best relationship. She&rsquo;s 15 years older than me so maybe we didn&rsquo;t have much of a connection and she&rsquo;s always been resentful towards me.  She&rsquo;s treated me like an outcast and would often turn her kids against me and encourage them to insult me, disrespect me and treat me like dirt. My mom would always tell me to &ldquo;be the bigger person&rdquo;. So I would always forgive when they would apologize or act all nice again.  During COVID lockdowns, my sister and her husband (not my nieces father) kicked her out because my sister was having her many mood swings, she has 4 other children and got them to participate in kicking out my niece.  She called me and I quickly went to pick her up and I met her on the curb with trash bags and with my sister refusing to open the door.  So I took her in my home where she stayed for 6 months and she even secured an apartment. Once my niece (20 at the time) got her apartment, my sister and her husband convinced her to move back in and my niece did and then the same niece turned on me and I felt very sad because she was in my home and I did everything for her when her own mom discarded her like trash.  Fast forward to 2021, she does the same thing with her (16M) son and he called me and again, I picked him up and let him stay.  At the time, my now husband and we&rsquo;re planning a wedding and of course regardless of our differences, there was no way I couldn&rsquo;t invite my sister and her kids. Also, It was in the height of COVID restrictions so we were very limited and the church only accepted close family.  When I invited my sister, her and her kids ridiculed me. My sister even said that my attitude is too disgusting to get married, they&rsquo;re not coming because I don&rsquo;t deserve to get married, they even blocked me except my niece who promised she&rsquo;ll be there and promised to act as a witness.  The day of, she didn&rsquo;t show up, no call no nothing. Thankfully, the photographer was nice enough to be a second witness for us.  My mom called my niece asking why she did this. My niece said &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t even know what kind of wedding it is, I don&rsquo;t see the point in all this&rdquo; then hung up. I was broken and in tears. I know my sister put them up to it but I thought my niece would have risen above it given all I&rsquo;ve done for her when my sister (her mom) did what she did to her.  I moved on but I vowed to never speak to them again. My husband and I are happily married and we have a new baby and we&rsquo;re thriving.  Now my niece has met someone and she&rsquo;s getting married. My mom told me and told me to mark my calendar because we&rsquo;re going. I refused and reminded her of what they did on my wedding.  My mom told me to stop living in the past and be the bigger person. I even cried to her and she gave me a blank stare then told me that no one thinks about her and that il regret my actions when she dies. She says I&rsquo;m being incredibly selfish and bitter and she&rsquo;s shocked that I&rsquo;m not over it. I&rsquo;m still refusing to go. AITA? Let&#39;s find out.hellainahandbasket writes: NTA, but, you have to stop thinking like this, because it just feeds into the drama. What your mom wants or thinks is irrelevant. Your sister&#39;s relationship with her future husband and her inlaws have nothing to do with you.  You&#39;ve been invited, and you&#39;ve declined. The reasons don&#39;t matter. Just stop engaging. Honestly, all of this drama over years and years is just ridiculous. You can&#39;t control others, you can only control your response to things. Stop responding. sirix543 writes: NTA. Sister is an AH. Mom is an AH enabling your sister and that behaviour, downplaying your feelings.  Your mom got an invite, she told you about the wedding, she told you that you were going. Here&#39;s the thing though, you didn&#39;t get an invite, your sister or her daughter didn&#39;t invite you, your sister or her daughter didn&#39;t ask you to go to the wedding.  Honestly, I&#39;d chalk that up to &quot;mom&#39;s wishful thinking&quot;, thinking she can bring the family together.  Or, &quot;this is another one of sister and nieces BS adventures&quot;, i.e. you turn up on the day and they throw a fit &quot;you weren&#39;t invited&quot; etc.. and use it to humiliate you.  I wouldn&#39;t be going. I&#39;d be letting mom know her own behaviour and acceptance of their behaviours is not acceptable. That we are No Contact with them til they apologize and even then, limited contact to build trust as a new friendship(rather than automatically going back to &quot;were family&quot; like in mom&#39;s magical head).  You can only be the bigger person for so long. drop them like an anchor, dead weight, holding you down and move on. Wow, looks like OP is NTA. Any thoughts on how to mend this relationship?

When this woman is angry with her niece and sister, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA (26F) for refusing to go to my nieces (23F) wedding after her and my sister (40F) attempted to sabotage mine?&quot;   Il be honest, my sister and I never had...