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<p>When this woman is weirded out by her hosts, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/117r01h/wibta_for_continuing_to_wear_a_swimsuit_in/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;WIBTA for continuing to wear a swimsuit in friends&#39; hot tub?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m currently spending the week visiting a couple that I&#39;ve been friends with for many years now. I get on really well with both of them and it&#39;s nice to catch up and spend some time in their part of the country.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They have a nice house and recently added a private hot tub area out the back and said I was welcome to use it. It&#39;s got a small sauna, the hot tub, and an outdoor shower - it&#39;s all enclosed for privacy.&#39;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They&#39;re fairly open about the fact that they use it naked. I know they&#39;ve visited European spas where swimwear isn&#39;t allowed and stuff. They&#39;re not naturists but they just prefer not to wear anything in spas.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They&#39;ve got some little jokey signs up in the spa area about being nude and another about etiquette like showering before getting in the hot tub and sitting on a towel in the sauna etc but one of the etiquette rules said that swimwear was not allowed and I ignored that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I get that it&#39;s their thing but it&#39;s not something I wanted to do so I wore my swimsuit. I left it to dry with the towels which they noticed and asked if I&#39;d worn it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told them that I had and they told me that it wasn&rsquo;t appropriate because they don&#39;t allow swimwear.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>For me it just felt weird to get naked because it&#39;s just a preference and anyway no one was around when I used it so I didn&#39;t feel the need to follow that particular rule. I followed all the others.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I said I just don&#39;t want to be out there naked and have someone come along and see me. I said I&#39;d do it if they promise not to also use it while I am or I don&#39;t mind them being naked but I&#39;d rather have something on.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They both said that it&#39;s not a big deal to be naked in a spa and that if I used it when they are out or working then it&#39;s unlikely either of them will come out at the same time as me but they won&#39;t promise to give me private use.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They&#39;re saying as it&#39;s their house I should respect their rules and use it without my swimsuit but they&#39;re basically saying that I can&#39;t object if they then come and join me while I&#39;m naked.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>It wasn&#39;t a super heated argument just a debate about the principle. They&#39;ve told me I shouldn&#39;t use it if I&#39;m not willing to do so nude and accept that they may also want to use it at the same time. WIBTA if I ignore them and just keep wearing my swimsuit when I use it?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SuzieQbert/" target="_blank">suzieqbert</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I wouldn&#39;t bother with the AITA posts at all. I&#39;d be leaving. There is no health or equipment maintenance reason to not wear a swimsuit.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This is them being weird and pretentious, trying to emulate some European vibe that doesn&#39;t always align with social norms in other places. They don&#39;t get to demand nudity from you. NTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ParkingOutside6500/" target="_blank">parkingoutside6500</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>This is 100% sexual harassment. Unless there&#39;s a medical need for it, nudity should never be &quot;required.&quot;. Whether they want to film you, have a threesome, are just like watching naked people, you being naked is for THEM, not you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Otherwise it would be a suggestion, not a requirement. NTA, but they are, and creepy ones.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Used_Grocery_9048/" target="_blank">usedgrocery438</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Yes NTA. If you&rsquo;re not comfy without a swimsuit and you sit on a towel then they don&rsquo;t have anything to complain about, especially if they aren&rsquo;t even there. Worst case scenario then, politely decline to use the sauna.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You should be able to relax, that&rsquo;s the point, if you can&rsquo;t and it&rsquo;s not enjoyable then it&rsquo;s kind of moot.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, looks like OP is NTA. But were her friends sexually harassing her? What do YOU think?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman feels weird when her married friends 'harass' her in their hot tub.

When this woman is weirded out by her hosts, she asks Reddit:&quot;WIBTA for continuing to wear a swimsuit in friends&#39; hot tub?&quot; I&#39;m currently spending the week visiting a couple that I&#39;ve been friends with for many years now. I get on really well with both of them and it&#39;s nice to catch up and spend some time in their part of the country.  They have a nice house and recently added a private hot tub area out the back and said I was welcome to use it. It&#39;s got a small sauna, the hot tub, and an outdoor shower - it&#39;s all enclosed for privacy.&#39;  They&#39;re fairly open about the fact that they use it naked. I know they&#39;ve visited European spas where swimwear isn&#39;t allowed and stuff. They&#39;re not naturists but they just prefer not to wear anything in spas.  They&#39;ve got some little jokey signs up in the spa area about being nude and another about etiquette like showering before getting in the hot tub and sitting on a towel in the sauna etc but one of the etiquette rules said that swimwear was not allowed and I ignored that.  I get that it&#39;s their thing but it&#39;s not something I wanted to do so I wore my swimsuit. I left it to dry with the towels which they noticed and asked if I&#39;d worn it.  I told them that I had and they told me that it wasn&rsquo;t appropriate because they don&#39;t allow swimwear.  For me it just felt weird to get naked because it&#39;s just a preference and anyway no one was around when I used it so I didn&#39;t feel the need to follow that particular rule. I followed all the others.  I said I just don&#39;t want to be out there naked and have someone come along and see me. I said I&#39;d do it if they promise not to also use it while I am or I don&#39;t mind them being naked but I&#39;d rather have something on.  They both said that it&#39;s not a big deal to be naked in a spa and that if I used it when they are out or working then it&#39;s unlikely either of them will come out at the same time as me but they won&#39;t promise to give me private use.  They&#39;re saying as it&#39;s their house I should respect their rules and use it without my swimsuit but they&#39;re basically saying that I can&#39;t object if they then come and join me while I&#39;m naked.  It wasn&#39;t a super heated argument just a debate about the principle. They&#39;ve told me I shouldn&#39;t use it if I&#39;m not willing to do so nude and accept that they may also want to use it at the same time. WIBTA if I ignore them and just keep wearing my swimsuit when I use it? Let&#39;s find out.suzieqbert writes: I wouldn&#39;t bother with the AITA posts at all. I&#39;d be leaving. There is no health or equipment maintenance reason to not wear a swimsuit.  This is them being weird and pretentious, trying to emulate some European vibe that doesn&#39;t always align with social norms in other places. They don&#39;t get to demand nudity from you. NTA. parkingoutside6500 writes: This is 100% sexual harassment. Unless there&#39;s a medical need for it, nudity should never be &quot;required.&quot;. Whether they want to film you, have a threesome, are just like watching naked people, you being naked is for THEM, not you.  Otherwise it would be a suggestion, not a requirement. NTA, but they are, and creepy ones. usedgrocery438 writes: Yes NTA. If you&rsquo;re not comfy without a swimsuit and you sit on a towel then they don&rsquo;t have anything to complain about, especially if they aren&rsquo;t even there. Worst case scenario then, politely decline to use the sauna.  You should be able to relax, that&rsquo;s the point, if you can&rsquo;t and it&rsquo;s not enjoyable then it&rsquo;s kind of moot. Well, looks like OP is NTA. But were her friends sexually harassing her? What do YOU think?

When this woman is weirded out by her hosts, she asks Reddit:  &quot;WIBTA for continuing to wear a swimsuit in friends&#39; hot tub?&quot;   I&#39;m currently spending the week visiting a couple that I&#39;ve been friends with for many...