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Woman wants to name baby the same name as SIL, SIL disapproves completely. AITA?

Woman wants to name baby the same name as SIL, SIL disapproves completely. AITA?

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When this woman is feeling guilty about her baby, she asks Reddit:

'AITA for naming my baby the same name as my SIL, even after she told me not to?'

I, 24F have always wanted to call my baby Hope, after my great grandma who passed when I was younger. She was the sweetest woman and I have always said I’d name my first daughter after her in her memory.

Well as it turns out, my boyfriend has a younger sister called Hope, she’s 26 and doesn’t really have the best relationship with her brother. They speak on occasions, but just each get on with their own lives, so we hardly have contact with her, besides at family gatherings.

I told my boyfriend I planned on using the name for our daughter, way before we even found out I was pregnant, he agreed and was fine with it. However, when we found out we were expecting a baby girl, he said we should at least tell his sister that’s the name we have chosen.

I agreed and we arranged to go out for lunch together, there I told her about how I’ve always wanted to use her name, and the baby wouldn’t be named after her as such, but they would share a name as it is important to me.

His sister was not happy about it and said she didn’t like the idea of her niece sharing the same name as her and asked us please not to use it. I explained I wasn’t really asking permission, I was more informing her of our choice.

She wasn’t very happy about it, but this was months ago and my boyfriend and I assumed she would be over it by now. Anyway, 2 weeks ago when my daughter was born, bf posted in his family group chat a photo of her and her name, Hope. His sister called me and first said congratulations, but she didn’t understand why we used that name when she specifically asked us not to.

I said that it’s going on her birth certificate if she likes it or not as she couldn’t even give me a reason not to use her name, whereas I could give her reasons why I wanted to. She called my boyfriend and I assholes and said this will only impact her relationship with her brother even more. But honestly, I don’t see what’s wrong with using the name. AITA?

Let's find out.

makethatnoise writes:

NAH. You are allowed to name your child whatever you want. She is also allowed to express her feelings, and say 'Hey, I don't really like that'. She is telling you 'this will effect my relationship with the child' and being honest.

dontgroveit writes:

I told her about how I’ve always wanted to use her name. You don't want to use HER name, you want to use THAT name. She doesn't own it. NTA.

spotswoodforgod writes:

NTA - but perhaps there could be some kind of compromise position - in order to avoid any confusion by naming your child Hope (nice name by the way), you could encourage the rest of the family to start calling your SIL “Hopeless…”

Looks like OP is NTA in this situation. Any advice for her going forward?

Sources: Reddit
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