'Foodie' annoyed boyfriend insists on bringing ketchup to sushi birthday dinner.
Sorry this all seems ridiculous but I need a sanity check. I consider myself a 'foodie' but my boyfriend Jay is the exact opposite. Like he'll literally eat but it's more than that — he always starts things with me when I try to take him out for good food.
For example last year I got us reservations at a steak house and he made a point of ordering his steak well done with ketchup. The thing is he doesn't even like eating the food this way he does it to 'make a point' that no one, not even I, can tell him how to eat his food.
Well his birthday is coming up and he likes sushi so I wanted to treat him to a nice Omakase experience. It's where you sit with the chef and eat the food in front of them. It's more than I spend on food in two weeks but I thought it could be fun for both of us.
Today he told me he's only going to go if he can bring a bottle of Heinz ketchup and put it on the table. I thought he was joking but he was serious. I told him I've literally never seen him — or anyone else — eat sushi with ketchup.
He actually got mad at me saying that nobody gets to decide for him how he enjoys his food. He went on to yell at me that it's a shitty birthday gift because I'm the foodie and he isn't.
I think he's being obnoxious with the ketchup thing but maybe he's just making a point about me forcing my hobbies on him idk. AITA?
From the comments:
revenantae says
I'm so confused.... nothing makes sense. He like sushi, but he wants to bring to ketchup... does he know what omakase is? Does he normally each sushi with ketchup? I feel like I'm missing a lot of the real story. I'm going to go with a provisional ESH till I get more info.
Familiar_Sign_3620 OP responds:
hi sorry I'm not great at writing. He doesn't even like ketchup on sushi. He just wants to bring it to draw attention and make a point.
bofh says:
Yeah. The boyfriend sounds like an absolute chore to deal with here, but may well be justified in their behaviour if they’re not a ‘foodie’ but keep getting foodie experiences as gifts.
Irish_Whiskey says:
YTA
'The thing is he doesn't even like eating the food this way he does it to 'make a point''...so why are you taking him out to nice restaurants for his birthday? Do something else!
finburgers says:
ESH - it sounds like it's his birthday but you're doing something you want to do. He sucks for deliberately embarrassing you in public.