So, when a conflicted groom decided to consult the gloriously petty and judgmental 'Wedding Shaming,' group on Reddit about his brother's unique condition, people were eager to help pile on.
For anyone who doesn't know pica is an eating disorder that causes people to eat things that are not food like rocks, drywall, chalk, nails, plastic etc. He developed it as an adult and he refuses to see a doctor or have treatment.
My parents say if I avoid having the things he eats at my wedding he'll be able to go without being disruptive. So no flowers, no paper, no lace on the bride's veil, no plants in soil for our centerpieces.
There are other things (like my brother will eat rocks) but these are the main ones. I'm not changing my wedding for a 35 year-old man who likes to eat dirt. It's not my problem no matter what my parents say.
I'm sure as hell not telling my fiancee she can't have flowers or can't wear the veil she wants. Just complaining and venting because it has been a very trying time dealing with my parents on this.
Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this family wedding drama. Here's what people had to say:
Now im just imagining him munching away at the veil during the ceremony.
To which the groom responded:
He legitimately ate some of our nana's lace tablecloth and needed surgery to remove it because he ended up with a blockage. I'm not even joking. So my parents tried to ban my fiancee from having the lace veil that she is buying for her own wedding. It makes me angry that this is the hill they want to die on.
Give him a little goodie bag of all his favourite treats - lace, flowers, chalk and soil. Then he can do what he wants without disrupting everything. Or don’t invite him. That works too.
I truly want you to stick to your guns like this and not allow your family to walk all over you and your fiancé at your own wedding. That being said, I’m also kind of hoping for an update in like a month titled “My brother tried to eat my wife’s wedding dress during the ceremony and I kicked his a*s in front of everyone.'
As someone with pica, your brother can absolutely just bring his own chalk to munch on. If he is making it other peoples' problem...he is probably just a d*ck. He could chew on crushed ice while he's there and be fine. If not, he's being disruptive on purpose.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this couple wouldn't be wrong to refuse to invite the groom's brother to their wedding if they aren't sure he'll be able to control his urges around his favorite...snacks? Good luck, everyone!