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<p>Divorced dads dating much younger women is a tale as old as the men who do this. And while it&#39;s not a crime for an older man to date a younger (legal, consenting) adult woman, it can sure make things uncomfortable for the rest of the family. Especially when the man&#39;s kids are similar in age to his new girlfriend.</p><h2>A 31-year-old bride-to-be took to Reddit to <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/s6k1ax/aita_for_not_wanting_my_dad_to_bring_his/" target="_blank">ask</a> if she&#39;s wrong to not invite her dad&#39;s 32-year-old girlfriend to her wedding, since it would make both her and her mom uncomfortable.</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>So I (31F) am marrying the love of my life (31F) who i&#39;ve been with for seven years, we were meant to get married a long time ago but then the whole world went to shit so it was put on the backburner for a while. I know some of you will likely be concerned because of the Omnicron Variant but there is going to be a total of thirty guests with both our sides combined, it is going to be in our back garden and every guest must be double vaccinated and test negative on a lateral flow test, if you think this is overkill it&#39;s just a precaution we feel most comfortable with because i&#39;m a Paramedic and I don&#39;t want to risk infecting anyone in an emergency.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She doesn&#39;t want to invite her dad&#39;s girlfriend, who he has been dating a year and who is 20 years his junior, because she&#39;s &quot;not comfortable&quot; with it, and because the age difference will make her mom &quot;embarrassed.&quot;</h2><p>Her parents have been divorced three years.</p><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>The issue here is my parents, my parents (51F) and (53M) got divorced three years ago, I want both at the wedding and they were willing to play nice for me and not cause any drama, but now my Dad is insisting I invite his girlfriend (32F) who he has been dating a year. I am not comfortable with this as it&#39;s a small family event and then there is the embarrassment my Mum feels over him dating a woman only a year older than me, frankly I agree with her on this....</p> </blockquote><h2>The bride agrees with her mom and doesn&#39;t want to invite her dad&#39;s girlfriend, but her dad insists she&#39;s being &quot;petty&quot; by &quot;caving&quot; to her mom&#39;s &quot;whims.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>i&#39;m sure she&#39;s a lovely woman and I hold no personal grudge against her but I just know inviting her is a recipe for disaster as it will be awkward for everyone but my Dad insists i&#39;m being petty and caving to my Mum&#39;s whims in this matter and that if I gave his girlfriend a chance i&#39;d really like her and that it&#39;s not fair i&#39;m excluding her. AITA for not wanting to invite her?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So she asked Reddit: &quot;Am I the a**hole?&quot;</p><h2>Commenters seem to largely agree that no, she&#39;s <em>not </em>the a**hole!</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Opinionated_123/">Opinionated_123</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">Your phrasing tells me you&#39;ve never met her. Just tell your dad the truth: it&#39;s only for people you&#39;re close with. NTA, and congratulations!</span></p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/usmc70114/">usmc70114</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Any dad who doesn&#39;t understand that dating someone basically the same age as their daughter has issues that you can&#39;t fix. Stand your ground.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DrewMaguire/">DrewMaguire</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">NTA I had my dad&rsquo;s girlfriend at mine despite not inviting her.</span></p> <p>She insisted on being in the photos as a result all my photos are off center because the photographer knew she wasn&rsquo;t invited.</p> <p>Your wedding is yours</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SpiritOne/">SpiritOne</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Oh come on, I&rsquo;m sure you&rsquo;ll like her, you&rsquo;ll be like sisters!</p> <p>I&rsquo;m sorry, even typing that my eyes rolled back in my head.</p> <p>NTA: you&rsquo;re keeping it small, drama free, about you and your soon to be wife. You don&rsquo;t need that sh*t in your life. Good luck, I wish you a wonderful marriage.</p> <p>PS: whether she&rsquo;s invited or not, be prepared for your dad to bring her.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RafRafRafRaf/">RafRafRafRaf</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, who&rsquo;d want someone that neither bride had even <em>met</em> at their wedding?! Only 30 guests, why on earth would one of the 30 be a complete stranger to you both.</p> <p>Deffo a good idea to meet her just for general making nice reasons but at your tiny, pandemic wedding&hellip; if it doesn&rsquo;t feel right that&rsquo;s all there is to it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Well, that settles it. Her wedding! Her choice!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if she’s wrong not to invite dad’s much younger GF to wedding.

Divorced dads dating much younger women is a tale as old as the men who do this. And while it&#39;s not a crime for an older man to date a younger (legal, consenting) adult woman, it can sure make things uncomfortable for the rest of the family. Especially when the man&#39;s kids are similar in age to his new girlfriend.A 31-year-old bride-to-be took to Reddit to ask if she&#39;s wrong to not invite her dad&#39;s 32-year-old girlfriend to her wedding, since it would make both her and her mom uncomfortable.She writes: So I (31F) am marrying the love of my life (31F) who i&#39;ve been with for seven years, we were meant to get married a long time ago but then the whole world went to shit so it was put on the backburner for a while. I know some of you will likely be concerned because of the Omnicron Variant but there is going to be a total of thirty guests with both our sides combined, it is going to be in our back garden and every guest must be double vaccinated and test negative on a lateral flow test, if you think this is overkill it&#39;s just a precaution we feel most comfortable with because i&#39;m a Paramedic and I don&#39;t want to risk infecting anyone in an emergency. She doesn&#39;t want to invite her dad&#39;s girlfriend, who he has been dating a year and who is 20 years his junior, because she&#39;s &quot;not comfortable&quot; with it, and because the age difference will make her mom &quot;embarrassed.&quot;Her parents have been divorced three years.She writes: The issue here is my parents, my parents (51F) and (53M) got divorced three years ago, I want both at the wedding and they were willing to play nice for me and not cause any drama, but now my Dad is insisting I invite his girlfriend (32F) who he has been dating a year. I am not comfortable with this as it&#39;s a small family event and then there is the embarrassment my Mum feels over him dating a woman only a year older than me, frankly I agree with her on this.... The bride agrees with her mom and doesn&#39;t want to invite her dad&#39;s girlfriend, but her dad insists she&#39;s being &quot;petty&quot; by &quot;caving&quot; to her mom&#39;s &quot;whims.&quot; i&#39;m sure she&#39;s a lovely woman and I hold no personal grudge against her but I just know inviting her is a recipe for disaster as it will be awkward for everyone but my Dad insists i&#39;m being petty and caving to my Mum&#39;s whims in this matter and that if I gave his girlfriend a chance i&#39;d really like her and that it&#39;s not fair i&#39;m excluding her. AITA for not wanting to invite her? So she asked Reddit: &quot;Am I the a**hole?&quot;Commenters seem to largely agree that no, she&#39;s not the a**hole!Opinionated_123 writes: Your phrasing tells me you&#39;ve never met her. Just tell your dad the truth: it&#39;s only for people you&#39;re close with. NTA, and congratulations! usmc70114 writes: NTA. Any dad who doesn&#39;t understand that dating someone basically the same age as their daughter has issues that you can&#39;t fix. Stand your ground. DrewMaguire writes: NTA I had my dad&rsquo;s girlfriend at mine despite not inviting her. She insisted on being in the photos as a result all my photos are off center because the photographer knew she wasn&rsquo;t invited. Your wedding is yours  SpiritOne writes: Oh come on, I&rsquo;m sure you&rsquo;ll like her, you&rsquo;ll be like sisters! I&rsquo;m sorry, even typing that my eyes rolled back in my head. NTA: you&rsquo;re keeping it small, drama free, about you and your soon to be wife. You don&rsquo;t need that sh*t in your life. Good luck, I wish you a wonderful marriage. PS: whether she&rsquo;s invited or not, be prepared for your dad to bring her. RafRafRafRaf writes: NTA, who&rsquo;d want someone that neither bride had even met at their wedding?! Only 30 guests, why on earth would one of the 30 be a complete stranger to you both. Deffo a good idea to meet her just for general making nice reasons but at your tiny, pandemic wedding&hellip; if it doesn&rsquo;t feel right that&rsquo;s all there is to it. Well, that settles it. Her wedding! Her choice!

Divorced dads dating much younger women is a tale as old as the men who do this. And while it&#39;s not a crime for an older man to date a younger (legal, consenting) adult woman, it can sure make things uncomfortable for the rest of the...