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<p>Is it selfish to spend your money on yourself, or are you obligated to help a family member in need? That&#39;s the question Reddit user <a data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WorldlyReading7199/">u/WorldlyReading7199</a> is hoping to have answered here today. He planned a European dream vacation with his wife, however, his sister thinks that money should instead be used to fund <em>her</em> fertility treatments. Now, this brother is asking the internet:</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tahvhd/aita_for_going_on_an_expensive_vacation_and_not/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I The As*hole) for going on an expensive vacation and not helping fund my sister&#39;s IVF?</h2><p>He writes:</p><blockquote> <p>My (30M) sister(34F) has been struggling to conceive with her husband for a few years now. They recently went to a Gyno and were told they likely would be unable to without IVF.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Obviously, she&#39;s upset about it. Idk their exact financial situation but she and her husband are both teachers at private schools.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They said their insurance doesn&#39;t cover it at all and that they were told it would likely be about 25k all in with the medication and everything.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>There is no guarantee of success and it could be 25k and no positive result. They asked me and my parents if we could help pitch in and my parents objected due to it being against their religious beliefs.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not religious at all and don&#39;t have any ethical objections but that&#39;s just a lot of money with no guarantee so it seems like a bad idea and I&#39;m just not comfortable with giving that amount to a family member.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My wife and I work hard and we don&#39;t want to potentially throw many away if it didn&#39;t succeed so we told them no. She was upset but left it at that (at the time) when we told her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Well, my wife and I have always wanted to go to Europe and now that travel is back on we decided to take a trip together. I don&#39;t use social media but my wife does and she got excited and posted on her story a confirmation of our flight being booked.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Well, my sister saw that and then texted me saying how I was an asshole for spending all this money on a vacation but not helping my own sister have a family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At first, I brushed it off as her just being upset at her situation but then today I got another mean text from her. AITA here?</p> </blockquote><p>My heart breaks for anyone going through fertility struggles. I&#39;m sure the emotional, physical, and financial struggles feel unbearable for this sister right now. However, it&#39;s no one else&#39;s responsibility to foot the bill for her IVF. Her situation may feel unfair, but she is not entitled to her brother&#39;s finances. He and his wife should be able to spend their money in any way that they choose, guilt-free. </p><p>Some people&#39;s dreams are to have children and some people would rather see the world. It&#39;s a choice, and one is not more valuable than the other. The people of Reddit agree with me, this brother is &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for using his money to go on a dream vacation with his wife instead of funding his sister&#39;s fertility treatment. </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mis_Bee_Have/">Mis_Bee_Have</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. It&rsquo;s not your job to fund her dreams.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KraftyLikeAFox/">KraftyLikeAFox</a></p><blockquote> <p>Very sad she hasn&rsquo;t been able to conceive naturally, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean OP is required to bankroll her. It&rsquo;s been a really hard 2 years for everyone, and if OP wants to spend money on a nice family vacation then that&rsquo;s his call. Firm NTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SodaButteWolf/">SodaButteWolf</a></p><blockquote> <p>Why do so many people insist that others are obligated to pay for their IVF, their house, their niece&#39;s wedding, etc.? We are an entitled species. NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RecentRegister239/">RecentRegister239</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Having been through IVF myself, I feel for your sister. She thinks you can help her and are choosing not to, and that must hurt her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That said, your money is your money, she asked for help and you declined, what you do with your money isn&rsquo;t her business.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So confronting you more than once already about your trip makes her TA.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Cortana_Echo/">Cortana_Echo</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA: Her situation sucks but that does not mean you are obligated to help her. That is a lot of money.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Maleficent_Ad407/">Maleficent_Ad407</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your dreams aren&rsquo;t worth less than her dreams. This is your dream and your money.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Same_Hurry8142/">Same_Hurry8142</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You&rsquo;re not obligated to give your money to your sister. I feel sad she is having fertility issues, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you can&rsquo;t go on vacation. NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Panoglitch/">Panoglitch</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA I&rsquo;m sure your sister is going through a lot of emotions right now but I can&rsquo;t see how you&rsquo;d be obligated in any way to give her money</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if it's wrong to take a vacation instead of funding his sister's IVF.

Is it selfish to spend your money on yourself, or are you obligated to help a family member in need? That&#39;s the question Reddit user u/WorldlyReading7199 is hoping to have answered here today. He planned a European dream vacation with his wife, however, his sister thinks that money should instead be used to fund her fertility treatments. Now, this brother is asking the internet:AITA (Am I The As*hole) for going on an expensive vacation and not helping fund my sister&#39;s IVF?He writes: My (30M) sister(34F) has been struggling to conceive with her husband for a few years now. They recently went to a Gyno and were told they likely would be unable to without IVF.  Obviously, she&#39;s upset about it. Idk their exact financial situation but she and her husband are both teachers at private schools.  They said their insurance doesn&#39;t cover it at all and that they were told it would likely be about 25k all in with the medication and everything.  There is no guarantee of success and it could be 25k and no positive result. They asked me and my parents if we could help pitch in and my parents objected due to it being against their religious beliefs.  I&#39;m not religious at all and don&#39;t have any ethical objections but that&#39;s just a lot of money with no guarantee so it seems like a bad idea and I&#39;m just not comfortable with giving that amount to a family member.  My wife and I work hard and we don&#39;t want to potentially throw many away if it didn&#39;t succeed so we told them no. She was upset but left it at that (at the time) when we told her.  Well, my wife and I have always wanted to go to Europe and now that travel is back on we decided to take a trip together. I don&#39;t use social media but my wife does and she got excited and posted on her story a confirmation of our flight being booked.  Well, my sister saw that and then texted me saying how I was an asshole for spending all this money on a vacation but not helping my own sister have a family.  At first, I brushed it off as her just being upset at her situation but then today I got another mean text from her. AITA here? My heart breaks for anyone going through fertility struggles. I&#39;m sure the emotional, physical, and financial struggles feel unbearable for this sister right now. However, it&#39;s no one else&#39;s responsibility to foot the bill for her IVF. Her situation may feel unfair, but she is not entitled to her brother&#39;s finances. He and his wife should be able to spend their money in any way that they choose, guilt-free. Some people&#39;s dreams are to have children and some people would rather see the world. It&#39;s a choice, and one is not more valuable than the other. The people of Reddit agree with me, this brother is &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for using his money to go on a dream vacation with his wife instead of funding his sister&#39;s fertility treatment. Mis_Bee_Have NTA. It&rsquo;s not your job to fund her dreams. KraftyLikeAFox Very sad she hasn&rsquo;t been able to conceive naturally, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean OP is required to bankroll her. It&rsquo;s been a really hard 2 years for everyone, and if OP wants to spend money on a nice family vacation then that&rsquo;s his call. Firm NTA. SodaButteWolf Why do so many people insist that others are obligated to pay for their IVF, their house, their niece&#39;s wedding, etc.? We are an entitled species. NTA RecentRegister239 NTA. Having been through IVF myself, I feel for your sister. She thinks you can help her and are choosing not to, and that must hurt her.  That said, your money is your money, she asked for help and you declined, what you do with your money isn&rsquo;t her business.  So confronting you more than once already about your trip makes her TA. Cortana_Echo NTA: Her situation sucks but that does not mean you are obligated to help her. That is a lot of money. Maleficent_Ad407 NTA. Your dreams aren&rsquo;t worth less than her dreams. This is your dream and your money. Same_Hurry8142 You&rsquo;re not obligated to give your money to your sister. I feel sad she is having fertility issues, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you can&rsquo;t go on vacation. NTA Panoglitch NTA I&rsquo;m sure your sister is going through a lot of emotions right now but I can&rsquo;t see how you&rsquo;d be obligated in any way to give her money 

Is it selfish to spend your money on yourself, or are you obligated to help a family member in need? That&#39;s the question Reddit user u/WorldlyReading7199 is hoping to have answered here today. He planned a European dream vacation with...