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<p>Most moms would move heaven and earth to be there with their daughter while she picks out her wedding dress. Sadly for Reddit user <a data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/wishbonewedding/">u/wishbonewedding</a>, her mom won&#39;t even move a yoga class. </p><p>Now, this bride-to-be is asking the internet if she&#39;s wrong for attending a bridal appointment while her mom is busy doing downward dog. </p><h1><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tbeyug/aita_for_refusing_to_include_my_mom_when_i_go/">AITA</a> (Am I The As*hole) for &quot;refusing to include&quot; my mom when I go wedding dress shopping?</h1><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" onload="(__markFirstPostVisible || function(){})();" src="https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/renderTimingPixel.png" /></div></figure><blockquote> <p>I (F29) am engaged to my fiance (M32) and we plan on having our wedding towards the end of this year. We are so excited, and I cannot wait for him to be my husband.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Together, we have planned most of the wedding and have organized all of the vendors except for buying my wedding dress.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I have started the process of looking for dresses, but most bridal boutiques are fully booked into 2023 to accommodate all of the weddings which were postponed over the past two years.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I have called every boutique within driving distance and have been put on every waiting list.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>About a week ago, I received a call from a local boutique telling me that someone had canceled their appointment and that a spot had opened up if I would like to take it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The only catch is that the appointment will be early in the morning, as most boutiques have extended their business hours to accommodate as many people as possible.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>With current restrictions, the boutique only allows for me to bring one guest so I phoned my mom (F52) to invite her along. This is an event that I would really like to share with her, and she has always told me that she&#39;d like to be there.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Unfortunately, as she reminded me, the appointment coincides with her weekly yoga class which she has been attending for 20 years.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I explained that the boutique had me on a waiting list and I did not choose the appointment time, but she feels that I &quot;did not push them hard enough.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I phoned the boutique back, and they said that I could either go back on the waiting list, or I could attend. This was their only available appointment, so I confirmed that I would attend.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I phoned my mom back to let her know, and she again declined saying that I should know the time of the class after 20 years. So, I invited my soon-to-be MIL (F58) in my mom&#39;s place.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This has caused a rift, with my parents saying that I am excluding my mom from a special experience and &quot;showing my true colors&quot;, while my fiance and future in-laws feel that I gave my mom the first choice and it was her decision to decline.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>As of right now, my parents have said that they will not attend the wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I am honestly at a crossroads, I am so grateful that my MIL can attend and we can share something special but I would hate for my parents to miss my wedding because they feel so excluded.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My mom has told me that she will use this experience as an indicator for how I will behave for the rest of my life and that she is clearly lower down on the priority list than my future in-laws.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She has also said that she feels I vindictively chose the appointment time to purposefully exclude her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>AITA for not trying harder to include my mom in a special mother-daughter moment?</p> </blockquote><p>LOL. Imagine choosing ONE yoga class over going wedding dress shopping with your daughter. Lady, it&#39;s a yoga class, not a triple bypass. I&#39;ve skipped workouts for every reason under the sun (my dog looked sad, I stubbed my toe, saw a McDonald&#39;s commercial, happy hour exists, etc.) Missing workouts is easy and fun, this selfish mom should give it a try sometime. </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Not only will Mom not skip one yoga class in 20 years, but she&#39;s also emotionally blackmailing her daughter and threatening to skip her entire wedding over it. Shake my damn head, I thought yoga was supposed to make you calm and flexible. </p><p>Obviously, this bride-to-be is &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; My advice would be to have a fabulous day at the bridal boutique with her mother-in-law, and if mom really refuses to go to her daughter&#39;s wedding over a yoga class then, namaste, bitch. </p><p>The people of Reddit agree:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CreampieLuver1/">CreampieLuver1</a></p><blockquote> <p>Clearly NTA. Mom is choosing a yoga class she attends every week over a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully) event with her daughter.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/i_am_steelia/">i_am_steelia</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. If anything your mother shows how much she values you. She showed her true priority was Yoga and not her daughter&#39;s wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If you happen to go into labor during this hour will she say you did it on purpose so she couldn&#39;t come?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If this makes them decide to not attend your wedding a huge milestone in your life for yoga, then they really don&#39;t value you enough.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Cool-Clerk-9835/">Cool-Clerk-9835</a></p><blockquote> <p>🙄 She couldn&#39;t skip her class ONE TIME. NTA. What a bratty thing to do. You did explain you were on the waiting list and were only able to get the appointment because someone else canceled, right?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She chose a yoga class over going with you, which shows you how high of a priority you were. You can shove that in her face if she continues to complain.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MagicEveryDay/">MagicEveryDay</a></p><blockquote> <p>Agreed, NTA. She says this is super important to her, but obviously, it isn&#39;t more important than a yoga class.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She has set her priorities, and unfortunately, wedding-dress shopping didn&#39;t rank very high for her.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kalpolkghtfdr13/">kalpolkghtfdr13</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She is insisting that she is lower on your priority list than your in-laws, but I would argue that she&#39;s showing you that you&#39;re lower on her priority list than her yoga class.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You did nothing wrong and you should not have to reschedule. It isn&#39;t about her.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ok-Mode-2038/">Ok-Mode-2038</a></p><blockquote> <p>This. Definitely NTA. Mom just showed her true colors and showed her daughter that yoga is more important to her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SookieCat26/">SookieCat26</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Wow. So sorry you have such a selfish and emotionally immature mom. I hope that you find the perfect dress and have a great time bonding with your future MIL. Best wishes to you.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/thatsaSagittarius/">thatsaSagittarius</a></p><blockquote> <p>Your mother put a yoga class over her daughter&#39;s wedding dress shopping. Think about that. A YOGA class. They&#39;re manipulating you into thinking you&#39;re to blame. NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Vulcancomic/">Vulcancomic</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA - you did include your mom, she declined. You did not choose the appointment, the current state of things dictated what must be done.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your mom not understanding this and choosing her yoga class over shopping with her daughter for a wedding dress is a clear indication of where u measure up in her life.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You don&rsquo;t talk about it the post, but I&rsquo;m guessing this is a pattern with her. Sorry, but you have an AH of a mom.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for 'excluding' mom from wedding dress shopping.

Most moms would move heaven and earth to be there with their daughter while she picks out her wedding dress. Sadly for Reddit user u/wishbonewedding, her mom won&#39;t even move a yoga class. Now, this bride-to-be is asking the internet if she&#39;s wrong for attending a bridal appointment while her mom is busy doing downward dog. AITA (Am I The As*hole) for &quot;refusing to include&quot; my mom when I go wedding dress shopping? I (F29) am engaged to my fiance (M32) and we plan on having our wedding towards the end of this year. We are so excited, and I cannot wait for him to be my husband.  Together, we have planned most of the wedding and have organized all of the vendors except for buying my wedding dress.  I have started the process of looking for dresses, but most bridal boutiques are fully booked into 2023 to accommodate all of the weddings which were postponed over the past two years.  I have called every boutique within driving distance and have been put on every waiting list.  About a week ago, I received a call from a local boutique telling me that someone had canceled their appointment and that a spot had opened up if I would like to take it.  The only catch is that the appointment will be early in the morning, as most boutiques have extended their business hours to accommodate as many people as possible.  With current restrictions, the boutique only allows for me to bring one guest so I phoned my mom (F52) to invite her along. This is an event that I would really like to share with her, and she has always told me that she&#39;d like to be there.  Unfortunately, as she reminded me, the appointment coincides with her weekly yoga class which she has been attending for 20 years.  I explained that the boutique had me on a waiting list and I did not choose the appointment time, but she feels that I &quot;did not push them hard enough.&quot;  I phoned the boutique back, and they said that I could either go back on the waiting list, or I could attend. This was their only available appointment, so I confirmed that I would attend.  I phoned my mom back to let her know, and she again declined saying that I should know the time of the class after 20 years. So, I invited my soon-to-be MIL (F58) in my mom&#39;s place.  This has caused a rift, with my parents saying that I am excluding my mom from a special experience and &quot;showing my true colors&quot;, while my fiance and future in-laws feel that I gave my mom the first choice and it was her decision to decline.  As of right now, my parents have said that they will not attend the wedding.  I am honestly at a crossroads, I am so grateful that my MIL can attend and we can share something special but I would hate for my parents to miss my wedding because they feel so excluded.  My mom has told me that she will use this experience as an indicator for how I will behave for the rest of my life and that she is clearly lower down on the priority list than my future in-laws.  She has also said that she feels I vindictively chose the appointment time to purposefully exclude her.  AITA for not trying harder to include my mom in a special mother-daughter moment? LOL. Imagine choosing ONE yoga class over going wedding dress shopping with your daughter. Lady, it&#39;s a yoga class, not a triple bypass. I&#39;ve skipped workouts for every reason under the sun (my dog looked sad, I stubbed my toe, saw a McDonald&#39;s commercial, happy hour exists, etc.) Missing workouts is easy and fun, this selfish mom should give it a try sometime. Not only will Mom not skip one yoga class in 20 years, but she&#39;s also emotionally blackmailing her daughter and threatening to skip her entire wedding over it. Shake my damn head, I thought yoga was supposed to make you calm and flexible. Obviously, this bride-to-be is &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; My advice would be to have a fabulous day at the bridal boutique with her mother-in-law, and if mom really refuses to go to her daughter&#39;s wedding over a yoga class then, namaste, bitch. The people of Reddit agree:CreampieLuver1 Clearly NTA. Mom is choosing a yoga class she attends every week over a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully) event with her daughter. i_am_steelia NTA. If anything your mother shows how much she values you. She showed her true priority was Yoga and not her daughter&#39;s wedding.  If you happen to go into labor during this hour will she say you did it on purpose so she couldn&#39;t come?  If this makes them decide to not attend your wedding a huge milestone in your life for yoga, then they really don&#39;t value you enough. Cool-Clerk-9835 🙄 She couldn&#39;t skip her class ONE TIME. NTA. What a bratty thing to do. You did explain you were on the waiting list and were only able to get the appointment because someone else canceled, right?  She chose a yoga class over going with you, which shows you how high of a priority you were. You can shove that in her face if she continues to complain. MagicEveryDay Agreed, NTA. She says this is super important to her, but obviously, it isn&#39;t more important than a yoga class.  She has set her priorities, and unfortunately, wedding-dress shopping didn&#39;t rank very high for her. kalpolkghtfdr13 NTA. She is insisting that she is lower on your priority list than your in-laws, but I would argue that she&#39;s showing you that you&#39;re lower on her priority list than her yoga class.  You did nothing wrong and you should not have to reschedule. It isn&#39;t about her. Ok-Mode-2038 This. Definitely NTA. Mom just showed her true colors and showed her daughter that yoga is more important to her. SookieCat26 NTA. Wow. So sorry you have such a selfish and emotionally immature mom. I hope that you find the perfect dress and have a great time bonding with your future MIL. Best wishes to you. thatsaSagittarius Your mother put a yoga class over her daughter&#39;s wedding dress shopping. Think about that. A YOGA class. They&#39;re manipulating you into thinking you&#39;re to blame. NTA Vulcancomic NTA - you did include your mom, she declined. You did not choose the appointment, the current state of things dictated what must be done.  Your mom not understanding this and choosing her yoga class over shopping with her daughter for a wedding dress is a clear indication of where u measure up in her life.  You don&rsquo;t talk about it the post, but I&rsquo;m guessing this is a pattern with her. Sorry, but you have an AH of a mom. 

Most moms would move heaven and earth to be there with their daughter while she picks out her wedding dress. Sadly for Reddit user u/wishbonewedding, her mom won&#39;t even move a yoga class.   Now, this bride-to-be is asking the internet...