Friendship

Food allergies and intolerances are more common than ever. If you have them, you know they are a royal pain in the rear end. Reddit user <a data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Unlikely-Novel-5744/">u/Unlikely-Novel-5744</a> has tried to accommodate their friend&#39;s dietary restrictions by repeatedly dining at her favorite restaurant, but the bad taste and high cost have turned their stomach on the whole experience. Now they are turning to the internet to ask:<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/sz8f4k/aita_for_refusing_to_go_to_dinner_anymore_with_a/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.35em; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">AITA</a><span style="color: rgb(74, 74, 74); font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.35em; font-weight: 600; letter-spacing: -0.02em;"> (Am I The As*hole) for refusing to go to dinner anymore with a friend who is gluten-free, soy-free, and vegan?They write:<blockquote> A friend of mine has had IBS for most of her life and in the past few years has gotten it mostly under control by changing her diet to gluten and soy-free and vegan. </blockquote><blockquote> However, it is SO hard to go out to eat with her. She basically can&rsquo;t eat anything at a non-vegan restaurant and even then, it&rsquo;s hard to find something that is also gluten and soy-free. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> There&rsquo;s a raw vegan restaurant that&rsquo;s got an okay selection that she usually goes to. She&rsquo;s asked me to go eat with her there several times. I&rsquo;m sure some people enjoy this place, I, however, am not one of them. It&rsquo;s also very expensive and I&rsquo;m not rich. </blockquote><blockquote> I&rsquo;ve started turning down invites to go to dinner with her and have been offering other activities or eating at one of our places. She really likes going out to dinner and said it&rsquo;s one of her favorite activities. </blockquote><blockquote> She&rsquo;s now mad at me bc she said I am refusing to be accommodating of her dietary needs. I feel bad about this but I&rsquo;m tired of spending $30 on a meal I don&rsquo;t enjoy at all. </blockquote>From the title alone, I would&#39;ve thought this person was being a jerk, but after reading the full story, I disagree.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>I feel for anyone with food allergies and intolerances, I honestly do, but this gluten-free, soy-free, vegan needs to acknowledge that her restaurant demands are a lot to ask, especially if her good friend can&#39;t afford to foot the bill. The bottom line is that no one wants to pay for a meal they don&#39;t enjoy. What are they supposed to do, spend $30 to suck on a napkin?The OP (original poster) asked her friend to compromise on non-food-related activities and was refused. Due to this, I&#39;m ruling this Redditor &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; The comments agree with me. Do you?<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LoveBeach8/">LoveBeach8</a><blockquote> NAH (No As*holes Here) </blockquote><blockquote> Is take-out an option? Can you get your food from your favorite place and she gets hers then go have a picnic together or something? Then follow it up with a movie, shopping, or whatever? </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> You can both find ways to compromise and be happy if you really want to. It&#39;s not impossible. You each have to give a little and use your smarts and imagination. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LoremEpsomSalt/">LoremEpsomSalt</a><blockquote> The friend is the AH. OP has already suggested other activities and places that works for both of them. The friend is turning those down and then getting mad at OP. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FollowingFluid8064/">FollowingFluid8064</a><blockquote> NTA. I suggest she get takeout from there, you get takeout from a place you like and you meet in the middle. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AccordLands/">AccordLands</a><blockquote> Trying to pressure someone into an activity they don&#39;t enjoy and can&#39;t afford is indeed asshole territory. How you missed that I have no clue. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/icy4633/">icy4633</a><blockquote> NTA: You tried this expensive restaurant and didn&rsquo;t like it. You then suggested several alternative things that would be accommodating and she said no. That&rsquo;s on her </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/americanblowfly/">americanblowfly</a><blockquote> NTA. If you don&#39;t enjoy spending a lot of money on food you don&#39;t like, then you shouldn&#39;t be forced to do it just to make someone else happy. </blockquote><blockquote> I almost said NAH, but she is slightly TA for not being more willing to compromise on hanging out outside of the expensive restaurant. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/whatsmypassword73/">whatsmypassword73</a><blockquote> NTA, I like that you&rsquo;re offering other ideas that don&rsquo;t involve a meal. We have some serious food allergies/ intolerances that make dining out or traveling a nightmare. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Doing something outside of mealtime is much more enjoyable as it&rsquo;s safer for us to dine at home. Gluten-free vegan is a lot, especially if she&rsquo;s celiac so cross-contamination eliminates nearly every restaurant </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/raejax90/">raejax90</a><blockquote> NTA You offered other activities and cooking at home. Tell your thoughts on it if you haven&#39;t just so she is aware you want to accommodate her, but would prefer to spend less money doing so. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Minimum_Reference_73/">Minimum_Reference_73</a><blockquote> NTA, it&#39;s exhausting. You can do other things together. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/eliosunshine/">eliosunshine</a><blockquote> NTA, if you are offering other activities that is her issue for not compromising. Hangouts should be fun for both parties. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong to stop eating out with friend who's gluten-free and vegan.

Food allergies and intolerances are more common than ever. If you have them, you know they are a royal pain in the rear end. Reddit user u/Unlikely-Novel-5744 has tried to accommodate their friend&#39;s dietary restrictions by repeatedly dining at her favorite restaurant, but the bad taste and high cost have turned their stomach on the whole experience. Now they are turning to the internet to ask:AITA (Am I The As*hole) for refusing to go to dinner anymore with a friend who is gluten-free, soy-free, and vegan?They write: A friend of mine has had IBS for most of her life and in the past few years has gotten it mostly under control by changing her diet to gluten and soy-free and vegan.  However, it is SO hard to go out to eat with her. She basically can&rsquo;t eat anything at a non-vegan restaurant and even then, it&rsquo;s hard to find something that is also gluten and soy-free.  There&rsquo;s a raw vegan restaurant that&rsquo;s got an okay selection that she usually goes to. She&rsquo;s asked me to go eat with her there several times. I&rsquo;m sure some people enjoy this place, I, however, am not one of them. It&rsquo;s also very expensive and I&rsquo;m not rich.  I&rsquo;ve started turning down invites to go to dinner with her and have been offering other activities or eating at one of our places. She really likes going out to dinner and said it&rsquo;s one of her favorite activities.  She&rsquo;s now mad at me bc she said I am refusing to be accommodating of her dietary needs. I feel bad about this but I&rsquo;m tired of spending $30 on a meal I don&rsquo;t enjoy at all. From the title alone, I would&#39;ve thought this person was being a jerk, but after reading the full story, I disagree.I feel for anyone with food allergies and intolerances, I honestly do, but this gluten-free, soy-free, vegan needs to acknowledge that her restaurant demands are a lot to ask, especially if her good friend can&#39;t afford to foot the bill. The bottom line is that no one wants to pay for a meal they don&#39;t enjoy. What are they supposed to do, spend $30 to suck on a napkin?The OP (original poster) asked her friend to compromise on non-food-related activities and was refused. Due to this, I&#39;m ruling this Redditor &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; The comments agree with me. Do you?LoveBeach8 NAH (No As*holes Here)  Is take-out an option? Can you get your food from your favorite place and she gets hers then go have a picnic together or something? Then follow it up with a movie, shopping, or whatever?  You can both find ways to compromise and be happy if you really want to. It&#39;s not impossible. You each have to give a little and use your smarts and imagination. LoremEpsomSalt The friend is the AH. OP has already suggested other activities and places that works for both of them. The friend is turning those down and then getting mad at OP. FollowingFluid8064 NTA. I suggest she get takeout from there, you get takeout from a place you like and you meet in the middle. AccordLands Trying to pressure someone into an activity they don&#39;t enjoy and can&#39;t afford is indeed asshole territory. How you missed that I have no clue. icy4633 NTA: You tried this expensive restaurant and didn&rsquo;t like it. You then suggested several alternative things that would be accommodating and she said no. That&rsquo;s on her americanblowfly NTA. If you don&#39;t enjoy spending a lot of money on food you don&#39;t like, then you shouldn&#39;t be forced to do it just to make someone else happy.  I almost said NAH, but she is slightly TA for not being more willing to compromise on hanging out outside of the expensive restaurant. whatsmypassword73 NTA, I like that you&rsquo;re offering other ideas that don&rsquo;t involve a meal. We have some serious food allergies/ intolerances that make dining out or traveling a nightmare.  Doing something outside of mealtime is much more enjoyable as it&rsquo;s safer for us to dine at home. Gluten-free vegan is a lot, especially if she&rsquo;s celiac so cross-contamination eliminates nearly every restaurant raejax90 NTA You offered other activities and cooking at home. Tell your thoughts on it if you haven&#39;t just so she is aware you want to accommodate her, but would prefer to spend less money doing so. Minimum_Reference_73 NTA, it&#39;s exhausting. You can do other things together. eliosunshine NTA, if you are offering other activities that is her issue for not compromising. Hangouts should be fun for both parties. 

Food allergies and intolerances are more common than ever. If you have them, you know they are a royal pain in the rear end. Reddit user u/Unlikely-Novel-5744 has tried to accommodate their friend&#39;s dietary restrictions by repeatedly...