If you've ever suffered from depression (SUP!!!), you know it can be hard for people who haven't experienced it to understand what it's like. They might say things like: "Wait, so you can't come to my birthday party because you're.... 'too sad'???"
Or "just suck it up!" or "have you tried yoga????"
"YOGA"??? I CAN BARELY GET OUT OF BED.
According to the World Health Organization, 350 million people around the world suffer from depression, making it the #1 cause of disability by a long shot. But for how common it is, we don't talk about depression nearly enough and many people still don't "get it."
That may be why this brutally honest post about depression from a woman named Katelyn Marie Todd is exploding on Facebook. It's definitely worth a read. Because chances are, you or someone you love have experienced this.
I brushed my hair today. For the first time in 4 weeks. It was matted and twisted together. It snapped and tore with every stroke. I cried while I washed and conditioned it, because I forgot how it felt to run my fingers through it. I brushed my teeth, too, for the first time in a week. My gums bled. My water ran red. I cried over that, as well. When I got out of the shower, I couldn't stop sniffing my hair and arms. I've avoided hugging people for a while, because I never smell good. I always smell like I've been on bedrest for a week. I have no clean clothes, because I'm too tired and sad to wash them.
Depression isn't beautiful. Depression is bad hygiene, dirty dishes, and a sore body from sleeping too much. Depression is having 3 friends that are only still around because they have the patience and love of a saint. Depression is crying until there's no more tears, just dry heaving and sobbing until you're gasping for your next breath. Depression is staring at the ceiling until your eyes burn because you forget to blink. Depression is making your family cry because they think you don't love them anymore when you're distant and distracted. Depression is somatic as well as emotional, an emptiness you can physically feel.
Please be easy on your friends and family that have trouble getting up the energy to clean, hang out, or take care of themselves. And please, please take them seriously if they talk to you about it. We're trying. I swear we're trying. See? I brushed my hair today.
The post has been shared a staggering 250,000 times since she shared it on Sunday. Clearly, her story has has resonated with many, many people.
If you're struggling with depression, remember, you're not alone!!! And if a loved one is suffering from depression, please, please, please don't suggest they "suck it up" or "try yoga."