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<p>Weddings are supposed to be all about the couple. So what happens when the couple can&#39;t agree on something as fundamental as the wedding dress?</p><p>A man <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/j7o5ip/should_i_tell_my_partner_how_i_feel_about_her/">took to Reddit</a> to ask for advice because his girlfriend has said she wants to wear a camouflage dress to their eventual wedding. He&#39;s not sure if he should put his foot down and insist on a more formal wedding, or let her wear what she wants. She is the bride, after all.</p><h2>The couple have been talking about their eventual wedding:</h2><blockquote> <p>I (25m) have not officially proposed to my partner (25f), but we&rsquo;ve been talking about marriage a lot lately and have decided that we would both like it if I proposed sometime within a year.</p> </blockquote><h2>Turns out she wants everyone to wear camouflage:</h2><blockquote> <p>The problem is that I am not crazy about her dream wedding dress. She wants her wedding dress, along with my tux and all of the bridesmaids&rsquo; dresses, to be camo.</p> <p>She&rsquo;s not very traditionally feminine, and her personal style is a combination of punk and &ldquo;redneck tomboy&rdquo;.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She loves &quot;all things weird or tacky&quot; (you can say that again):</h2><blockquote> <p>So one day she might wear a skirt and fishnets and combat boots, and the next she might wear men&rsquo;s work jeans and a flannel and cowboy boots. She also has a genuine love for all things weird or tacky. She thinks it&rsquo;s fun. I think that&rsquo;s really cool and it&rsquo;s one of the things I love most about her. She pulls it off well. But I still can&rsquo;t make myself feel okay about a camo theme for our wedding party.</p> </blockquote><h2>He continues:</h2><blockquote> <p>She goes hunting a few times a month at most, and I go with her sometimes just to bond with her and participate in her hobby. But it&rsquo;s not like hunting is our favorite shared activity, and it&rsquo;s not even her favorite of her own hobbies. I&rsquo;m not sure if the camo wedding dress idea is even about her love of hunting. I think it&rsquo;s more for the fun/silly/kitschy factor. One time we saw a drag queen she really admires wear a camo wedding dress as part of her performance and my girlfriend fell in love with the concept.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Honestly, that sounds beautiful, but he won&#39;t have it:</h2><blockquote> <p>I feel like a jerk for even asking this. At first when she brought it up, early on in our relationship, I wasn&rsquo;t sure if she was serious but I told her I thought it was a cool idea because I wanted to be supportive. But recently, like I said, we&rsquo;ve been talking about marriage and she brought it up again. I asked if she was serious and she was. I did not want to ruin her dream so I told her it was a good idea. But if we&rsquo;re being honest, I don&rsquo;t want our wedding to be a novelty.</p> </blockquote><h2>It doesn&#39;t fit with his &quot;dream vision&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>I also have a dream vision for our wedding, one that is more traditional and elegant. I really love wedding dresses. Seeing the bride&rsquo;s dress has always been one of my favorite parts about weddings. I was recently at a friend&rsquo;s wedding and his partner&rsquo;s dress was so beautiful that it almost made me cry. I feel kind of sad thinking about missing out on that with my own partner, at my own wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He does say it&#39;s ultimately &quot;her choice&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>But ultimately it is her choice. I want her to feel special on that day, and I want her dress to reflect her personality. And I don&rsquo;t even mind if she picks out what I wear&mdash; what&rsquo;s most important to me is that my outfit complements hers. So I guess if that means a camo tux then so be it. But would it be wrong if I brought it up to her?</p> </blockquote><h2>He feels &quot;gross and controlling&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>I feel kind of gross and controlling even thinking about telling her what to wear, but at the same time, the thought of us getting married in what basically amounts to silly costumes disappoints me.</p> </blockquote><h2>So he&#39;s wondering how to broach the topic:</h2><blockquote> <p>If I do bring it up, how and when should I? And what should I do if she ends up being dead set on the camo? Should I just accept that it&rsquo;s her dream and support it? It&rsquo;s not a dealbreaker for me, just something that&rsquo;s been bothering me and I&rsquo;m not sure what to do about it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The people of the internet say he is totally justified in bringing this up with his lady love.</h2><p>User qwbutttthole says compromise is key:</p><blockquote> <p>Tell her your feelings, but be prepared to make a compromise. She could wear a white dress/ outfit of some sort during the ceremony, and then change into whatever camo monstrosity she has in mind for the reception. She could even wear a pantsuit, or a dress in a non traditional color. There are a lot of ways to be funky with your wedding dress without making it camo.</p> </blockquote><p>They continue:</p><blockquote> <p>Besides, I PROMISE you everyone will think it&rsquo;s a lot less tacky if she waits until the reception to do the camo stuff. Heck, I don&rsquo;t even think the bridesmaids wearing camo is the worst. Still tacky, but nearly as bad as EVERYONE bride and groom included doing it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Finally adding:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m not trying to be a jerk here but your respective families WILL talk about this behind your backs. And maybe she doesn&rsquo;t care about that part. But she should care about how you feel and make a compromise.</p> </blockquote><p>Felinebyline has a diabolical idea that just might work:</p><blockquote> <p> a camo dress will not be on the sale rack of a bridal shop, she will have to get everything custom-made and it will be $$$ unless another of her hobbies is sewing. Maybe you could mention that custom outfits for everyone will blow your budget, and it would be better to save the extra money for your honeymoon, a down payment on a home, or etc.</p> </blockquote><p>DiTrastevere says he shouldn&#39;t totally discount the idea of a camo gown just yet:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>There are beautiful non-traditional wedding dresses out there that could suit her need for flair and your desire for elegance. Dresses with sheer white tulle over rainbow underskirts. Dresses with crazy architectural statement pieces. Dresses in blush pink and powder blue and all sorts of non-standard colors. Ombr&eacute; dresses, black-and-white dresses, dresses with capes that trail behind like a veil.</p> </blockquote><p>They suggest the couple brainstorm together:</p><blockquote> <p>But you&rsquo;re going to have to have an honest conversation with her first. I absolutely love her spirit, but it&rsquo;s your wedding too, and you get a say in the overall aesthetic. Besides, as weird as it is to say, the camo-wedding thing is kind of...tired? at this point. It&rsquo;s been done so many times. If she&rsquo;s going for off-the-wall, there are more cutting edge ways to do it that won&rsquo;t make the guests cringe. See if you can come up with some fun ideas together. Sure, she&rsquo;s a committed individualist, but I bet she also wants to see you light up when you look at her on your wedding day, and I&rsquo;m guessing she&rsquo;ll be open to hearing your thoughts.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And UnevenGlow&#39;s got jokes:</p><blockquote> <p>Tell her you&rsquo;re concerned she won&rsquo;t be visible in the wedding pics</p> </blockquote><p>And piedpipr had the best advice of all:</p><blockquote> <p>I can tell you genuinely care about her and will have a long happy life together. You can share these honest thoughts without coming across controlling. You seem respectful and embracing of her unique identity. The part you wrote about your dream vision of elegance and how you love wedding dresses too is so heartfelt. She should know. But perhaps your wife-to-be is uncomfortable with the attention of looking like a traditional bride in front of a crowd. Maybe you&rsquo;ll have to put your desires aside for her happiness. Hopefully you two can figure out a compromise. The most important part of your wedding is that you&rsquo;ll make it together.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Hope these two crazy camo kids can figure it out!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Groom asks for advice as 'tomboy' bride insists on camouflage dresses and suits at their wedding.

Weddings are supposed to be all about the couple. So what happens when the couple can&#39;t agree on something as fundamental as the wedding dress?A man took to Reddit to ask for advice because his girlfriend has said she wants to wear a camouflage dress to their eventual wedding. He&#39;s not sure if he should put his foot down and insist on a more formal wedding, or let her wear what she wants. She is the bride, after all.The couple have been talking about their eventual wedding: I (25m) have not officially proposed to my partner (25f), but we&rsquo;ve been talking about marriage a lot lately and have decided that we would both like it if I proposed sometime within a year. Turns out she wants everyone to wear camouflage: The problem is that I am not crazy about her dream wedding dress. She wants her wedding dress, along with my tux and all of the bridesmaids&rsquo; dresses, to be camo. She&rsquo;s not very traditionally feminine, and her personal style is a combination of punk and &ldquo;redneck tomboy&rdquo;. She loves &quot;all things weird or tacky&quot; (you can say that again): So one day she might wear a skirt and fishnets and combat boots, and the next she might wear men&rsquo;s work jeans and a flannel and cowboy boots. She also has a genuine love for all things weird or tacky. She thinks it&rsquo;s fun. I think that&rsquo;s really cool and it&rsquo;s one of the things I love most about her. She pulls it off well. But I still can&rsquo;t make myself feel okay about a camo theme for our wedding party. He continues: She goes hunting a few times a month at most, and I go with her sometimes just to bond with her and participate in her hobby. But it&rsquo;s not like hunting is our favorite shared activity, and it&rsquo;s not even her favorite of her own hobbies. I&rsquo;m not sure if the camo wedding dress idea is even about her love of hunting. I think it&rsquo;s more for the fun/silly/kitschy factor. One time we saw a drag queen she really admires wear a camo wedding dress as part of her performance and my girlfriend fell in love with the concept. Honestly, that sounds beautiful, but he won&#39;t have it: I feel like a jerk for even asking this. At first when she brought it up, early on in our relationship, I wasn&rsquo;t sure if she was serious but I told her I thought it was a cool idea because I wanted to be supportive. But recently, like I said, we&rsquo;ve been talking about marriage and she brought it up again. I asked if she was serious and she was. I did not want to ruin her dream so I told her it was a good idea. But if we&rsquo;re being honest, I don&rsquo;t want our wedding to be a novelty. It doesn&#39;t fit with his &quot;dream vision&quot;: I also have a dream vision for our wedding, one that is more traditional and elegant. I really love wedding dresses. Seeing the bride&rsquo;s dress has always been one of my favorite parts about weddings. I was recently at a friend&rsquo;s wedding and his partner&rsquo;s dress was so beautiful that it almost made me cry. I feel kind of sad thinking about missing out on that with my own partner, at my own wedding. He does say it&#39;s ultimately &quot;her choice&quot;: But ultimately it is her choice. I want her to feel special on that day, and I want her dress to reflect her personality. And I don&rsquo;t even mind if she picks out what I wear&mdash; what&rsquo;s most important to me is that my outfit complements hers. So I guess if that means a camo tux then so be it. But would it be wrong if I brought it up to her? He feels &quot;gross and controlling&quot;: I feel kind of gross and controlling even thinking about telling her what to wear, but at the same time, the thought of us getting married in what basically amounts to silly costumes disappoints me. So he&#39;s wondering how to broach the topic: If I do bring it up, how and when should I? And what should I do if she ends up being dead set on the camo? Should I just accept that it&rsquo;s her dream and support it? It&rsquo;s not a dealbreaker for me, just something that&rsquo;s been bothering me and I&rsquo;m not sure what to do about it. The people of the internet say he is totally justified in bringing this up with his lady love.User qwbutttthole says compromise is key: Tell her your feelings, but be prepared to make a compromise. She could wear a white dress/ outfit of some sort during the ceremony, and then change into whatever camo monstrosity she has in mind for the reception. She could even wear a pantsuit, or a dress in a non traditional color. There are a lot of ways to be funky with your wedding dress without making it camo. They continue: Besides, I PROMISE you everyone will think it&rsquo;s a lot less tacky if she waits until the reception to do the camo stuff. Heck, I don&rsquo;t even think the bridesmaids wearing camo is the worst. Still tacky, but nearly as bad as EVERYONE bride and groom included doing it. Finally adding: I&rsquo;m not trying to be a jerk here but your respective families WILL talk about this behind your backs. And maybe she doesn&rsquo;t care about that part. But she should care about how you feel and make a compromise. Felinebyline has a diabolical idea that just might work:  a camo dress will not be on the sale rack of a bridal shop, she will have to get everything custom-made and it will be $$$ unless another of her hobbies is sewing. Maybe you could mention that custom outfits for everyone will blow your budget, and it would be better to save the extra money for your honeymoon, a down payment on a home, or etc. DiTrastevere says he shouldn&#39;t totally discount the idea of a camo gown just yet: There are beautiful non-traditional wedding dresses out there that could suit her need for flair and your desire for elegance. Dresses with sheer white tulle over rainbow underskirts. Dresses with crazy architectural statement pieces. Dresses in blush pink and powder blue and all sorts of non-standard colors. Ombr&eacute; dresses, black-and-white dresses, dresses with capes that trail behind like a veil. They suggest the couple brainstorm together: But you&rsquo;re going to have to have an honest conversation with her first. I absolutely love her spirit, but it&rsquo;s your wedding too, and you get a say in the overall aesthetic. Besides, as weird as it is to say, the camo-wedding thing is kind of...tired? at this point. It&rsquo;s been done so many times. If she&rsquo;s going for off-the-wall, there are more cutting edge ways to do it that won&rsquo;t make the guests cringe. See if you can come up with some fun ideas together. Sure, she&rsquo;s a committed individualist, but I bet she also wants to see you light up when you look at her on your wedding day, and I&rsquo;m guessing she&rsquo;ll be open to hearing your thoughts. And UnevenGlow&#39;s got jokes: Tell her you&rsquo;re concerned she won&rsquo;t be visible in the wedding pics And piedpipr had the best advice of all: I can tell you genuinely care about her and will have a long happy life together. You can share these honest thoughts without coming across controlling. You seem respectful and embracing of her unique identity. The part you wrote about your dream vision of elegance and how you love wedding dresses too is so heartfelt. She should know. But perhaps your wife-to-be is uncomfortable with the attention of looking like a traditional bride in front of a crowd. Maybe you&rsquo;ll have to put your desires aside for her happiness. Hopefully you two can figure out a compromise. The most important part of your wedding is that you&rsquo;ll make it together. Hope these two crazy camo kids can figure it out!

Weddings are supposed to be all about the couple. So what happens when the couple can&#39;t agree on something as fundamental as the wedding dress?  A man took to Reddit to ask for advice because his girlfriend has said she wants to wear a...