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<p>An outspoken brother-of-the-bride is in hot water after he tussled with his in-laws over their laughter during wedding reception speeches.</p><p>He<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ffwi5z/aita_for_calling_out_rude_people_heckling_my/"> posted on Reddit</a> to ask whether he went too far in calling his future in-laws &quot;rednecks&quot; and &quot;bumpkins&quot; after they laughed so hard at his girlfriend&#39;s speech, he thought it went into heckling territory.</p><h2>He outlines the cultural differences between the two families from the beginning:</h2><blockquote> <p>This past weekend I (31 M) was at my sister&#39;s wedding. To preface, her husband&#39;s family comes from a very rural, backwoods part of a southern state, whereas my family is more of a northeastern city area near NYC. So there is a bit of a culture clash that I am taking into account.</p> </blockquote><h2>His sister was the bride, and his girlfriend was her maid of honor:</h2><blockquote> <p>My girlfriend is my sister&#39;s best friend and she had to give a speech. She is VERY nervous speaking in front of crowds but she wanted to give a speech for my sister.</p> <p>She starts the speech and is visibly nervous as her voice shakes a little. My side of the family is quiet but a couple of people from the groom&#39;s family shout out &quot;no need to be nervous, we&#39;re all friends here!&quot; I wanted no one to interrupt but that wasn&#39;t a big deal.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The in-laws called out to decrease his girlfriend&#39;s nerves, then started laughing loudly at all of her jokes:</h2><blockquote> <p>What started to annoy me was that as the speech went on, and she told a joke, the rural side would erupt with laughter as if it was the funniest thing in the world (even though it was only worthy of a chuckle and she knew that). The bride and groom seemed to be enjoying the speech and didn&#39;t mind the people constantly heckling but I was getting pissed off.</p> </blockquote><h2>After a few big laughs, the brother of the bride decided to jump in:</h2><blockquote> <p>I eventually called out to them &quot;will you slack jawed bumpkins shut the f*** up and let her finish?&quot; and they all stayed quiet.</p> </blockquote><h2>A <em>bunch</em> of people told him he owed said &quot;bumpkins&quot; an apology:</h2><blockquote> <p>Later on in the wedding, the groom, my sister and a few other people from his side came up to me and told me to apologize, which made me even more upset and I told the main heckler &quot;I&#39;ll apologize when you apologize to my girlfriend for heckling her and making her more nervous, you inbred redneck trash.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Whew. He left early and despite even his girlfriend saying he went too far, he&#39;s convinced he&#39;s in the right:</h2><blockquote> <p>I ended up getting pressured to leave the wedding early and my girlfriend left with me. She insisted I didn&#39;t have to defend her and it was no issue, but I could tell she was getting more nervous and didn&#39;t like the disruptions</p> </blockquote><h2>This is one of those rare cases where pretty much everyone agrees this guy is the a-hole.</h2><p>FRANPW1 is from a family similar to the bride&#39;s, and is horrified:</p><blockquote> <p>OMG. I am so speechless. I am from NYC and married into a southern family. Their southern customs are different. Those people were trying to encourage your girlfriend. They weren&rsquo;t ridiculing her. How mortified everyone must have been when you did this. You may have ruined the entire wedding for your sister. All that money they spent went down the drain. Even if the southerners were in the wrong, you were so out of line. I certainly hope that no children heard you curse like that. What on Earth were you thinking? YTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Prettyandsmart points out that if anyone embarrassed his girlfriend, it&#39;s the brother:</p><blockquote> <p>Ironically OP wanted to prevent his girlfriend from humiliation, and he basically ensured that she would be humiliated! How does anyone look at this situation and sincerely believe their behavior was above reproach?!?</p> </blockquote><p>And Due-Faithlessness pointed out that the in-laws were probably just trying to be nice.</p><blockquote> <p>Wait... you&#39;re mad at wedding guests for trying to encourage your GF and laughing at her speech? Of course YTA!</p> <p>Everyone laughs louder than normal at weddings because emotions are high. Your sister&#39;s husband&#39;s family sounds friendly and you should apologize.</p> </blockquote><p>Rather_Dashing says that even if the laughing was ill-intentioned, the brother overreacted:</p><blockquote> <p>I can understand OP being annoyed at them for (assuming he is accurate and his GF didn&#39;t appreciate) misguidedly trying to encourage her but having the opposite affect. But what he did was so wildly over the top, just crazy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And awaistcoat pointed out that his bigotry was hard to miss:</p><blockquote> <p>Not to mention, it sounds like he already had some real prejudice against Southerners before the wedding even started. Have some more faith in your girlfriend, too. She did not need your intervention.</p> </blockquote><p>ArtfulBludger provided a valuable and entertaining southern perspective:</p><blockquote> <p>D&#39;you know why &quot;Yankee&quot; is considered a pejorative in the South? Because of pompous boors such as yourself whose only notion of folks south of the Ohio River is &quot;inbred redneck&quot;. All you accomplished was embarrassing both your girlfriend and your sister while guaranteeing you&#39;ll be the topic of holiday tales for years.</p> <p>&quot;I heard Sarah mention her brother earlier. How come I&#39;ve never met him?&quot;</p> <p>&quot;Steve? snorts You were too young to remember, but when Sarah and John got married, Steve&#39;s girlfriend was trying to give a speech.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>It goes on:</p><blockquote> <p>family gathers around, with those familiar with the event sharing half-amused, half-horrified expressions</p> <p>&quot;Poor thing was so nervous, bless her heart. We were all trying to help her relax. Steve, well, Steve&#39;s a Yankee, boy, and he lost his ever-loving mind. Screamed at us about being inbred and rednecks and to shut up. Carried on something fierce until Sarah and John actually kicked him out.&quot;</p> <p>Grandma nods &quot;Haven&#39;t seen hide nor hair of him since, and he never even had the guts to apologize. Ain&#39;t that just like a Yankee? Now, you go give Sarah a big hug for having to grow up with someone like that.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. If people are laughing at the jokes in your partner&#39;s speech, insulting them is not the proper response...</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy asks if it was wrong to call in-laws 'rednecks' when they laughed at maid of honor's speech.

An outspoken brother-of-the-bride is in hot water after he tussled with his in-laws over their laughter during wedding reception speeches.He posted on Reddit to ask whether he went too far in calling his future in-laws &quot;rednecks&quot; and &quot;bumpkins&quot; after they laughed so hard at his girlfriend&#39;s speech, he thought it went into heckling territory.He outlines the cultural differences between the two families from the beginning: This past weekend I (31 M) was at my sister&#39;s wedding. To preface, her husband&#39;s family comes from a very rural, backwoods part of a southern state, whereas my family is more of a northeastern city area near NYC. So there is a bit of a culture clash that I am taking into account. His sister was the bride, and his girlfriend was her maid of honor: My girlfriend is my sister&#39;s best friend and she had to give a speech. She is VERY nervous speaking in front of crowds but she wanted to give a speech for my sister. She starts the speech and is visibly nervous as her voice shakes a little. My side of the family is quiet but a couple of people from the groom&#39;s family shout out &quot;no need to be nervous, we&#39;re all friends here!&quot; I wanted no one to interrupt but that wasn&#39;t a big deal. The in-laws called out to decrease his girlfriend&#39;s nerves, then started laughing loudly at all of her jokes: What started to annoy me was that as the speech went on, and she told a joke, the rural side would erupt with laughter as if it was the funniest thing in the world (even though it was only worthy of a chuckle and she knew that). The bride and groom seemed to be enjoying the speech and didn&#39;t mind the people constantly heckling but I was getting pissed off. After a few big laughs, the brother of the bride decided to jump in: I eventually called out to them &quot;will you slack jawed bumpkins shut the f*** up and let her finish?&quot; and they all stayed quiet. A bunch of people told him he owed said &quot;bumpkins&quot; an apology: Later on in the wedding, the groom, my sister and a few other people from his side came up to me and told me to apologize, which made me even more upset and I told the main heckler &quot;I&#39;ll apologize when you apologize to my girlfriend for heckling her and making her more nervous, you inbred redneck trash.&quot; Whew. He left early and despite even his girlfriend saying he went too far, he&#39;s convinced he&#39;s in the right: I ended up getting pressured to leave the wedding early and my girlfriend left with me. She insisted I didn&#39;t have to defend her and it was no issue, but I could tell she was getting more nervous and didn&#39;t like the disruptions This is one of those rare cases where pretty much everyone agrees this guy is the a-hole.FRANPW1 is from a family similar to the bride&#39;s, and is horrified: OMG. I am so speechless. I am from NYC and married into a southern family. Their southern customs are different. Those people were trying to encourage your girlfriend. They weren&rsquo;t ridiculing her. How mortified everyone must have been when you did this. You may have ruined the entire wedding for your sister. All that money they spent went down the drain. Even if the southerners were in the wrong, you were so out of line. I certainly hope that no children heard you curse like that. What on Earth were you thinking? YTA. Prettyandsmart points out that if anyone embarrassed his girlfriend, it&#39;s the brother: Ironically OP wanted to prevent his girlfriend from humiliation, and he basically ensured that she would be humiliated! How does anyone look at this situation and sincerely believe their behavior was above reproach?!? And Due-Faithlessness pointed out that the in-laws were probably just trying to be nice. Wait... you&#39;re mad at wedding guests for trying to encourage your GF and laughing at her speech? Of course YTA! Everyone laughs louder than normal at weddings because emotions are high. Your sister&#39;s husband&#39;s family sounds friendly and you should apologize. Rather_Dashing says that even if the laughing was ill-intentioned, the brother overreacted: I can understand OP being annoyed at them for (assuming he is accurate and his GF didn&#39;t appreciate) misguidedly trying to encourage her but having the opposite affect. But what he did was so wildly over the top, just crazy. And awaistcoat pointed out that his bigotry was hard to miss: Not to mention, it sounds like he already had some real prejudice against Southerners before the wedding even started. Have some more faith in your girlfriend, too. She did not need your intervention. ArtfulBludger provided a valuable and entertaining southern perspective: D&#39;you know why &quot;Yankee&quot; is considered a pejorative in the South? Because of pompous boors such as yourself whose only notion of folks south of the Ohio River is &quot;inbred redneck&quot;. All you accomplished was embarrassing both your girlfriend and your sister while guaranteeing you&#39;ll be the topic of holiday tales for years. &quot;I heard Sarah mention her brother earlier. How come I&#39;ve never met him?&quot; &quot;Steve? snorts You were too young to remember, but when Sarah and John got married, Steve&#39;s girlfriend was trying to give a speech.&quot; It goes on: family gathers around, with those familiar with the event sharing half-amused, half-horrified expressions &quot;Poor thing was so nervous, bless her heart. We were all trying to help her relax. Steve, well, Steve&#39;s a Yankee, boy, and he lost his ever-loving mind. Screamed at us about being inbred and rednecks and to shut up. Carried on something fierce until Sarah and John actually kicked him out.&quot; Grandma nods &quot;Haven&#39;t seen hide nor hair of him since, and he never even had the guts to apologize. Ain&#39;t that just like a Yankee? Now, you go give Sarah a big hug for having to grow up with someone like that.&quot; So there you have it. If people are laughing at the jokes in your partner&#39;s speech, insulting them is not the proper response...

An outspoken brother-of-the-bride is in hot water after he tussled with his in-laws over their laughter during wedding reception speeches.  He posted on Reddit to ask whether he went too far in calling his future in-laws...