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<p>Is a wedding ring a symbol of your relationship &mdash; or is it just a piece of metal?</p><p>That&#39;s what one man is wondering after he realized his wife hasn&#39;t been wearing her wedding ring for a whopping two years. He <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kcmumd/aita_for_starting_a_fight_over_my_wife_not/">took to Reddit</a> to ask for advice after blowing up at his partner over the ring.</p><h2>The man says his wife mentioned that she doesn&#39;t wear her ring:</h2><blockquote> <p>Oh boy this is a big one. There&#39;s obviously a lot to the story here, but to make a long story short, my daughter pointed out that my wife didn&#39;t have her ring on today. She said &quot;I don&#39;t wear it&quot;. I did a double take... It felt like a shotgun to the heart. Of course I got furious.</p> </blockquote><h2>He realized she hadn&#39;t been wearing it for years:</h2><blockquote> <p>It makes sense now, I&#39;ve been asked &quot;Wait, she&#39;s you&#39;re wife?&quot; By several strangers in bars, clubs, outings, the past few years. Here I am with my wedding band on sitting next to my wife who&#39;s not wearing a wedding ring... She had several reasons why she doesn&#39;t wear it... from &quot;We&#39;ve talked about this several times. I was taking it on and off so much it&#39;s just easier to keep it off, I&#39;m a hairdresser!&quot; to &quot;I&#39;m not that kind of person, why do I have to wear a ring to prove I&#39;m faithful&quot; to &quot;I don&#39;t wear jewelry!&quot; to &quot;It&#39;s just a ring, it doesn&#39;t mean we&#39;re not married.&quot; etc etc etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He realizes it&#39;s strange that he never noticed the lack of ring until now:</h2><blockquote> <p>Now, I have to admit. How big of an idiot am I. TWO YEARS have I not noticed she hasn&#39;t been wearing it. She took it off two years ago when we had a big fight. I knew that. But we reconciled. Or so I thought... I never checked to see if she put it back on. I haven&#39;t taken mine off for the 15 years we&#39;ve been married, &#39;cept once or twice for cleaning or what not - and just now to make a point. I just put my ring next to hers in the jewelry stand. I dunno Reddit. This might be it...</p> </blockquote><h2>He thinks this could be the end of their relationship:</h2><blockquote> <p>She even said &quot;So me not wearing a RING is the hill you want to stand/die on, are you sure?!?!&quot; and I&#39;m over here thinking.... &quot;yuuuuupppp!&quot; Married folks might understand. Marriage is complicated. Husbands have to choose their battles wisely. And this might be one I&#39;m not willing to back down on... So [am I the a-hole] for starting this HUGE fight?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Well, the people of the internet are <em>not</em> on his side.</h2><p>User queenoreo makes a solid point:</p><blockquote> <p>It was so important to you that you didn&rsquo;t even notice for two years?</p> <p>Wearing a ring has nothing to do with being married.</p> </blockquote><p>Bananapanda123 agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>My parents have been married for 40 and never even had rings. My mom had a ring from her first husband, wore it every day of the 18 months they were married before he cheated (while wearing his ring).</p> <p>Rings mean nothing. They&rsquo;re jewelry, not some sacred relic.</p> </blockquote><p>WritPositWrit says:</p><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;Of course I got furious&rdquo; ... &ldquo;How big of an idiot am I&rdquo; ... well, if you&rsquo;re asking, you&rsquo;re a BIG idiot.</p> <p>This is SUCH a HUGE issue for you that ... you didn&rsquo;t even notice? Don&rsquo;t you want to stop and think, hmm, if you did t notice, maybe it&rsquo;s not a big deal? And also ... your wife has been TELLING you why, but, what? You&rsquo;re just not listening to her? If your marriage fails, it won&rsquo;t be because of a ring, it&rsquo;ll be because you don&rsquo;t listen to each other.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>They continue:</p><blockquote> <p>Seems to me that being a hair dresser is a great reason to not wear a ring. She&rsquo;s got her hands in water and hair product and gloves and other peoples hair all day every day. She could (a) lose the ring, and (b) get seriously chapped skin or even an infection from water and product collecting under the ring.</p> <p>Grow up. Be an adult. Your marriage does not hinge on a piece of metal.</p> </blockquote><p>AppleCinnamonMuffins says there&#39;s no question that this guy sucks:</p><blockquote> <p>This isn&#39;t a cut and dry situation where one person is the a-hole and the other isn&#39;t. What you need is marriage counseling if you really want to make this work. Did she recently become a hairdresser? Bc not wearing your ring at work is very reasonable, my own parents don&#39;t wear theirs at work yet have been happy married for 20+ years. However if she did take it off 2 years ago over some event and not put it back on it kinda sounds like she&#39;s checked out and is just keeping things together for the kids. Whether or not she decides to put her ring back on is not going to magically fix your relationship though. I wish you the best of luck</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Legitimate-Papaya-57 understands why he&#39;s upset, but still isn&#39;t on his side:</p><blockquote> <p>While I realize that it can be hard to reconcile that she doesn&#39;t want to wear a symbol of your marriage, it&#39;s just that, a symbol. It is not your marriage and it does not mean that she&#39;s trying to hide being married to you. She has a good reason that she doesn&#39;t like to wear it - her job just makes it easier to lose a ring having to take it off and put it back on. But even if she didn&#39;t have that reason, the second reason she gives is still completely valid: She does not like to wear jewelry. That&#39;s reason enough to respect the fact that she does not wear it.</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. A ring is no reason to end things.</h2><p>But also, it doesn&#39;t sound like this marriage is going that great anyway... best of luck.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if it's okay to end marriage because his wife hasn't worn her wedding ring for two years.

Is a wedding ring a symbol of your relationship &mdash; or is it just a piece of metal?That&#39;s what one man is wondering after he realized his wife hasn&#39;t been wearing her wedding ring for a whopping two years. He took to Reddit to ask for advice after blowing up at his partner over the ring.The man says his wife mentioned that she doesn&#39;t wear her ring: Oh boy this is a big one. There&#39;s obviously a lot to the story here, but to make a long story short, my daughter pointed out that my wife didn&#39;t have her ring on today. She said &quot;I don&#39;t wear it&quot;. I did a double take... It felt like a shotgun to the heart. Of course I got furious. He realized she hadn&#39;t been wearing it for years: It makes sense now, I&#39;ve been asked &quot;Wait, she&#39;s you&#39;re wife?&quot; By several strangers in bars, clubs, outings, the past few years. Here I am with my wedding band on sitting next to my wife who&#39;s not wearing a wedding ring... She had several reasons why she doesn&#39;t wear it... from &quot;We&#39;ve talked about this several times. I was taking it on and off so much it&#39;s just easier to keep it off, I&#39;m a hairdresser!&quot; to &quot;I&#39;m not that kind of person, why do I have to wear a ring to prove I&#39;m faithful&quot; to &quot;I don&#39;t wear jewelry!&quot; to &quot;It&#39;s just a ring, it doesn&#39;t mean we&#39;re not married.&quot; etc etc etc. He realizes it&#39;s strange that he never noticed the lack of ring until now: Now, I have to admit. How big of an idiot am I. TWO YEARS have I not noticed she hasn&#39;t been wearing it. She took it off two years ago when we had a big fight. I knew that. But we reconciled. Or so I thought... I never checked to see if she put it back on. I haven&#39;t taken mine off for the 15 years we&#39;ve been married, &#39;cept once or twice for cleaning or what not - and just now to make a point. I just put my ring next to hers in the jewelry stand. I dunno Reddit. This might be it... He thinks this could be the end of their relationship: She even said &quot;So me not wearing a RING is the hill you want to stand/die on, are you sure?!?!&quot; and I&#39;m over here thinking.... &quot;yuuuuupppp!&quot; Married folks might understand. Marriage is complicated. Husbands have to choose their battles wisely. And this might be one I&#39;m not willing to back down on... So [am I the a-hole] for starting this HUGE fight? Well, the people of the internet are not on his side.User queenoreo makes a solid point: It was so important to you that you didn&rsquo;t even notice for two years? Wearing a ring has nothing to do with being married. Bananapanda123 agrees: My parents have been married for 40 and never even had rings. My mom had a ring from her first husband, wore it every day of the 18 months they were married before he cheated (while wearing his ring). Rings mean nothing. They&rsquo;re jewelry, not some sacred relic. WritPositWrit says: &ldquo;Of course I got furious&rdquo; ... &ldquo;How big of an idiot am I&rdquo; ... well, if you&rsquo;re asking, you&rsquo;re a BIG idiot. This is SUCH a HUGE issue for you that ... you didn&rsquo;t even notice? Don&rsquo;t you want to stop and think, hmm, if you did t notice, maybe it&rsquo;s not a big deal? And also ... your wife has been TELLING you why, but, what? You&rsquo;re just not listening to her? If your marriage fails, it won&rsquo;t be because of a ring, it&rsquo;ll be because you don&rsquo;t listen to each other. They continue: Seems to me that being a hair dresser is a great reason to not wear a ring. She&rsquo;s got her hands in water and hair product and gloves and other peoples hair all day every day. She could (a) lose the ring, and (b) get seriously chapped skin or even an infection from water and product collecting under the ring. Grow up. Be an adult. Your marriage does not hinge on a piece of metal. AppleCinnamonMuffins says there&#39;s no question that this guy sucks: This isn&#39;t a cut and dry situation where one person is the a-hole and the other isn&#39;t. What you need is marriage counseling if you really want to make this work. Did she recently become a hairdresser? Bc not wearing your ring at work is very reasonable, my own parents don&#39;t wear theirs at work yet have been happy married for 20+ years. However if she did take it off 2 years ago over some event and not put it back on it kinda sounds like she&#39;s checked out and is just keeping things together for the kids. Whether or not she decides to put her ring back on is not going to magically fix your relationship though. I wish you the best of luck Legitimate-Papaya-57 understands why he&#39;s upset, but still isn&#39;t on his side: While I realize that it can be hard to reconcile that she doesn&#39;t want to wear a symbol of your marriage, it&#39;s just that, a symbol. It is not your marriage and it does not mean that she&#39;s trying to hide being married to you. She has a good reason that she doesn&#39;t like to wear it - her job just makes it easier to lose a ring having to take it off and put it back on. But even if she didn&#39;t have that reason, the second reason she gives is still completely valid: She does not like to wear jewelry. That&#39;s reason enough to respect the fact that she does not wear it. So there you have it. A ring is no reason to end things.But also, it doesn&#39;t sound like this marriage is going that great anyway... best of luck.

Is a wedding ring a symbol of your relationship &mdash; or is it just a piece of metal?  That&#39;s what one man is wondering after he realized his wife hasn&#39;t been wearing her wedding ring for a whopping two years. He took to Reddit...

Man asks if it's okay to end marriage because his wife hasn't worn her wedding ring for two years.

The man says his wife mentioned that she doesn't wear her ring:

He realized she hadn't been wearing it for years: