Of course you don't have to be best friends with every loved one's significant other — but is one mom taking her preferences too far?
A mom wrote to Reddit asking for advice about this very situation in her own family. She has two sons, they both have girlfriends — and she loves one but detests the other.
I have an 18 year old son and a 20 year old son. They've both been with their current girlfriends for about two years, we'll call them Emma and Nora. I love Nora. She's like the daughter I never had and we go shopping and out to lunch all the time. I probably talk to her on the phone more than my own son. She really is the perfect addition to the family.
Emma annoys me. She isn't a bad person or anything, just irritating. I don't agree with her on almost anything. We have nothing in common. She goes back and forth between being standoffish and wanting approval, and I don't have much patience. She says she wants to come on family outings and then freaks out and whines the entire time (we're much more athletic then her) She comes to family dinner and asks me to make her food separately with no flavoring (no health issue) and she is just a boring, kind of annoying person.