The politics of who pays for a wedding can be complicated enough. One family is making things even more dramatic by distributing wedding funds to their two daughters based on how much they've already given the girls over the course of their young adulthood.
The mom of this family wrote to Reddit asking whether she and her husband are a-holes for doing this.
My husband (59M) and I (61F) have 2 daughters - Ava (33F) & Jen (28F). They both recently got engaged to be married. We love both of their partners and are so happy for them.
Ava moved out at 18 and never asked us for money. She went to college for a semester, but decided it wasn't for her. Though Ava has had severe struggles with her mental health since she was a child, she has been very responsible in taking care of herself. She goes to therapy regularly and takes her meds. She's always had a steady job and great work ethic. Now she works at a prestigious company, making $200k.