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<p>What&#39;s worse than being stuck in quarantine alone? Being stuck with a romantic partner you were <em>thisclose</em> to dumping before.</p><p>A <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/fmku7k/serious_anybody_out_there_quarantined_with_a/">recent Reddit thread asked people</a> to share stories of being on lockdown with a significant other they can&#39;t stand. The answers, which also come from people who are mid-breakup, will make you thankful for your own quarantine situation.</p><h2>1. &quot;The Break-Up&quot;: quarantine edition.</h2><blockquote> <p>Me and my wife separated 3 weeks ago. We were both in the process of finding different places to live but our town is shut down now. Needless to say it&#39;s been awkward and tense for us - a_new_guy_on_reddit</p> </blockquote><h2>2. When work fully stops, the sh*t will hit the fan for this former couple.</h2><blockquote> <p>My ex &amp; I broke up a couple of months ago. Still living together because our lease isn&#39;t up until September &amp; neither of us has the money to break it. It&#39;s going okay, it&#39;s reasonably amicable, but I&#39;m so thankful she is considered an &quot;essential employee&quot; &amp; still working full-time. I&#39;d be going insane if we were stuck in the house together, day in, day out. I&#39;m just praying we don&#39;t actually end up in quarantine. - youhaveonehour</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>3. It&#39;s hard to resist the temptation to phone snoop when it&#39;s the only thing to do in your house...</h2><blockquote> <p>Just yesterday I was working from home while my wife was finishing up her last day at work. Her iPad was dinging like crazy with text messages so I went to put it on do not disturb. As I unlocked it (yes we know each others pins), I saw the long text stating that she doesn&#39;t want to be with me anymore blah blah blah.</p> <p>We had a good long talk when she got home. She is unsure if she actually wants to leave me. She&#39;s staying with her parents for the weekend and we have a counseling session planned for Tuesday to help us figure out if we are going to try to fix the things that are broken in our marriage, or cut our losses and move on.</p> <p>It has been a long and difficult day for me. - sadthrowaway4me</p> </blockquote><h2>4. Figuring out you can&#39;t stand how a guy treats his family, thanks to the quarantine? Blessing in disguise.</h2><blockquote> <p>I have a friend from Northwestern China, a good two hours by plane from Wuhan. While in college, she met a guy and they began dating, and last year they began to talk about getting married. Her boyfriend invited my friend to spend some days with his family before Chinese New Year...in Wuhan. Since she was supposed to be in Wuhan for only a few days, she packed lightly and stayed at her boyfriend&#39;s house. She was scheduled to return home the day after the city was closed off, so she had no other option than to stay with her boyfriend&#39;s family. How difficult can it be? They were already planning to get married by this time next year, so what could go wrong? Oh boy...it turns out her boyfriend had a completely different persona with his family than away from them, and now my friend has seen who he really is and she HATES it. It didn&#39;t last long before she realised she definitely couldn&#39;t marry this guy, but for the time being, she had no other option than stay with him and his family. While my friend had already met his family, and they are very nice to her, she was on the brink of a mental collapse from having to spend her whole day with a guy she now despises. Fortunately for her, she could return home earlier this week.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The issue? He&#39;s abusive:</p><blockquote> <p>From what she&#39;s told me, he apparently presented himself as very family oriented, and that was one of the many reasons she felt attracted to him. But now she&#39;s realised he&#39;s borderline abusive towards his family, specially his mother and sister. - ThePeasantKingM</p> </blockquote><h2>5. Yikes.</h2><blockquote> <p>Separated from my wife and was looking for an apartment this month. We have 2 young kids. Trying to find a place and plan moving has not been going well. It&#39;s .... difficult. We&#39;re civil, but it&#39;s still really awkward. She&#39;s buying my half of the house out. I don&#39;t really want to live here with all the memories. She said she didn&#39;t have feelings for me anymore and didn&#39;t think she ever would again. Not much I could do about that. =/ - am_sorry</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>6. Damn, that&#39;s some timing.</h2><blockquote> <p>A few days before quarantine I found out he was having an affair. He&rsquo;s always been a very difficult person and I decided this was it.</p> <p>I have been in and out of hotels and Airbnb&rsquo;s and travelling between there to our house to see our kid.</p> <p>It certainly adds a complication to everything.</p> <p>He has depression as well and would not be able to get his shit together to leave. In the long term, staying in the house is untenable for both of us, because we can&rsquo;t afford it on our own (he doesn&rsquo;t realize that yet).</p> </blockquote><p>A nightmare:</p><blockquote> <p>Yes, the memories were too painful as well. Especially as I look now and see the odd small thing he bought me on these trips or souvenirs he bought himself.</p> <p>At first we were switching staying in the house and he&rsquo;s such an asshat he was complaining about &ldquo;being out of the house too long,&rdquo; like dude, I will be out of the house for the rest of my life.</p> <p>Also, I&rsquo;m leaving him. I&rsquo;m doubtful he would leave me. Apparently his long term plan was to come clean and work it out so I think he would have pushed for cohabitation and I was afraid of the scene I would make in front of my kid.</p> <p>You&rsquo;re also not in your right mind when this happens, although I&rsquo;m better now, I would cry, have the shakes, thought I would throw up, wasn&rsquo;t sleeping - Liliac100</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>7. Girl, dump him.</h2><blockquote> <p>Basically, during the quarantine my boyfriend dropped a huge bomb on me. He said he didn&rsquo;t know if he could be with someone who isn&rsquo;t a Christian. This obviously broke my heart, but he assures me he still wants to be with me, he just has to soul search, etc. I, however, am not sure I would want things to continue. I&rsquo;ve been keeping it mostly to myself, but he can definitely tell. Sometimes I can&rsquo;t even stand being in the same room with him, it makes me so upset. So it&rsquo;s hell. It&rsquo;s mental hell, for sure. - acting_philosophical</p> </blockquote><h2>8. Virtual hugs to this woman.</h2><blockquote> <p>The anxiety and uncertainty of what&rsquo;s going to happen in society is one thing, but it&rsquo;s taken me YEARS to get up the nerve to leave this alcoholic, verbally and emotionally abusive man...and now that I did, society is shutting down. The added anxiety and uncertainty of when will I ever be free of this person is almost too much. He said to me the other day, &ldquo;I think I should just stay here (we agreed I would keep the house) instead of move out, you know, in case you need my protection&rdquo; and I almost burst into tears from the thought of being trapped with this man and never being able to get away.</p> <p>So for me, it&rsquo;s awful. It&rsquo;s taking everything I have within me to maintain calm and neutral so as to not set him off and maintain peace for the kids. I never realized how lonely I could be until I was cut off from people who actually like and want to be around me and forced to be with someone who doesn&rsquo;t. - coffeerun21</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>9. Hope they&#39;ve got a spare bedroom.</h2><blockquote> <p> I told my husband I wanted a divorce 4 days before the shit hit the fan. I knew I&#39;d have to wait a few weeks to move out but at least before I had a job I could go to, bars to get out of the house, friends I could hang with etc. Now I&#39;m trapped here. I&#39;d say I&#39;m slowly losing my mind, but the truth is it&#39;s happening rather quickly! - bluevioletta</p> </blockquote><h2>10. Being a bystander in this situation might be worse than being in the couple.</h2><blockquote> <p>My roommate broke up with his live in girlfriend like a week ago. I was never particularly fond of her but I dealt with it for him. And now we&rsquo;re all stuck at home and she&rsquo;s doing things just to piss us off. But part of our lease says that everyone living there has to be on it so we can&rsquo;t exactly kick her out. It&rsquo;s awful - Cjustice1</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>11. Someone needs to tell this person&#39;s parents about texting.</h2><blockquote> <p>I am currently quarantined with my parents who parents are in the middle of a divorce (dad decided to get a girlfriend after 27 years of marriage) and they aren&rsquo;t speaking to each other but using me as a go between. It&rsquo;s been the longest week of my life - LeadingAvocado</p> </blockquote><h2>12. Let&#39;s end this on a positive note...</h2><blockquote> <p>We broke up 3 days ago. Good thing we have always been best friends. Right now we have gone through our &quot;if the world ends&quot; plans. I&#39;d say im really thankful we agreed to stay as roomates until we both are financially secure. Now im just quarantined with my best friend who i know has my back and vice versa. - Snacksmcgee07</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

12 people who are quarantined with a romantic partner mid-breakup share what it's like.

What&#39;s worse than being stuck in quarantine alone? Being stuck with a romantic partner you were thisclose to dumping before.A recent Reddit thread asked people to share stories of being on lockdown with a significant other they can&#39;t stand. The answers, which also come from people who are mid-breakup, will make you thankful for your own quarantine situation.1. &quot;The Break-Up&quot;: quarantine edition. Me and my wife separated 3 weeks ago. We were both in the process of finding different places to live but our town is shut down now. Needless to say it&#39;s been awkward and tense for us - a_new_guy_on_reddit 2. When work fully stops, the sh*t will hit the fan for this former couple. My ex &amp; I broke up a couple of months ago. Still living together because our lease isn&#39;t up until September &amp; neither of us has the money to break it. It&#39;s going okay, it&#39;s reasonably amicable, but I&#39;m so thankful she is considered an &quot;essential employee&quot; &amp; still working full-time. I&#39;d be going insane if we were stuck in the house together, day in, day out. I&#39;m just praying we don&#39;t actually end up in quarantine. - youhaveonehour 3. It&#39;s hard to resist the temptation to phone snoop when it&#39;s the only thing to do in your house... Just yesterday I was working from home while my wife was finishing up her last day at work. Her iPad was dinging like crazy with text messages so I went to put it on do not disturb. As I unlocked it (yes we know each others pins), I saw the long text stating that she doesn&#39;t want to be with me anymore blah blah blah. We had a good long talk when she got home. She is unsure if she actually wants to leave me. She&#39;s staying with her parents for the weekend and we have a counseling session planned for Tuesday to help us figure out if we are going to try to fix the things that are broken in our marriage, or cut our losses and move on. It has been a long and difficult day for me. - sadthrowaway4me 4. Figuring out you can&#39;t stand how a guy treats his family, thanks to the quarantine? Blessing in disguise. I have a friend from Northwestern China, a good two hours by plane from Wuhan. While in college, she met a guy and they began dating, and last year they began to talk about getting married. Her boyfriend invited my friend to spend some days with his family before Chinese New Year...in Wuhan. Since she was supposed to be in Wuhan for only a few days, she packed lightly and stayed at her boyfriend&#39;s house. She was scheduled to return home the day after the city was closed off, so she had no other option than to stay with her boyfriend&#39;s family. How difficult can it be? They were already planning to get married by this time next year, so what could go wrong? Oh boy...it turns out her boyfriend had a completely different persona with his family than away from them, and now my friend has seen who he really is and she HATES it. It didn&#39;t last long before she realised she definitely couldn&#39;t marry this guy, but for the time being, she had no other option than stay with him and his family. While my friend had already met his family, and they are very nice to her, she was on the brink of a mental collapse from having to spend her whole day with a guy she now despises. Fortunately for her, she could return home earlier this week. The issue? He&#39;s abusive: From what she&#39;s told me, he apparently presented himself as very family oriented, and that was one of the many reasons she felt attracted to him. But now she&#39;s realised he&#39;s borderline abusive towards his family, specially his mother and sister. - ThePeasantKingM 5. Yikes. Separated from my wife and was looking for an apartment this month. We have 2 young kids. Trying to find a place and plan moving has not been going well. It&#39;s .... difficult. We&#39;re civil, but it&#39;s still really awkward. She&#39;s buying my half of the house out. I don&#39;t really want to live here with all the memories. She said she didn&#39;t have feelings for me anymore and didn&#39;t think she ever would again. Not much I could do about that. =/ - am_sorry 6. Damn, that&#39;s some timing. A few days before quarantine I found out he was having an affair. He&rsquo;s always been a very difficult person and I decided this was it. I have been in and out of hotels and Airbnb&rsquo;s and travelling between there to our house to see our kid. It certainly adds a complication to everything. He has depression as well and would not be able to get his shit together to leave. In the long term, staying in the house is untenable for both of us, because we can&rsquo;t afford it on our own (he doesn&rsquo;t realize that yet). A nightmare: Yes, the memories were too painful as well. Especially as I look now and see the odd small thing he bought me on these trips or souvenirs he bought himself. At first we were switching staying in the house and he&rsquo;s such an asshat he was complaining about &ldquo;being out of the house too long,&rdquo; like dude, I will be out of the house for the rest of my life. Also, I&rsquo;m leaving him. I&rsquo;m doubtful he would leave me. Apparently his long term plan was to come clean and work it out so I think he would have pushed for cohabitation and I was afraid of the scene I would make in front of my kid. You&rsquo;re also not in your right mind when this happens, although I&rsquo;m better now, I would cry, have the shakes, thought I would throw up, wasn&rsquo;t sleeping - Liliac100 7. Girl, dump him. Basically, during the quarantine my boyfriend dropped a huge bomb on me. He said he didn&rsquo;t know if he could be with someone who isn&rsquo;t a Christian. This obviously broke my heart, but he assures me he still wants to be with me, he just has to soul search, etc. I, however, am not sure I would want things to continue. I&rsquo;ve been keeping it mostly to myself, but he can definitely tell. Sometimes I can&rsquo;t even stand being in the same room with him, it makes me so upset. So it&rsquo;s hell. It&rsquo;s mental hell, for sure. - acting_philosophical 8. Virtual hugs to this woman. The anxiety and uncertainty of what&rsquo;s going to happen in society is one thing, but it&rsquo;s taken me YEARS to get up the nerve to leave this alcoholic, verbally and emotionally abusive man...and now that I did, society is shutting down. The added anxiety and uncertainty of when will I ever be free of this person is almost too much. He said to me the other day, &ldquo;I think I should just stay here (we agreed I would keep the house) instead of move out, you know, in case you need my protection&rdquo; and I almost burst into tears from the thought of being trapped with this man and never being able to get away. So for me, it&rsquo;s awful. It&rsquo;s taking everything I have within me to maintain calm and neutral so as to not set him off and maintain peace for the kids. I never realized how lonely I could be until I was cut off from people who actually like and want to be around me and forced to be with someone who doesn&rsquo;t. - coffeerun21 9. Hope they&#39;ve got a spare bedroom.  I told my husband I wanted a divorce 4 days before the shit hit the fan. I knew I&#39;d have to wait a few weeks to move out but at least before I had a job I could go to, bars to get out of the house, friends I could hang with etc. Now I&#39;m trapped here. I&#39;d say I&#39;m slowly losing my mind, but the truth is it&#39;s happening rather quickly! - bluevioletta 10. Being a bystander in this situation might be worse than being in the couple. My roommate broke up with his live in girlfriend like a week ago. I was never particularly fond of her but I dealt with it for him. And now we&rsquo;re all stuck at home and she&rsquo;s doing things just to piss us off. But part of our lease says that everyone living there has to be on it so we can&rsquo;t exactly kick her out. It&rsquo;s awful - Cjustice1 11. Someone needs to tell this person&#39;s parents about texting. I am currently quarantined with my parents who parents are in the middle of a divorce (dad decided to get a girlfriend after 27 years of marriage) and they aren&rsquo;t speaking to each other but using me as a go between. It&rsquo;s been the longest week of my life - LeadingAvocado 12. Let&#39;s end this on a positive note... We broke up 3 days ago. Good thing we have always been best friends. Right now we have gone through our &quot;if the world ends&quot; plans. I&#39;d say im really thankful we agreed to stay as roomates until we both are financially secure. Now im just quarantined with my best friend who i know has my back and vice versa. - Snacksmcgee07 

What&#39;s worse than being stuck in quarantine alone? Being stuck with a romantic partner you were thisclose to dumping before.  A recent Reddit thread asked people to share stories of being on lockdown with a significant other they...