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<p>It&#39;s hard to know who you can trust &mdash; especially when it turns out one of your loved ones has been manipulating or lying to you.</p><p>A<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l4q81z/serious_when_did_you_realise_you_were_being/"> recent Reddit thread</a> asked, &quot;When did you realize you were being manipulated by someone you trusted?&quot; The answers prove that it&#39;s never too late to realize someone in your life is actually harming you.</p><h2>1. This is a huge red flag.</h2><blockquote> <p>I noticed that every time I brought up something that bothered me in the relationship, I somehow ended up apologizing for something. - koluchulea</p> </blockquote><h2>2. Sounds like this friendship needed to end.</h2><blockquote> <p>When I started realizing that I was feeling like I was constantly walking on eggshells. I never knew which version of my friend I&rsquo;d get when we saw each other, or when we hung out. I also just completely stopped disagreeing with them because I didn&rsquo;t want to hear them tell me how wrong I was if we didn&rsquo;t share the same viewpoint. - WhatArcherWhat</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>3. It hurts to learn you&#39;re being used.</h2><blockquote> <p>My best friend suddenly distanced herself from me. But every now and then she&rsquo;d call and ask if I wanted to do something, and I was encouraged because I thought it meant that things were still good between us. It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that she only called when she wanted to do something that required a ride, since she didn&rsquo;t have a car. The only thing I can say in my defense is that I don&rsquo;t use people that way so I didn&rsquo;t recognize user behavior. You can bet I do now. - Goldeverywhere</p> </blockquote><h2>4. This is way too common.</h2><blockquote> <p>When your parents get a divorce, it&#39;s rare for both parents to take the high road and not twist the narrative to get the kid(s) on their side. Having one or more parent talk shit about the other through their kids is pure manipulation. - MyHeadIsaBlender</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>5. Guilt-tripping is no good.</h2><blockquote> <p>My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. She&rsquo;s always encouraged me to tell her what&rsquo;s wrong, however, any time I would she&rsquo;d immediately go &ldquo;sorry I&rsquo;m such a terrible mother, I give you everything you want and it&rsquo;s still not good enough! Why don&rsquo;t you just go live with someone you don&rsquo;t hate?&rdquo; Keep in mind this happens over small things such as &ldquo;mom, I&rsquo;d appreciate it if you&rsquo;d knock before coming into my room. You know how easily I startle and you barging into my room really upsets me&rdquo; - paytonc0510</p> </blockquote><h2>6. People who try to separate you from your friends are not to be trusted.</h2><blockquote> <p>She always managed to make me do things I didn&#39;t really want to do but the last straw was when she decided I had to stop being friends with two mates of mine over something stupid that offended her. Cut her off over that and she then proceeded to act derisively (&quot;you&#39;ll come back&quot;), then badmouthed me and then begged me to take her back. Ten years later I am still friends with those two guys and she&#39;s still out of my life. - FatherTedHackett</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>7. Perpetual victims are impossible to deal wit.</h2><blockquote> <p>They played victim every argument, caught them in lies all the time, talked behind my back, tried to make me feel the same way they did about everything, stole from me, ghosted me every so often, and hearing the same thing about them from other people. - bigjohn1213</p> </blockquote><h2>8. This must have been intense.</h2><blockquote> <p>I don&#39;t think I even fully realized it was manipulation yet per se, but I remember looking up the definition of an anxiety attack on a whim, only to find it painfully relatable, and recognized I was having anxiety attacks every time that specific person even interacted with me.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I asked some other friends for advice...and then when my manipulator learned I was talking to other people they got nasty with me about it and called it one-sided. Yeah, I started recognizing the problem around then. - Jovian12</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>9. This must have been mind-blowing.</h2><blockquote> <p>After 16 years of marriage I realized my now ex was manipulating me. I would work and take care of the house and if I asked him to do something like get a job or clean up he would stage a mental breakdown and make me feel bad for asking him for help. He would play up a horrible childhood or PTSD from the military to make me feel like I need to take care of him. Then would play on his computer all day and smoke weed while I worked.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Found out that a lot of his horrible childhood stories were made up and that he never made it through basic training in the military. I am happily with someone now but still catch myself cringing when he does things like cook or clean thinking that he is going to yell at me for being lazy. Meanwhile he loves me and is just doing things to take care of me. I&#39;m working on deprogramming myself. - HolyCelestialCow</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>10. It&#39;s sad to realize one parent&#39;s been defaming the other.</h2><blockquote> <p>When I first started spending weekends with my Dad I realized my Mom was manipulating not only me but also her entire side of my family and my stepdads saying he was an alcoholic abusive dead beat. Where in reality he was an amazing person to be around, let&rsquo;s say that a good portion of the family started cutting contact with her - Thatonegoodguywithasteak</p> </blockquote><h2>11. This is sad.</h2><blockquote> <p>When I was 27 I started taking my anxiety and depression seriously and began seeing a therapist. It wasn&#39;t until then that I realized, looking back all these years, that so many people had been manipulating me and/or taking advantage of me, and I just had neither the self esteem nor the mental clarity to see it. - FattyESQ</p> </blockquote><h2>12. That&#39;s messed up.</h2><blockquote> <p>When I checked my bank account and my house deposit was significantly diminished by now exhusband.</p> <p>Then the large transactions using my account at cafes and restaurants was kind of a sign something was up.</p> <p>Money is just money. His loss. - Nikkinicole57</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>13. This must have been a lot to handle.</h2><blockquote> <p>My mother always encouraged me to think for myself, to ask questions, to be curious. Then when I was in 6th grade she brought me to church, and every answer was &quot;because this book says so&quot;, which was further confounded by &quot;but not this part, or this part, and you&#39;re reading this part wrong.&quot; It confused me, and I wasn&#39;t old or strong enough to know how to handle it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Then I caught her making out with another woman, after she told me that gay people go to hell. It was late into high school before I realized just how much of what she said and did was to further her own deluded agenda, often at my expense. - ArithmagicLogicUnit</p> </blockquote><h2>14. Yikes.</h2><blockquote> <p>Whenever I tried to express my feelings and point of view in my romantic relationship, that would differs from my girlfriend&#39;s. She would start sending me messages such as &quot;I&#39;m starting to cry.&quot; &quot;I feel sad you&#39;re thinking this&quot;. And I would just stop saying whatever mattered to me... - BubbleOfImaginary</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

14 people share how they realized someone they trust was manipulating them.

It&#39;s hard to know who you can trust &mdash; especially when it turns out one of your loved ones has been manipulating or lying to you.A recent Reddit thread asked, &quot;When did you realize you were being manipulated by someone you trusted?&quot; The answers prove that it&#39;s never too late to realize someone in your life is actually harming you.1. This is a huge red flag. I noticed that every time I brought up something that bothered me in the relationship, I somehow ended up apologizing for something. - koluchulea 2. Sounds like this friendship needed to end. When I started realizing that I was feeling like I was constantly walking on eggshells. I never knew which version of my friend I&rsquo;d get when we saw each other, or when we hung out. I also just completely stopped disagreeing with them because I didn&rsquo;t want to hear them tell me how wrong I was if we didn&rsquo;t share the same viewpoint. - WhatArcherWhat 3. It hurts to learn you&#39;re being used. My best friend suddenly distanced herself from me. But every now and then she&rsquo;d call and ask if I wanted to do something, and I was encouraged because I thought it meant that things were still good between us. It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that she only called when she wanted to do something that required a ride, since she didn&rsquo;t have a car. The only thing I can say in my defense is that I don&rsquo;t use people that way so I didn&rsquo;t recognize user behavior. You can bet I do now. - Goldeverywhere 4. This is way too common. When your parents get a divorce, it&#39;s rare for both parents to take the high road and not twist the narrative to get the kid(s) on their side. Having one or more parent talk shit about the other through their kids is pure manipulation. - MyHeadIsaBlender 5. Guilt-tripping is no good. My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. She&rsquo;s always encouraged me to tell her what&rsquo;s wrong, however, any time I would she&rsquo;d immediately go &ldquo;sorry I&rsquo;m such a terrible mother, I give you everything you want and it&rsquo;s still not good enough! Why don&rsquo;t you just go live with someone you don&rsquo;t hate?&rdquo; Keep in mind this happens over small things such as &ldquo;mom, I&rsquo;d appreciate it if you&rsquo;d knock before coming into my room. You know how easily I startle and you barging into my room really upsets me&rdquo; - paytonc0510 6. People who try to separate you from your friends are not to be trusted. She always managed to make me do things I didn&#39;t really want to do but the last straw was when she decided I had to stop being friends with two mates of mine over something stupid that offended her. Cut her off over that and she then proceeded to act derisively (&quot;you&#39;ll come back&quot;), then badmouthed me and then begged me to take her back. Ten years later I am still friends with those two guys and she&#39;s still out of my life. - FatherTedHackett 7. Perpetual victims are impossible to deal wit. They played victim every argument, caught them in lies all the time, talked behind my back, tried to make me feel the same way they did about everything, stole from me, ghosted me every so often, and hearing the same thing about them from other people. - bigjohn1213 8. This must have been intense. I don&#39;t think I even fully realized it was manipulation yet per se, but I remember looking up the definition of an anxiety attack on a whim, only to find it painfully relatable, and recognized I was having anxiety attacks every time that specific person even interacted with me.   I asked some other friends for advice...and then when my manipulator learned I was talking to other people they got nasty with me about it and called it one-sided. Yeah, I started recognizing the problem around then. - Jovian12 9. This must have been mind-blowing. After 16 years of marriage I realized my now ex was manipulating me. I would work and take care of the house and if I asked him to do something like get a job or clean up he would stage a mental breakdown and make me feel bad for asking him for help. He would play up a horrible childhood or PTSD from the military to make me feel like I need to take care of him. Then would play on his computer all day and smoke weed while I worked.   Found out that a lot of his horrible childhood stories were made up and that he never made it through basic training in the military. I am happily with someone now but still catch myself cringing when he does things like cook or clean thinking that he is going to yell at me for being lazy. Meanwhile he loves me and is just doing things to take care of me. I&#39;m working on deprogramming myself. - HolyCelestialCow 10. It&#39;s sad to realize one parent&#39;s been defaming the other. When I first started spending weekends with my Dad I realized my Mom was manipulating not only me but also her entire side of my family and my stepdads saying he was an alcoholic abusive dead beat. Where in reality he was an amazing person to be around, let&rsquo;s say that a good portion of the family started cutting contact with her - Thatonegoodguywithasteak 11. This is sad. When I was 27 I started taking my anxiety and depression seriously and began seeing a therapist. It wasn&#39;t until then that I realized, looking back all these years, that so many people had been manipulating me and/or taking advantage of me, and I just had neither the self esteem nor the mental clarity to see it. - FattyESQ 12. That&#39;s messed up. When I checked my bank account and my house deposit was significantly diminished by now exhusband. Then the large transactions using my account at cafes and restaurants was kind of a sign something was up. Money is just money. His loss. - Nikkinicole57 13. This must have been a lot to handle. My mother always encouraged me to think for myself, to ask questions, to be curious. Then when I was in 6th grade she brought me to church, and every answer was &quot;because this book says so&quot;, which was further confounded by &quot;but not this part, or this part, and you&#39;re reading this part wrong.&quot; It confused me, and I wasn&#39;t old or strong enough to know how to handle it.   Then I caught her making out with another woman, after she told me that gay people go to hell. It was late into high school before I realized just how much of what she said and did was to further her own deluded agenda, often at my expense. - ArithmagicLogicUnit 14. Yikes. Whenever I tried to express my feelings and point of view in my romantic relationship, that would differs from my girlfriend&#39;s. She would start sending me messages such as &quot;I&#39;m starting to cry.&quot; &quot;I feel sad you&#39;re thinking this&quot;. And I would just stop saying whatever mattered to me... - BubbleOfImaginary 

It&#39;s hard to know who you can trust &mdash; especially when it turns out one of your loved ones has been manipulating or lying to you.  A recent Reddit thread asked, &quot;When did you realize you were being manipulated by someone you...